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sexuality in college

My suggestion is try with a girl first. Maybe you can ask your friends to fix you up with a nice girl, or you can find one yourself. I just think it would be easier for you in life if you consider the more socially accepted route which is heterosexual relationship first. If that doesn't work or something is off...then try the gay/bi thing :)
 
>>>Maybe you can ask your friends to fix you up with a nice girl...

Depends on what you mean by "nice". Back in the day, "nice" meant somebody who wouldn't have sex until you were boyfriend/girlfriend. You don't want somebody like that.

Lex
 
thats what i'm trying to do, hook up with a girl. but being the conservative person i am, im not looking to fuck and go, i actually want to get to know the person and possibly a relationship.

at this point my curiosity is getting the best of me and i have urges to mess around with a dude more than a girl right now, but that changes too.
 
haha well. there's always CL. fast and easy. lol.
 
>>>but being the conservative person i am, im not looking to fuck and go, i actually want to get to know the person and possibly a relationship.

At the risk of repeating myself, it's this sort of "I'm a gentleman, I'm not going to just fuck and leave" thing that'll cause problems if your purpose in dating is to "see which team you're on".

Let's say you DID know what team you're on. Say you're straight. And some woman comes up to you. Starts talking, and you get to know each other. She asks you out, you date for awhile, and then, some point down the road, things get physical. Maybe a few months in, she finally takes you to bed.

...and after a few rolls in the hay, she tells you that "things aren't working out", that she's thinking she's probably a lesbian, but wanted to try out the straight side to make sure. But, you know, thanks for helping her decide.

...because that's pretty much what you appear to be offering whoever you date and "not fuck and run". If you're selfish enough - or, if you insist, gentlemanly enough - to insist on this course of action, I do hope the women get wise to you awfully quick.

Lex
 
true, that could happen but idk im stuck on what to do

i feel like im going back and forth with this, getting pretty annoying...
 
.....and that's why I said time to grow some balls :)
 
Some people ... well ... when you get right down to the TRUTH ... I'd say Most people your age, can approach Sex as Sport! A "relationship" only holds many of them back. And, though that might be more expected of Guys, I've known plenty of Girls that look at Sex that way, too! Don't underestimate the Females!! (!w!)

That said ... always be considerate, respectful, and concerned, with Anyone you might have the good fortune to have Sex with! Getting physically intimate with someone else is absolutely Amazing!! (Guy or Girl) But, that also doesn't mean you are obligated to be looking to Marry any/all of them! Trust me! That took a long time for me to learn! #-o

THIS is the time of your Life to explore your boundaries, learn as much as you can about others, and yourself! The time for conclusions will come later. And, if "something" should develop into a strong "relationship", enjoy that for as long as you can! But, if it doesn't go that way, still enjoy it while it lasts!! (!)

I know it's difficult to do, and may sound somewhat rude, but everyone has to cope with what their Lives present to them. And, that includes those that might want to have Sex with You, just as it pertains to what You may encounter, and how you're going to feel about it, with Them! \:/

Do not let your expectations, of Them, or You, guide your experiences! Take advantage of whatever may come your way, but, also, at all times, follow your Heart! It will seldom lead you wrong!! (group)

Of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
I knew I was gay back in junior high school. But growing up the 50's and 60's it was not easy to be open about ones sexuality.

Still went out with girls but never tasted or enjoyed pussy. Spent lot time jacking off during this time.

In college during my sophomore year my room mate and I were talking and issue of sex came up. It was long night that came about with first hitting the shower. Then we assumed the position of 69 and got my first blow job and gave my first blow job. We spent the time we had jacking off at times and more oral delights.

My room mate was bi but enjoyed the times we had together.
 
bhandsome said:
true, that could happen but idk im stuck on what to do

i feel like im going back and forth with this, getting pretty annoying...
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Hey mate,

Well, growing some balls might be one answer, but its not the only one.

I can promise you, a huge number of us have been where you are, myself included. And, theres a huge number still where you are, even beyond their 30's.

Dont underestimate the courage it takes to even consider the fact that you are gay - its something you should feel really proud of. Your posts make it pretty clear to me that you are at least bi but most likely gay... and I say that simply from having walked in your shoes for a long time. The guilt, the fear... its all very familiar to a lot of guys.

Messing around is not really the answer. Right now I dont think you are ready for that... and I dont mean that in a bad way, I simply mean that sex for you seems to be an emotional thing as well as physical... again something a lot of us believe in, and to go against your beliefs and values wont help. In fact a bad experience either way will just add to your confusion, and theres plenty of time to experience sex yet.

For now mate, spend some time finding out what its really like being gay. Spend some time here, interact, make freinds. Right now you need to shatter some of the stereotypes that society implants in us. Have a look around and realize that our clothes, our tastes in music, our love of sports, or the arts, our professions or the cars we drive mean nothing.

Some of the guys here are the most diverse varied and amazing people you can meet. We are builders, truck drivers, doctors, professors, teachers, electricians, mechanics, bartenders. We are tall, short, hairy, smooth, masculine, feminine. We are young and we are old.

But more than that... we are normal every day people... who just happen to love other guys. Falling asleep in another mans arms doesnt make you evil or wrong... it makes you someone strong enough to be who you are. It doesnt change the way you laugh or cry or the way you care about others. It just means that your heart loves who it loves.

This is a journey bhandsome. And it can take some time. Its one that will take some courage for sure, but you already have that. Its one that will take some acceptance of who you are, and that will come with the realisation that you are still you, still incredible and valuable. And that realisation will come when you understand that its ok to be you because thats who you are.

Fear comes from the unknown. And the easiest way to get rid of that fear is to take your time, dont rush or panic, but simply to let yourself grow by sharing yourself with others who care about you. By asking questions and seeking answers... its how we all learn and overcome.

You've already started that journey right here mate... and in a little time with a little help from some of your friends here first and then those you trust in person, you'll come to understand just how little it matters who you love!
 
tallguy ...

EXCELLENT post! Very well, and insightfully, put! My hat is off to You with your in-depth Wisdom, and the thoughtful way in which you so precisely presented it! (ww) :=D:

I whole-heartedly agree with You!! EVERYONE should read that! (group)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
9 times out of 10, when tallguy says something, he's giving good advice worth listening to. The other time it just makes you want to get him alone in a room for an hour or two. :)
 
^^^ uh with his accent, 10/10. Listen to him then get some alone time with him :)
 
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