Solitude

[NotHardUp1]

Oh, I don't argue that sexuality doesn't continue to the grave, but I do argue that it defines us less and less as we age, and that is true for the vast majority of people I have observed in my almost six decades. Hormones seem to be disproportionately govern the young, often catastrophically redirect the middle aged, and almost comically provoke the almost dysfunctional aged.

I welcome the decline of its role with age. There are many things more important in life than fucking someone, and there always were.

 

[dpnice]

There are many things more important in life than fucking someone, and there always were.

I would do anything to get my sex drive back. The only reason I am not fucking guys is because I no longer can. Obviously there are other things to do but that and sex are not mutually exclusive.

 

[Kahaih]

. . . .

Again, how many people in their 70's and 80's joining communal groups give a rat's ass about sex in those last decades?

That is precisely when people are most likely to god up.

I'm sure everyone here has a story or two about the elderly sucking up to scamming evangelists.

 

[dpnice]

So what is the solution to spending a lifetime on your own ?

Today has been a real pleasure, I have filled up my day with simple things and enjoyed every moment.

 

[belamyi]

^ Well, if you are that easy to content, there you have it: enjoy our Mediterranean for as long as it is war-free.

A lifetime on your own, anyway, should be related to a project of your own... even if it is something as stupid as establishing a Guiness record:

 

[belamyi]

OMG David, I just realized we have the same JUB age "realized"... or have been reminded

 

[offthewall14420]

"Walking fuels a return to the senses, activates our imaginative capacities, and helps us to forget ourselves. It also helps us access the real in an increasingly virtualized world. Taking a walk around the block helps us get to know the real neighborhood and our real neighbors – not only the humans but also the animals, trees, and buildings we live amongst and the living breathing landscapes in which we are embedded.

Even if we never say hello to those we pass, being present to the human and non-human Others who live in our neighborhood can help us feel less alone. Regularly “shedding the self” and experiencing the permeability of our boundaries while Walking works to combat a sense of separateness. And it is precisely that sense of separateness that leads to feelings of loneliness and alienation in the first place."


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hut-her-own/201809/the-lost-art-walking

 

[belamyi]

 

[Peloso]

"Walking fuels a return to the senses, activates our imaginative capacities, and helps us to forget ourselves. It also helps us access the real in an increasingly virtualized world. Taking a walk around the block helps us get to know the real neighborhood and our real neighbors – not only the humans but also the animals, trees, and buildings we live amongst and the living breathing landscapes in which we are embedded.

Even if we never say hello to those we pass, being present to the human and non-human Others who live in our neighborhood can help us feel less alone. Regularly “shedding the self” and experiencing the permeability of our boundaries while Walking works to combat a sense of separateness. And it is precisely that sense of separateness that leads to feelings of loneliness and alienation in the first place."

Unless, of course, you bring your damn phone with you.

He's not alone! Why did you crop me out of the picture??

 

[belamyi]

He's not alone! Why did you crop me out of the picture??

or are you talking to/about Mr. dpnice?

Of course the guy is not alone: he provides company, he has plenty of it!

 

[dpnice]

"Walking fuels a return to the senses, activates our imaginative capacities, and helps us to forget ourselves. It also helps us access the real in an increasingly virtualized world. Taking a walk around the block helps us get to know the real neighborhood and our real neighbors – not only the humans but also the animals, trees, and buildings we live amongst and the living breathing landscapes in which we are embedded.

Even if we never say hello to those we pass, being present to the human and non-human Others who live in our neighborhood can help us feel less alone. Regularly “shedding the self” and experiencing the permeability of our boundaries while Walking works to combat a sense of separateness. And it is precisely that sense of separateness that leads to feelings of loneliness and alienation in the first place."


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hut-her-own/201809/the-lost-art-walking

I like this as it puts into words that which I feel.

 

[belamyi]

^ Oh, so you mean you like, you prefer being alone, but you count on people teeming in the background like piped background music: that's me!

 

[sixthson]

David, I don't see you as solitary by choice. You've talked a lot about spending time with friends and it's easy to see you enjoy companionship.
Humans are meant for relationship, but not necessarily all to the same degree. I find it hard to believe anyone wants to be alone all the time...even Greta Garbo.

 

[dpnice]

^ Oh, so you mean you like, you prefer being alone, but you count on people teeming in the background like piped background music: that's me!

My dear Bellamy that is exactly it. My solitude would be insupportable if it wasn’t for everyone else living their lives around me.

 

[pat grimshaw]

... I find it hard to believe anyone wants to be alone all the time...even Greta Garbo.

She spent her last 60 years in crowded Manhattan.

 

[belamyi]

 

[pat grimshaw]

Edward Morgan Forster said "You must connect!".



And use this movie as what NOT to do!

 

[Alistair]

^ Oh, so you mean you like, you prefer being alone, but you count on people teeming in the background like piped background music: that's me!

If I go out to the park for a walk, i want the exact opposite. I don't want to hear anyone else. I want to hear only the sounds of nature. I get aggravated if strangers are around me. My best friend who is often with me feels the same way. We spend the entire excursion in silence.

 

[belamyi]

If I go out to the park for a walk, i want the exact opposite. I don't want to hear anyone else. I want to hear only the sounds of nature. I get aggravated if strangers are around me. My best friend who is often with me feels the same way. We spend the entire excursion in silence.

A-HA!

 

[m2mlover]

I can't spend a day without speaking to anyone...