Saying No to Dating a Bi Guy ?

[altlover85]

Yeah but it's easier to put up with coming from gay men because at least you can relate on the fact that youll both end up in same sex relationships. With bi guys like jasoncrew03, you know that yourself and every other man will only be a plaything to him while he looks for the perfect woman.

Did he say he wanted to get into a relationship with a man? I don't think so. I could be wrong. He said he wanted to have sex with men. There's a difference. If you have sex with a guy and you know it's NSA then who cares if they aren't emotionally attracted to you?

 

[blackbeltninja]

I know. Just dont go calling me bigoted because i wont put up with it in my relationships (or my lays). I like to know where i stand emotionally and sexually with a man.

Yeah but it's easier to put up with coming from gay men because at least you can relate on the fact that youll both end up in same sex relationships. With bi guys like jasoncrew03, you know that yourself and every other man will only be a plaything to him while he looks for the perfect woman.

To sum up: a gay guy can do whatever he wants with you; but you are terribly anti being used similarly by a bi guy. So basically, you think you're better than us.

That, my friend, is a classic definition of bigotry in all its guises - racism, sexism, the lot.

-d-

 

[Purplebic]

Did he say he wanted to get into a relationship with a man? I don't think so. I could be wrong. He said he wanted to have sex with men. There's a difference. If you have sex with a guy and you know it's NSA then who cares if they aren't emotionally attracted to you?

Being used by gay guys aint' the same as being used by someone who admits to wanting the straight life as far as datings' concerned. I can't relate to the latter.

To sum up: a gay guy can do whatever he wants with you; but you are terribly anti being used similarly by a bi guy. So basically, you think you're better than us.

That, my friend, is a classic definition of bigotry in all its guises - racism, sexism, the lot.

-d-

Better in the sense that i keep my options open with guys. The first night might be a hookup yes, but if the chemistry's right and were both willing, at least i know it could go further than just sex. I wouldn't fuck around with someone whom i don't stand a chance with at all, cuz i wouldn't risk actually liking the guy.

You completely failed that test. And without a clue as to how. I'm amazed.

Oh please, i love my hairdressing friends, and ive dated a few fems, but they're absolutely terrible at keeping secrets, in fact the more sensitive the information, the quicker they spread it around. Half of what goes on in a salon is hair, the other half is gossip.

You gotta stop living in a fantasy world where people are not what they appear to be. I give most people a chance but i also know my first instincts on a person are usually right, and the more people deny certain things, the more im inclined to believe the opposite.

 

[jasoncrew03]

With bi guys like jasoncrew03, you know that yourself and every other man will only be a plaything to him while he looks for the perfect woman.

Being used by gay guys aint' the same as being used by someone who admits to wanting the straight life as far as datings' concerned. I can't relate to the latter.

-.-

No. They're exactly the same. Both are "using" the other for pure sexual gratification. And as I previously stated, the men I hook up with are fully aware it's just sex. They're "using" me every bit as much as I am "using" them. And the term "plaything" suggests I don't give a fuck about them or how they feel, that's not true. I don't intentionally hurt the people I hook up with (I've never had an experience like any of those you've described, and I've hooked up with A LOT of men), would I feel bad if they got their feelings hurt? Of course, I AM human. But it's not my fault if they do (neither is it theirs) because we both go into it knowing no relationship is going to come out of it, if they can't handle that then it doesn't happen because I don't want to hurt their feelings.

 

[fetaby]

They're "using" me every bit as much as I am "using" them.

That's hawt.

 

[altlover85]

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But it's not my fault if they do (neither is it theirs) because we both go into it knowing no relationship is going to come out of it, if they can't handle that then it doesn't happen because I don't want to hurt their feelings.

My thoughts exactly!

 

[jasoncrew03]

That's hawt.

 

[Purplebic]

-.-

No. They're exactly the same.

For you yes, me no. I wouldn't demean myself by sleeping with a guy who'd rather date women.

 

[jasoncrew03]

^Why do you keep doing that!? MY DATING OF WOMEN HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH PREFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is just the only gender I am emotionally attracted to.

 

[Purplebic]

^Why do you keep doing that!? MY DATING OF WOMEN HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH PREFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is just the only gender I am emotionally attracted to.

Word it however you like. I am gay, out and proud, and i only date and fuck guys who are gay, out and proud. It is the only gender and orientation i am emotionally and physically attracted to

 

[Purplebic]

Ok, that's it.

LOL perhaps im just trying to demonstrate that the same logic they use to justify their preferences can be used to justify mine. The only difference is my preferences are somehow discriminatory and theirs aren't, same logic though...

 

[altlover85]

Word it however you like. I am gay, out and proud, and i only date and fuck guys who are gay, out and proud. It is the only gender and orientation i am emotionally and physically attracted to

I just want to make sure I'm understanding you.

You only date guys who are out and proud.

You only fuck guys who are out and proud. Every hookup you ever had was with a guy that was out and proud, correct?

 

[Purplebic]

I just want to make sure I'm understanding you.

You only date guys who are out and proud.

You only fuck guys who are out and proud. Every hookup you ever had was with a guy that was out and proud, correct?

with 99% certainty, yes.

 

[Purplebic]

But you're holding them ALL to the same logic - which is discriminatory.
Not him. Not those like him. But ALL of them.

And at least he's honest - i've met many GAY men that weren't - one is in jail for his "preference". Figure it out.

This discussion was pointless at least 6 pages ago - no one (and i speak of the scorned subjects) is listening, learning, or showcasing an ability to change or at the LEAST, reason. So, we get it. You won't date/fuck a guy that isn't OUT and now, you're saying he has to be GAY too(although there is a such thing as an out BI guy). The horse is nearly stripped to the bone now.

You get it perhaps, but so long as people are replying to me then i guess they want to carry it on. Alternatively the mods can just close this thread, i dont care either way.

 

[altlover85]

with 99% certainty, yes.

So you've never had any anonymous hookups then?

 

[jasoncrew03]

Word it however you like. I am gay, out and proud, and i only date and fuck guys who are gay, out and proud. It is the only gender and orientation i am emotionally and physically attracted to

Ok, I get that. I don't think it's true but I get it nonetheless.

 

[Purplebic]

So you've never had any anonymous hookups then?

No. Do i look like a pizza delivery? I prefer my guys to be at least somewhat social.

Ok, I get that. I don't think it's true but I get it nonetheless.

Well i think youre "i can fuck men but only date women" version of bisexuality is bullshit too, though we'll have to agree to disagree.

 

[altlover85]

No. Do i look like a pizza delivery? I prefer my guys to be at least somewhat social.

I still doubt your 99% statistic, but I don't feel like questioning you forever.

 

[Purplebic]

I still doubt your 99% statistic, but I don't feel like questioning you forever.

Well its quite simple really. I just don't show up at a random guy's house, you have no clue what you could be getting yourself into. I met them somewhere public, have a few beers, or a coffee, and take it from there. So obviously i get to know them a tiny little bit. Otherwise i meet guys through friends and they give me the heads up on him.

 

[Jersey Domino]

Stop The Fighting!!!!