Sexual Harassment from Women

[Lostlover]

Has anyone had to deal with this? Specifically on the job?

One co-worker, in her 20's, touched my slacks and said, "I like your pants. They look like jeans," and then started to feel them. That's completely crossing the line. And this same woman talks about her "honey" all the time.

I've had a lady at the gym touch my shirt when being really friendly. I wasn't winking at her. I was just being nice. She can't be that horny to mix up small talk with me being interested in her.

I felt so violated when the lady touched my pants today. I'm going to have to remind her of her "honey" from now on if she pulls this stunt again.

 

[star-warrior]

What were your slacks made of, and would you like it if a very handsome just your type of guy do the same even if he had some hiney he keeps talking about?

 

[refujiunderground]

good topic.

it's crazy how so many women think it's okay to touch men inappropriately and give them unwanted sexual advances because they think guys want it. if a guy does the same thing to them, let alone steps up to them to say "hello" or have a conversation with them, they're ready to press charges. hell, even watching this video of this male stripper last night. he was performing in front of all these women, most of them were drunk, and they were just abusing him. once he took off his pants, there was a second where a woman wasn't trying to grab his ass or his dick. dude had to cut his set short because they probably would have raped his ass. let that be a female stripper though. you already know that you can't touch them in the strip club even if they're the ones that are trying to touch you in places they know they're not supposed to be touching.

 

[Lostlover]

What were your slacks made of, and would you like it if a very handsome just your type of guy do the same even if he had some hiney he keeps talking about?

Cotton but with a certain print that doesn't even look like jeans, at least to me.

I'd think the cute guy was creepy for touching me especially if he talked about having a boyfriend in the past.

 

[star-warrior]

I too think she crossed the line. If she can't respect your personal space, she's has no respect at all. The reason I asked part 2 is the same. Personal space I think is important.

 

[Lostlover]

I too think she crossed the line. If she can't respect your personal space, she's has no respect at all. The reason I asked part 2 is the same. Personal space I think is important.

I seriously think she might be schizo. How can you bring your "honey" in every conversation and then feel another guy's thighs?

 

[MisterMajestic]

You can't claim it's Sexual harrassment if she doesnt see it as Sexual harrassment...you have to first tell her you don't like that she touched you...

you havent done anything but let it go....Both parties have to be on the same page...

 

[Lostlover]

You can't claim it's Sexual harrassment if she doesnt see it as Sexual harrassment...you have to first tell her you don't like that she touched you...

you havent done anything but let it go....Both parties have to be on the same page...

There are widely accepted no-go areas of touching people. She crossed that when she touched my thigh. If I grabbed her breasts or even rubbed against them like she did but with my fingers, anyone who would have seen it would not have a favorable impression of me.

 

[maxpowr9]

LMAO. I had a former supervisor say: "you remind me of my husband when he was younger." That was clearly an unwarranted reaction. I mean there is some stuff I do with coworkers that is definitely sexual harassment but it is mutual and we are all okay with it.

Let's be real, you actually liked it when she rubbed your thigh.

 

[bankside]

I would feel uncomfortable if it was my upper thigh. But closer to the knee would not even register as weird, never mind sexual harassment.

 

[Telstra]

Has anyone had to deal with this? Specifically on the job?

One co-worker, in her 20's, touched my slacks and said, "I like your pants. They look like jeans," and then started to feel them. That's completely crossing the line. And this same woman talks about her "honey" all the time.

I've had a lady at the gym touch my shirt when being really friendly. I wasn't winking at her. I was just being nice. She can't be that horny to mix up small talk with me being interested in her.

I felt so violated when the lady touched my pants today. I'm going to have to remind her of her "honey" from now on if she pulls this stunt again.

Stop being so sensitive. Just have abit of harmless fun won't hurt.
She or they won't going to rape you, you know.

 

[jasoncrew03]

I'm not really bothered by physical contact. A lot of very small things seem to bother you to a pretty serious extent, maybe you should talk to someone about that.

