so your boyfriend is a pornstar? what now???

[duroc5088]

Re: so your boyfriend is a porstar? what now???

I personally would never date someone who was a slut. However, if you don't care about that, then no it shouldn't matter. It would matter to me as I need to feel special and I also need to know that the lips I am kissing has not locked with millions of despicable, disgusting people.

EDIT: I would like to add, 1 video does not equal a porn star.

lol wow what a hatefull little man, it's cool though let me explain. I being 5 years his senior have had more sexual partners than he has, even though he's been out since he was 14 and sexually active since 15, if what he has told me is true, he has only had sex, messed around, made out with 4 guys, i'm assuming that includes the guy in the porn. He is a very reserved person, and is not quick to jump into anything, including a relationship with me, we have been seeing eachother for almost 2 months, and so far all ive gotten is a peck on the lips as i drop him off at home. So no he's not a slut, and no, not technically a porn star, it was just a subject line i used to get peoples interest. So you go on and be as judgemental as you like, but if you hold yourself to the standards you described, you will find yourself a very lonley person in just a few short years. Cause shooga, most people have been around the block a few times.

I'd ask em' about it. Get it out on the table. Don't let it fester.. I guess my next question would be what's the video and can we see it? lol

haha sorry i can't reveal that information

 

[heartfly77]

Porn stars are people and they need love too. : ) Heck, we are posting on a porn site! Having said that, if it was something he did in the past, it would be easier for me not to see it as a problem. If he was still doing porn, it would bother me. I would just be too insecure.

 

[hylas]

Re: so your boyfriend is a porstar? what now???

(...) i have stepped up my game and have been offered to do porn in dallas, but have turned it down for fear of it following me in my career. Life is about decisions, there is no doubt i have made decisions that will haunt me until the day I die, and will not reveal those decisions to anyone, EVER!!! i'm sure he feels the same way about this decision. (...)

what i find weird is that you, and some other people here, seem to think its somehow wrong and regrettable to make porn. ok, you say you didnt do it because of your career. but i get the feeling (correct me if im wrong) that you are uncomfortble with someone making porn itself, comparing it to something "that will haunt me until the day I die". comments like "we all have a past" are going in the same direction, implying that there is something wrong with making porn (its only ok if its in the past). which is super-weird, since we are posting on a porn site...

i think if you think there is something, anything, wrong with making porn, then you are either female or a hypocrite! making porn is just another way of making some money... like working at the supermarket.

that being said, you cant help but feel what you feel. and you clearly are bothered by this, otherwise you wouldnt have posted it here. so, i would bring it up. but dont talk to him like he did something wrong and needs to explain or apologize... talk to him, but make it clear that this is entirely your problem, not his. maybe he is willing to stop making porn just to be respectful towards your (irrational) feelings (if he is still doing it), or maybe you can find some other solution.

 

[bankside]

hey duroc welcome back. how are things these days? how's your family? would it be weird having a porn star in the family?

 

[StlKj]

It's great to see you posting, duroc.

I follow what Dr. Drew says all the time--"less history, more mystery." None of us is owed information about what a love interest has done in the past or who they've done it with. Often having such information just leads to insecurity, jealousy and distrust.

If you want to talk to him about it, it should really only be to let him know you know and don't care. If you do care, then that's really on you, not him.

 

[Nomenclature]

Man, I don't think i'd have enough balls to enter law school after doing porn. Hopefully he's thought about this.

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I actually DID hook up with a guy who was on an amateur porn site in the past. He did it when he was 19, and he was 22 when I started talking to him. I don't know. . .I thought it was kind of hot and interesting at the time, but I never had to think about being in a relationship with the guy.

 

[Jayden]

Ask him to autograph it for you. If you like the guy then thats all that matters. I mean come on. Were gay men here not nuns, right?

 

[orryyon]

Are you sure he is seriously interested in you? If so wait and see if the relationship goes anywhere before bringing it up. Although his "work" is available for all the public to see he has a right to privacy. There are lots of men that put themselves through college with out being pornstars. Unfortunately his past may come out and ruin his potential career. I personally wouldn't date someone like that because porn actors are skanky. Who knows he may have also been an escort and we all know what that entails . However this thread is about you not me. If you can look past this then go for it be safe.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

Well, I'll tell you...

If I was single and looking, I'd crawl across a mile of broken glass for Tyler Saint, Nick Moretti, Alesio Romero and Dean Phoenix. All four are very sweet guys, warm, funny, beautiful souls. All four would be great boyfriends.

If you chose not to date them because of their jobs... it would be your loss. I do get it that some people have really low opinions of porn stars. Others have low opinions of gay people in general. I say you date whomever you want to be with...

 

[operafan]

So, how is the romance going with the "porn star" guy?

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

For the record, my Doctor and Dentist were both former COLT models.

 

[saymyname]

Re: so your boyfriend is a porstar? what now???

It lowers the "meaning of sex." I mean, from my personal experience, i went through a hookup phase and sex got more and more boring the more i did it. It felt good, but when i had a boyfriend i kind of expected it from him and it was kind of routine. hang out, sex, leave.

I totally get why someone wouldnt want to date someone whos been around the block.

What you just said doesn't make ANY sense. First you said having a lot of sex lowers the meaning of sex. (Maybe for you). But that was about hook ups. Then you said with a boyfriend, it gets routine too. But those are opposites, according to your logic.

Prudes... like someone else said, who doesn't have a history? You're just jealous cause we're better in bed than you.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

Re: so your boyfriend is a porstar? what now???

I personally would never date someone who was a slut. However, if you don't care about that, then no it shouldn't matter. It would matter to me as I need to feel special and I also need to know that the lips I am kissing has not locked with millions of despicable, disgusting people.

EDIT: I would like to add, 1 video does not equal a porn star.

Wow you are making a lot of generalizations. I understand your view but "millions of despicable people",........... sounds like the majority of guys you see at the bars every week and I doubt they've ever kissed 100 guys or did a porno flick.
Way to judgmental, and you sort of sound like a control freak.
Everyone has history from the minute they pop out of mommy.

 

[Latimer]

I think it's awesome he did porn. So should you. If he's a great guy, he's a great guy and that's all you should care about. But consider this: maybe he's a greater guy for having done the porn. And consider this also: fewer or greater number of sexual partners may say nothing about the most important aspects of a man's character. Look, for a number of years in college and for some time afterwards as I was both establishing a career and teaching at a major university I was also escorting. These days I'm a highly respected and renumerated professional in a long-term relationship, but I'm essentially the same guy now as I was then, I'm just getting fucked by fewer guys. I'm open about the escorting with gay friends and even some straight ones, and all of them-- even the straight ones-- seem more intrigued and even admiring of my past than anything else. So give the guy a break, and assume the porn past is a admirable addition to his resume. And if it turns out you discover he's had more sex than you were previously led to believe, so what? Relax and enjoy the guy for who he is now.