Stereotypes on Asians

[natedogg323]

Hey Arc,

Don't let stupid, american ignorance get you down. We have to be one of the rudest and inconsiderate cultures on the face of the earth.
First off - From what I can see of you..You are a very attractive guy. Very cute face
Second - I really don't see the hispanic connection...btw. You should be proud of your heritage even if you weren't born there. Stand up and be proud. You have no reason to have low self esteem. The gay community will eat you up if you don't find some self esteem. If you can do that..you'll be fine. As someone else said the kid that told you that was young and ignorant. Forget him and move on with your life, keep workin out and build up a little muscle and you'll find yourself with more than one option.

 

[bma1983]

As an Asian person you are far better off in terms acceptability in mainstream America (if that's where you live) compared to other minorities.

Not to be condescending (or cruel), but Asians seem to be the only "exotics" sought after with ravenous ambition. The Asiatic language courses are also packed with Caucasians seeking to either meld into the "superior" Asiatic cultures or better yet, get into the pants of Asian girls (or guys) through marginal mastery of a specific Asiatic language... and they come in droves like flies to a turd.

This being said, count your blessings sir.

I have to say I agree. It appears, to me, that in the U.S., Asians are the third most sought after racial group for dating. Caucasians would be first, Hispanics second. And that's not just true for the gay world, that goes for the str8 world as well. I personally don't give a damn if so-and-so finds me or my race attractive. But there are those who do care, so as Oden_grey says, count your blessings.

Oh, and yes, I do think you are an attractive man.

 

[Lostlover]

I have read studies that said Asians were the least likely to marry out of all races.

I hate studies like those.

I have to say I agree. It appears, to me, that in the U.S., Asians are the third most sought after racial group for dating. Caucasians would be first, Hispanics second. And that's not just true for the gay world, that goes for the str8 world as well. I personally don't give a damn if so-and-so finds me or my race attractive. But there are those who do care, so as Oden_grey says, count your blessings.

Oh, and yes, I do think you are an attractive man.

 

[bma1983]

I have read studies that said Asians were the least likely to marry out of all races.

I hate studies like those.

Did you mean Asians are the least likely to marry outside of their race?

If so,

That may be the case, but when it comes to which races are seen as the most desirable (in the US), Asians are considered more attractive than other races. That's just my opinion.

 

[Lostlover]

No, that's not what I have been saying.

I was saying Asians are least likely to marry someone versus all other races, especially Asian men. Asian men and black women are least likely to marry. There are many studies concluding this, I can cite it if you want.

That translates into being desired if you ask me.

And from what I have seen on the board and on other boards, it's only been Asian posters asking if "their race has a chance" or whatnot.

Did you mean Asians are the least likely to marry outside of their race?

If so,

That may be the case, but when it comes to which races are seen as the most desirable (in the US), Asians are considered more attractive than other races. That's just my opinion.

 

[bma1983]

No, that's not what I have been saying.

I was saying Asians are least likely to marry someone versus all other races, especially Asian men. Asian men and black women are least likely to marry.

That translates into being desired if you ask me.

And from what I have seen on the board and on other boards, it's only been Asian posters asking if "their race has a chance" or whatnot.

Oh, OK. I understand you now, I think.

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

Maybe Lostlover it could be argued that it's because Chinese are a minority in America? I don't know the total numbers in America but in England the total number is pretty small (even smaller than the population of gays and lesbians!)

 

[blooeyz]

you are good looking and have a nicely arranged clothes, what more could you ask for?

 

[sparky95]

I'm curious about the stereotypes put on Asians, because westerners tend to see "Asia" as being more homogenous than it is! For example "Asians are small" but many northern Chinese are very tall, and on average Japanese are about the same height as Australians. Even defining "Asian" is pretty iffy as for example in Britain people of Indian and Pakistani desent are regarded as Asian, where else where it tends to be those of East Asian desent. Like any other stereotype it gets real messy real quick!

 

[xyzguy]

By the way you block your face with the camera, I cant help but think you really do have low self-esteem.

Anyway, um... Im asian and I think Im hot.

hehe... Kidding!

 

[Oriental1986]

Hello, everyone. This question is for all the "non-Asians" out there.

I’m Asian and I’ll give you my view .

In the US, a lot of straight guys have this "thing" for Asian girls. They think Asian girls are exotic and perhaps even erotic? I've seen a lot of caucasians and hispanics dating Asian girls, and these girls are not even close to what we Asians would consider as "beautiful". Americans think Lucy Liu (the Chinese actress in Charlie's Angels) is an absolute sex goddess, while us Chinese think she is ugly. On the other hand, we think the Hawaiian mix Maggie Q (the Chinese girl in Mission Impossible 3) was gorgeous, but she didn't make it big in Hollywood.

I think Lucy is ok; I like her confidence and she’s a good comedic actress. Maggie Q who’s a crappy actress maybe that’s why she isn’t big in Hollywood and she mostly works in Hong Kong. I don’t like her to be honest; I think she’s quite UGLY. I think that you’re trying to say that you like her because she’s half white??? I like Zhang Ziyi, Shu Qi, Karena Lam, Michelle Yeoh, Ming Na, Zhang Jingchu much better.

