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So scared to go to the university gay centre

me12121, I can totally relate to your first post, totally. I was in the exact same boat last october when I was a fourth year student at Western. Apparently I got really scared before i got in there that I walked back and forth on that street for a good 15 minutes! almost gave up... But I didnt chicken out and eventually gathered up the courage to go in... bad thing was, I had so much expectation going in there only to realize it is very much a clique where everyone seems to know each other and lots of them are obviously gay. I tried to strike up a conversation with whoever was near me, which I normally dont do... met a couple really nice guys, the others were just too much into themselves or their friends they came off kinda distant... when I said "this is my first time ever going to a gay event", most of them were like "oh well, hopefully there will be more ppl showing up"... After 3 hours of walking around and meaningless random chats, I decided to go home.

However, I had to give myself props for totally taking the plunge by myself in the first place and, good thing I didnt see anyone I know LOL.

What I can suggest is don't have any expectation and just go with the flow. It'd be great if you can get someone from the club to go with you... but still, don't have expectation from anyone even if they appear nice to you. Good luck! :)
 
Yeah, the first contact with a large group of gay people can be quite intimidating. I've never been to my university's glbt group, because the entrance to it is located on a high traffic hallway, and at least 10 people can see you walk in there at any time. I don't know why they decided on that spot...but anyways.

I did however, go to the GLBT group in the heart of the gay village here in Vancouver. The first time, my straight best friend accompanied me, it was a pretty weird situation because a few kept teasing my friend for being straight. But I went to the next meeting alone and pretty much every meeting after that for half a year or so, until i just stopped going because i didn't need their facilities any longer.

If i hadn't gone to the GLBT in the first place, i would not have indirectly met my best gay friend, as well as many of my other great gay friends as well. So it can definately be an impactful experience, hopefully in a good way.
 
If you're scared, find out who the director is of the program and get a hold of him/her (by email, phone, person, etc.) and ask what time you should go to meet your needs. Maybe you could go in early and meet him/her and they can introduce you to some people and see how it goes from there. If you don't like it, you can always leave :D

Good Luck!
 
The day was good. I stayed up late doing Calc. homework (I got it all done!) and went to bed at 5am. Got up at 11:30am and had my first class at 1pm, psychology. That class was okay, but economics after that was good since I'm actually understanding everything! Then I had my Calc. tutorial where this stereotypical Asian lady who doesn't know how to teach tried to teach us for an hour. Then we had a quiz, which I'm pretty sure I got perfect on and now I'm home. Worst part of the day: coming home and finding out that the university has me on their blacklist for internet because I've been using too much bittorrent. But I'm on here because I figured that if I spoof my MAC address everytime they block me, I'll get a new IP and be on again lol. But I'm sure I'll get cut off again soon.
 
RAWR a man who knows how to use computers :D

Okay so when is your first test in economics? I went to economics today, and I was reminded my test in it is this thursday, next class. I completely forgot !oops!

So what else is happening for you? Enjoyed your weekend?
 
Yeah, I wonder how long it's going to take before they come banging on my door. Worst case scenario: I use my desktop at home to download everything and then use FTP to get it to me here. The page I got redirected to said I was blocked cause I was using too many connections. FTP is only one connection so that'll always work. I HAVE to download Dante's Cove lol.

My first economics test isn't until October 6th. Still a couple weeks away. But I have an online quiz before that but it's only worth 2%.

The weekend was work, work and more work. I didn't do a thing during the week last week, so I had to catch up on the weekend. I won't be doing that again. That's why I did my Calculus work yesterday. Today, I'm planning to finish economics for the week after the meeting (if I actually manage to go to the meeting).
 
Ha I know that feeling, I am the ultimate procastinator :D

So I assume if you are a computer nerd, that you are also into webcomics? What are your favorites?
 
I'm not at all into webcomics. I'm not even sure what they are. I wouldn't say I'm that much of a computer nerd. For instance, I hate programming, and star trek and star wars, and barely even know the difference between them. I've just used computers a lot because I never had anything better to do. And I'll learn to get around things when I have to.
 
