Saying No to Dating a Bi Guy ?

[G-Lexington]

I don't see any problem with it. You can draw any lines you want to on who you date. If you don't want to date bi-guys, guys with dicks smaller than 10-inches, or guys whose names start with a vowel, that's your call. Just say "I'm sorry - the last two bi guys I dated dumped me for a girl. And that's made me too scared to date another bi guy right now."

Lex

 

[jasoncrew03]

But sheesh, aren't you the guy the OP is talking about? Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I swore you said something to the effect of not being able to be attracted emotionally to guys not too long ago.

Yes, but I'm just part of a small minority that most gays choose to inflate to an exorbitant degree in order to confirm their bigoted and largely false conceptions fueled by insecurity and/or selective events people choose to remember. They just want to make someone feel the same way straights have made them feel and unfortunately we're that outlet.

At least, we gay guys know what we want/ or what we're after

I fucking hate these idiotic statements. Here's some knowledge for future use: BISEXUALS KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WE JUST WANT BOTH! Get over it.

 

[blackbeltninja]

but more about them not even knowing what they wanted or how they wanted it.

I think a lot of us know what we want.

I also think a lot of us let you guys down easy when things don't work out - I mean, we all know what "it's not you; it's me" actually means, right?

Right.

I didn't like being used for experimentation.

Thing is, unless every person you've ever dated has ended up marrying you and that marriage was subsequently ended by the death of your spouse, every relationship is experimentation in the end.

-d-

 

[blackbeltninja]

Well, it's great that you know what you want...but some of the guys I came in contact with did not.

And I don't know where those other snide remarks are coming from. You don't know anything about how things went down outside of what I said already. Hell, for all you know I'm the one who dropped their ass.

No, hang on - this comment wasn't aimed at you specifically Simply an observation - people use all manner of excuses/reasons when they end a relationship. It wouldn't surprise me AT ALL if many bi guys used the "normal relationship" one simply because there is no real comeback and it gives you a clean break.

But it also wouldn't surprise me if they said "it's not you, it's me."

lol...okay, you're more than welcome to take my words and play around with them. But you know what I meant. It's not at all uncommon.

It isn't uncommon, I suppose. But if you distil it down to its essence - something you gay guys never do when it comes to us bi guys - I'd guess most of us here in JUB have slept with people we have no intention of dating or being in an LTR with. Can anyone in here honestly say that they didn't? And if not, why should a gay guy think he's better than me because I do that with both genders when he only does it with one?

For some reason, it doesn't bug gay guys if we sleep with women and then dump them to be with a guy, but it is a huge cadenza if it's the other way around. At the end of the day, if you overlook the gender our behaviour is comparable to yours. So if it's an issue when we do it, well, it's an issue when you do it, too.

-d-

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I would say that getting involved with anyone risks the possiblity of getting left. Bi or gay, I think it really depends on the person behind the label.

 

[jasoncrew03]

Or is it that a lot of bi-guys are actually gays in denial?

I HATE those people!

 

[G-Lexington]

I've noticed that when a bi guy settles down with a guy, it's because "he was gay all along and too chickenshit to admit it."

And when he settles down with a girl, it's because "he only uses guys for sex, and now he's settling down into 'normalcy' because he's scared."

And when he doesn't settle down, it's because "bisexuals are incapable of settling down".

Lex

 

[jasoncrew03]

^Way to completely ignore the rest of the post that actually had some decent support against your bigotry. And:

For what it's worth, here's what one JUBber recenty said about it all:

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Originally Posted by jasoncrew03
I don't really have a whole lot of emotional attraction to men.... but when I really think about it I don't really have any for anyone for that matter. So it might be a girl but who knows what my brain's gonna be like in 15 years.
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At least use it right if you're gonna be a big enough bitch to actually do it. It doesn't even fit in in that post. And you might learn something about me if you actually read the bolded part. But of course, you just took the part that benefits you the most and ignored the rest of what I said...... See ya later, Rush.