Okay, enough said about girls. So, what do you guys think of Asian guys? What physical traits and personalities would you consider to be desirable in an Asian guy? Small eyes? Obedience? (These are soooo stereotypical.)
Also, out of curiosity and (low self-esteem), I attached some of my photos and want to hear your honest opinions. (Please have some mercy though)

Why the fuck does it matter what NON-Asians think of us? So are you trying to say that only when THEY say that we are attractive then we are one??? Who the fuck do you think they are??? Each person has different tastes, I don’t expect every single person to like me and I don’t like everybody either, that’s the way it is and deal with it.
First of all love your self, have some self respect, be confident about who you are, if you don’t like yourself then don’t expect others to like you, I mean who wants to have a relationship with a SELF HATING fucker. Would you???

I'm often mistaken as a mix or Hispanic (there are times when a Hispanic would come up to me and ask questions in Spanish), but I'm actually 100% Chinese. Back in 7th grade, one of the kids (a Caucasian) in my class called me "the UGLIEST kid" that he has ever seen. My mom tried to make me feel better by saying that I'm her "angel". Well, I guess that was out of her kindness.
That kid's malicious remark has haunted me all the way through high school. Just a few years ago, I didn't dare to look at people in their eyes because I felt inferior. I used to envy all the gorgeous guys, and thought to myself, "Why can't I look like that" etc. There was also a period of time when I felt hopeless and desperate, so I turned to food (especially sweets) to comfort myself. I overate, and of course I became overweight. (So, I guess I like sweets, but sweets don't like me.)

Don’t worry, to me you look 100% Chinese. Most of us Asians we can tell who’s Chinese, Japanese, Thai etc, but to non Asians we all look the same, just like we can’t tell them apart .
When I was in school, a teacher started speaking to me in Spanish because she thought I was one, I was like I’m sorry I didn’t understand what you just said. It’s not only non Asian who gets my ethnicity wrong, when I was doing part time job at McDonalds, there were lots of International students working there with me. My Chinese work mates thought I was Japanese/Korean. A Japanese friend thought I was Thai. And when Philippinos work mates started working there, they spoke to me in their language because they thought I was one. Well atleast they got the Asian part right.
Some white friends thought I was Chinese, some thought I was mixed race like Black + Asian, and they often said I looked like The Rock and some said they remind me of Joey (Asian version) from friends, that’s JUST CRAZY, but they did made me laugh .
I wouldn’t say you’re the UGLIEST boy that I’ve ever seen. There are plenty of ugly people from all races. Just because that kid said it doesn’t mean anything, who was that kid? Was he/she was someone who was important in your life? Why did you cared so much what that shit-head said? Most importantly why didn’t you say something back?

With the help of my family and a very special friend, I have got back some confidence and self-esteem. (And, yes, I lost a lot of weight.)

Good for you .

Thanks for reading this, and looking forward to hear some opinions.

Welcome and hope you’ll like my view .

 

[arc248]

Thanks everyone for your responses.

 

[icefan]

Wow, I think I remember another thread that was almost like this one. I've had some of the same things happen to me when I was younger...I remember in high school, the chemistry teacher wanted to make a point to the entire class about how some atoms attract and others repulse...you can probably see where I'm going with this...anyhow, he made the prettiest girl in the class pick who she thought was the best looking guy and who was the worse looking guy...I was picked as the worse looking guy. I remember feeling so embarrassed and ashamed because I was the only Asian person in the school so I thought it must be because of that...so I ran home after school and did pushups (I was only 70lbs at the time), believing that if I got better looking (meaning more normal looking) that people would like me...now I've learned that I really don't want to meet anyone that is just interested in how I look (good or bad)..I guess time will make you grow up and realize the truth that it if someone only likes you for your looks, then that person is not really worth knowing

 

[slobone]

I have to say I agree. It appears, to me, that in the U.S., Asians are the third most sought after racial group for dating. Caucasians would be first, Hispanics second.

Not according to Archie Bunker:

Meathead: Why is Jefferson number 2?

Archie: Because, Meathead, there can only be one number 1 and one number 2 and life made Jefferson number 2 long before I come along.

Gloria: So then Puerto Ricans are number 3 then, huh Daddy?

Archie: Well not necessarily there, Little Girl, your Puerto Ricans can be 4. Your Japs and your Chinks can be 3 -- 3A and 3B.

 

[bma1983]

Not according to Archie Bunker:

Meathead: Why is Jefferson number 2?

Archie: Because, Meathead, there can only be one number 1 and one number 2 and life made Jefferson number 2 long before I come along.

Gloria: So then Puerto Ricans are number 3 then, huh Daddy?

Archie: Well not necessarily there, Little Girl, your Puerto Ricans can be 4. Your Japs and your Chinks can be 3 -- 3A and 3B.

Very funny.

 

[luminum]

So...Caucasions on the whole lust after us. What a wonderful life we must all live nationally and internationally.