 

[jasoncrew03]

So what you're saying is that the OP should walk up to this woman, run his hands over her breasts and then tell her he likes her top... And that'd be perfectly fine to you?

This double-standard bullshit just pisses me off more and more as time goes on.

 

[jasoncrew03]

Saying that someone almost grabbing your junk is a "very small thing" when it happens to a man is a double standard, because if it happened to a woman there would [strike]probably[/strike] definitely be a lawsuit.

She didn't almost touch his junk, she touched his thigh. And I didn't say anything that would contribute to the idea of a double-standard, I just said I didn't mind physical contact. What you bolded referred the fact that he frequently posts threads wherein he is seemingly seriously unsettled by, what should be, rather inconsequential occurrences to him like mormons, affirmative action, telemarketers, people who smoke under trees, and being called "honey."

 

[jasoncrew03]

I don't really want to know where you live if on your planet a guy's penis isn't near his thigh.

He didn't mention that her hand had been especially close to his penis at all, if he had I would have agreed it was inappropriate. Depending on how tall he is, she could have been nowhere near his penis (in the context of the size of the human body). I get that you're against double standards and whatnot but you're stretching this a little far. If he was bothered by it so much he should have informed her and the proper authorities of it as such so if she repeated the incident a sexual harassment complaint could be lodged. In the OPs own word (from another thread) "be a man, shake it off."

And if a man did this to a woman? You can't deny that there's a double standard at work here.

Sure, but you should also take into account that the type of guy who's interested in the fabric of a female coworkers clothing is very rarely the guy who has any interest in doing anything with her pertaining to the word "sexually" at all.

 

[pat grimshaw]

I admit it. I get my knowledge of US law by watching Judge Judy but I thought any unwanted touching by anybody was no longer permissable in the US.

 

[nafhoosier]

Has anyone had to deal with this? Specifically on the job?

One co-worker, in her 20's, touched my slacks and said, "I like your pants. They look like jeans," and then started to feel them. That's completely crossing the line. And this same woman talks about her "honey" all the time.

I've had a lady at the gym touch my shirt when being really friendly. I wasn't winking at her. I was just being nice. She can't be that horny to mix up small talk with me being interested in her.

I felt so violated when the lady touched my pants today. I'm going to have to remind her of her "honey" from now on if she pulls this stunt again.

Oh freakin' grow a pair.

What's the big deal? She touched your pants. She thought they were cool. AND she gave you a compliment. And you feel violated?!

Both women were just being playful. They weren't touching your cock and grabbing it. Or patting your ass and squeezing it (and even then, I would just laugh it off, granted she wasn't trying to hurt me. Ouch!)

No offense. Dumb topic.

 

[Mr-Brooding]

Although we'd like to think everyone has the same perspective, they don't. A reasonable amount of personal space for some is completely different for others. I once had a teacher who was from another country and she would speak incredibly close to my face. I would step back, she'd move forward. I felt intruded. I could feel her breath! lol.


It's best to let people know how you're feeling, I guess. I do this via body language, so I do not directly offend anyone. I know that I HATE being touched for the most part and feel invaded a lot. I try to keep physical contact to a minimum with people I do not know casually, so that they don't feel invaded either.

 

[Lostlover]

I would feel uncomfortable if it was my upper thigh. But closer to the knee would not even register as weird, never mind sexual harassment.

It was mid-thigh. If her fingers would have wandered over 5 inches to the right, she would have had her hand in my crotch.

 

[Lostlover]

Okay, so say he ran his hand across her thigh. Would that still be acceptable workplace behaviour?

It really isn't even that difficult. I think there's a little bit of an anti-male bent with a lot of gay men. Unwanted touching is never appropriate but because a woman did it, it can't be that bad. *roll eyes* And I should have just shrugged it off, cause well, she didn't touch my dick.

I've been here 6 years and I still can't get over some of the responses. It's not just a difference of opinion, it's just silliness.