Still Thinking About the Amazing First Date I Went On

[erobert]

I went on a great first date with a guy last night!

It's very rare that a guy does everything right (in my book at least) on the first date; is sweet, genuine, mature and very smart. We began with dinner, then walked all over the city talking and getting to know all about each other. 6 hours later we were arm and arm sitting on a park bench and everything felt right being with him. We were even comfortable with each other's silent moments.

We even kissed and were planning where to go on our second date. Again, very rare for me (and my date) on a first date but he charmed me into kind of falling for him. I really like him and if he stays on this track he'll become a BF candidate. That might be jumping the gun though.

There's a couple of things about him that I should consider:

First off he's 19. I'm 25. This shouldn't matter because he's very mature for his age but a small part of me doesn't know what to think of about this age difference. (It doesn't seem like that big of a difference though because he's so mature)

Secondly, he's never j/o until last year- thought he was A-sexual for years.

Finally he's a late bloomer like me, so we're in the same boat with sexual experience. (I'm still technically a virgin) I guess this is alright because we're on the same page... Again jumping the gun.

Anyway, has this ever happened to anyone else on the first date? I really like this guy.

 

[bankside]

A promising beginning is something just to accept and enjoy.

The two questions you have might be answered as you get to know him more - that's how dating unfolds. I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[rareboy]

Well, this sounds promising.

Do not worry about the age difference.

There is 8 years between me and my partner of 28 years.

Both of you have the opportunity to explore the sexual side of your relationship from a relatively safe place, since there sounds like a lack of experience for both of you.

But please don't start to over-think this. Enjoy it all for what it is and do your best to have fun with each other and to make the other person laugh as much as possible.

If it seems like you should have sex, then for heaven's sakes, have it. Late bloomer...whatever. If you think that you could bring him pleasure and passion and that he could do the same for you, then seal the deal as soon as the moment feels right.

If you drift into a non-sexual platonic relationship, don't worry about this either. Sometimes a great friend is the greatest treasure you could find.

 

[MascutarHero]

Just go with the flow, don't force anything, enjoy getting to know each other, I don't want to say "don't rush it" but what exactly is there not to rush? Just enjoy it at the moment and hopefully it comes out to something really special

 

[Rolyo85]

I was that guy last semester. Exactly that guy - 25 y/o getting seriously infatuated with a 19 y/o. It ended bad, but not because of the age difference. The guy had baggage completely unrelated to how old he was, and we just didn't manage to get through it. If it weren't for that, it would be amazing. So I say go for it and don't worry too much.

 

[Rand]

erobert,

Congratulations - life is suppose to be enjoyed. As rareboy said - don't over think. Go as slowly as you and your friend want to go. Don't feel pressure nor put any pressure on him. Enjoy being together and enjoy life.

best wishes!
Rand

 

[Seasoned]

I've been with my partner, who will become my husband next month, for 28 years, and no it's not rareboy even though we are also 8 years apart. Enjoy your time together. Have fun no matter how long it lasts.

 

[simmsdo51]

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[MrRochesterNY]

I've been with my partner, who will become my husband next month, for 28 years.

Congratulations, Seasoned! I've been reading your posts since way back when, when you were Soreknees, and you've earned my respect. Wishing you another 28 years of happiness at least.

 

[chance1]

Six hours on a first date is sorta .............. a record?

good job

it all sounds good - try to not think forward but stay in the present - is my only advice - experiencing w/o the comparison point (how u imagined it) i think is better

cause the rest seems pretty perfect

good luck

PS - my first date with my ex bf was not perfect but very very good - we went to a Mets game - held hands - shot the breeze pretty well - went back to his place - nothing significant happened because he had not yet ended with his bf (he did that week)

 

[erobert]

Thanks all for the replies and extra stories.

I'm trying to plan our second date now. I'm thinking something along the lines of walking through Central Park and then getting something to eat. After that I don't know what to do because I still don't have my own place yet; living with relatives so any intimate stuff is hard to do because he's dorming with 3 other roommates. He mentioned he liked rock climbing but places in the city are a bit expensive for a college student.

I am apartment hunting like mad because I want to invite in back to "my" own place on our next date. I'm sooo close to getting a place or roommates though. Just a matter of time with the living situation. I felt bad on the date because he mentioned he would invite me up to his dorm but the roommates are there and we can't go back to my relatives because they probably wouldn't appreciate "that." We need some private place on this next date if I haven't moved out yet. I don't want him to dump me because we can't get any alone time beside kissing on a park bench. Any ideas?

 

[MoltenRock III]

4 hours at Yotel?

 

[TX-Beau]

You're going to dump him because you don't have a place? Can't be all that attached.

That sounds like high school. Didn't you figure out strategies for that at the time?

 

[hotatlboi]

You're going to dump him because you don't have a place? Can't be all that attached.

That's not what he said. He said he didn't want to BE DUMPED because of that.

But I agree that's a stupid reason for anyone to dump anyone.

Worst case, be adventurous and have sex in a gym bathroom or something.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, misread that. Thanks

 

[rareboy]

I've been with my partner, who will become my husband next month, for 28 years, and no it's not rareboy even though we are also 8 years apart. Enjoy your time together. Have fun no matter how long it lasts.

lol

Excellent advice.
___

 

[erobert]

4 hours at Yotel?

Hotel? I have actually thought about that but that doesn't seem very romantic. Isn't that where people have affairs in?

There's got to be someplace in Chelsea or something that offers romantic privacy, this is New York afterall.

That apartment can't come fast enough.

 

[rareboy]

Oh, a hotel room can be the perfect setting.

Just get one with great beds and high thread count sheets.

Order room service.

You've got lots of time.

 

[erobert]

Went out on a second date which I thought went fine and just texted me this morning saying he "doesn't feel comfortable with our age difference", 19 and 25 is a bit of a difference but not that big of a deal to me since he's pretty mature for his age (or I thought he was at least).

What a major disappointment because things started out so promising.

Trying not to feel hurt though or be mad at him. Haven't texted him back- not sure if I even should. Now I feel like some creepy pedo or some desperate old guy, jeez. But he initially messaged me, maybe he was just looking for sex all this time...idk... Well, I have to fall back on my the saying everything happens for a reason.

On a positive note. I do however have a date with a friend of his. Who is 24, I'm sticking to guys + or - 2-3 years my age to avoid this in the future.

 

[chance1]

^ not buying the "you're too old for me" thing

Move on is my 2 cents

Nice fast recovery - and with a friend of his?

I had an amazing Thurs night - met a guy - ex Navy - lives local - cute smart and nice - and an excellent kisser

Life goes on

Any apt news?