Lol okay.

Well if you have never read webcomics then you probally haven't heard of this one check it out sometime ;)

http://boymeetsboy.keenspot.com/d/20000922.html

Don't make a judgement on it till you read 30 mins worth of them. Trust me it gets good :sex:

So what is your college major? What do you do for fun?
 
My college major is Business, but that seems to be the class I like least right now. And it's definitely my toughest class. And I have to get a B- in it. Ahhhhhh, so much work lol.

For fun, I'm usually on my computer or watching TV. Okay, I admit it, I'm addicted to TV lol. But I've already cut down this year to only the shows I really want to watch. There's no cable here so that's why I'm using so much bittorrent lol.

Anyway, I should be leaving soon. I gotta go eat and by the time I finish, it'll be time for the meeting. Ahhhhh, what do I say when I walk in? What do I do? Fuck, I'm too nervous.
 
You don't have to say anything besides your name. Usually the group will do some sort of intro game, to get people to loosen up, relax, and to learn some more things about your fellow members.

Just relax, and have a good dinner, then go to the meeting.

Have fun :)
 
Sweet! I made it!

First I walked into the building and just looked around for a bit. I wasn't sure if I was at the right place and got really nervous so I left for a bit. A few minutes later I walked back into the building, found a door with a bunch of rainbows, walked in and asked if I was at the right place.

They seemed very welcoming and the head of the group said, "I love seeing new people here!" By the way, the head of the group made me think of this post instantly, "Sure, there will be some hardcore activist lesbian there with fifty piercings but they're everywhere relative to such groups - get used to them." But she seemed really cool. The space seemed very homey (is that even a word?) so that was nice. Oh, and there are too many hot guys at this school. More than half of the guys there were gorgeous!

So then we moved to a bigger room and had the discussion. The topic was stereotypes and labels. I didn't really say anything during the discussion, but it was still interesting to listen. The discussion got way off topic after about an hour and just turned into a regular conversation instead of a structured discussion. That was cool. I didn't really get to meet anyone during the discussion and that made me sad, but it was still good being there.It lasted a lot longer than I thought since I just got home now and it started at 7pm. But it was really cool and I'm definitely going back.

On the way out someone from the group (the only other person in 1st year) started talking to me. So I actually made a friend there! lol. He said he recognized my name from Facebook. It was a good thing I added the interested in men part on there yesterday. He was probably doing men looking for men searches like I've done on there. I just got an email that he just added me on facebook.

So anyway, the experience was really good. I'm definitely going back. I can't wait until next Thursday! And I feel really good right now that I actually managed to conquer my fear. Now I have to do some actual school work :(. But I'll just alternate between JUB and work like I did yesterday.
 
Oh yeah, I wanted to thank all of you for all your responses. I don't think I would have ever made it through without this place. I probably would have just kept procrastinating and procrastinating, never actually do it and just be scared of going in every week.
 
I used to be afraid to go to LGBT functions but I quickly realised that the people there understood what I was going through and were an excellent resource.
 
:hurray:​

CONGRATULATIONS me12121! I've reading your thread and watching to see what happened. Boy, you overcame that fear fast. Good job. I'm glad you found a friend too.

And yeah, these guys here are great, huh?

Keep us updated once in awhile. We like that sort of thing! (!w!)
 
Update:

I went today for my 2nd meeting and it wasn't so great. Only 5 people showed up, including the co-ordinator who didn't really feel like having the discussion. So they decided to just go to East Side Marios. The only other guy there (who I talked to last week) decided not to go. I felt left out with three 4th year girls who all knew each other so I decided not to go as well.

The guy I met last week was talking about that he went to the GLBT meeting at the other university in the city, a 10 minute walk away. So I decided to look them up and it looks like they have 3 seperate discussion groups including one for people who aren't out. I'm pretty sure everyone at the group at my university is out, so I still don't really relate to anyone. Fuck, I just realized that I have my mandatory Business Lab every week exactly when that discussion group is going on. I guess I wont be able to go to that :(. Maybe next year.
 
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