 

[SLCBiGuy]

See and this is why I think twice before interacting with gay men and this thread reminds me why... you guys can be some narrow-minded bitches sometimes - especially toward bisexual people. Its sad when the straight community is more accepting than those WITHIN the GLBT community.

I apologize that some of you have had bad experiences dating bi people but if everyone had the same mindset as you guys (have one or two bad experiences and write off a whole group of people) we would have a very narrow-minded world.

 

[fetaby]

So what's all this drivel about hatred and bigotry?

If you don't trust them, fine. Why would you care if you are being called hateful by them?

Treating another as unequal and incapable for an aspect of their being they have no control over is bigotry. You would think a gay man could understand that.

 

[MercuryJones]

I can hardly imagine dating again at this point in life, but if I were to do so I'd probably not opt for a bisexual.

 

[fetaby]

Their misconception about my supposed bigotry is just as egregious as mine is supposed to be.

I can honestly look in your eyes and say I really don't hate bisexuals...it's just that I don't trust them

Serious? You're saying that you don't like when they call you out as a bigot because you know how hurtful the bigotry you use against them is?

What I'm tired of is the misplaced focus.

 

[Rex]

Here we go again. Can we merge all these "should I date a bi?" or "bi guys suck" threads?

 

[XLeatherX]

I've had gay men who I was in what was supposed to be a monogamous relationship with cheat on me more times than I can count. Yet I do not hate on gay men.

As for as bisexual men using other men for sex, do you realize how many gay men do this to other gay men?

My partner is a bisexual man and we've been together for 20 years. Our relationship is monogamous and we are faithful to each other. Yes you can have relationships with bisexual men and it will work.

My partner is out as bisexual to my family and his family and everyone is supportive of us

 

[XLeatherX]

I've noticed that when a bi guy settles down with a guy, it's because "he was gay all along and too chickenshit to admit it."

And when he settles down with a girl, it's because "he only uses guys for sex, and now he's settling down into 'normalcy' because he's scared."

And when he doesn't settle down, it's because "bisexuals are incapable of settling down".

Lex

I hope you're being sarcastic and just pointing out very bad stereotypes.

My bisexual male partner settled down with me because he loves me. Not because he's somehow a closeted gay man.

It's possible to be bisexual but more into men for sex and romance.

My partner was married to a woman when he was younger. He dated men and women when he was single.

None of this bothers me since we all have our pasts and he's with me now.

 

[T-Rexx]

I agree with Jasun.

You're crazy if you attempt a relationship with a "bi".

You'lll get left behind every time for some woman. Every time.

 

[Purplebic]

I get dicked around enough by gay guys without adding to my troubles by settling on someone who can't decide between sausage or sushi.

Besides, who wants to suck dick thats been in a women's unmentionable?

 

[XLeatherX]

I get dicked around enough by gay guys without adding to my troubles by settling on someone who can't decide between sausage or sushi.

Besides, who wants to suck dick thats been in a women's unmentionable?

Does this mean that you don't have sex with gay men who were once married to women? Or who once had sex with women even if it was a few times or just once? Do you straight up ask the gay men who you get with if they've ever had sex with a woman? Or do you make them fill out a questionnaire before you have sex the first time?

When I was younger I did have sex with women and it just confirmed that I'm gay.

 

[XLeatherX]

I agree with Jasun.

You're crazy if you attempt a relationship with a "bi".

You'lll get left behind every time for some woman. Every time.

Riiiiiiiight.

I showed my bisexual husband your post. He laughed at what you wrote and told me I should ignore close minded bigots online.

We're monogamous and have been together for 20 years.

 

[Purplebic]

Does this mean that you don't have sex with gay men who were once married to women? Or who once had sex with women even if it was a few times or just once?

When I was younger I did have sex with women and it just confirmed that I'm gay.

I know of very few gold star gays. But if you fucked a girl last week, sorry, but no. Come back to me when youve taken at least a few dozen showers and scrubbed real hard.