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Straight Guys Question

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I don't mean to offend anyone here, so if I do I am sorry. I was just reading some of the threads and I can't help but wonder why some gay men are so obsessed with 'straight guys'.

Personally when I hear the term straight, it's an automatic turn-off for me. I prefer to be with a strong gay man who wants to be with me and isn't ashamed of it.

I'm thinking that a so-called straight guy would have to be convinced or tricked into being with another man, or at least that's the impression I get from some of the threads (and some porn sites I've seen !oops! ). Why is it desirable to be intimate with someone who doesn't really want to be there, or can't admit that he wants to be there?

So, if anyone cares to explain, why the obession with straight guys?

I don't mean to belittle anyone's fetish or anything, I was just curious...
 
Beats me. You may be right in classifying it as a fetish...
 
I agree I don't really understand the straight guy thing, I would rather have an open, proud and out man as a partner, any day. I don't want to trink anyone into sex or anything else for that matter, and when I know someone is straight I lose sexual interest, even if I think they may be lyeing. I don't need that shit in my life, in all honesty, but on the other hand there is a saying "The grass is always greener on the other side" so I always feel it a bit of the old forbidden fruit!
 
I'm with you 100%.

Personally, I find the whole obsession with straight men that some gay men have is just foul.

I see it mostly with guys that have a rahter low opinion of themselves a gay men in general. they've bought into this idea that gay men are weaker or not as good.

I think it's a load of shit.

Some of the most masculine men I've ever met are gay, and most of the biggest dorks are straight.

Give me a loud, proud gay man who's confidant and strong ANY DAY over some straight drunken horny guy who just wants to get his rocks off.
 
Interesting thread thanks guys.

Here in Sydney I use to go to a sex venue in the very str8t sex area Kings Cross, in the elusive search for str8t dudes. But the place is usually haunted by hustlers and drunk str8ts.

So recently I moved up to Oxford Street the gay golden mile to a venue there and found lots of really sexy interesting gay guys, all butch, macho and ready to play.

The contrast couldn't be more stark. :( :(
 
I think the issue for me is that I want a gay man who isn't like the stereotypical TV-gay. So I define the ultimate man for me as "straight-acting" even though it sounds like being gay is something to be ashamed of.
Personally I think there shouldn't be any gay-acting or straight-acting, just "different people". But for clarifying my situation, I usually define my ultimate as "just separated, stylish, slighly lazy, straight-looking businessman, who found his inner gay self".
The guy you'd never pick off the street as gay.

But for actual straight guys, they are just potential friends to me.
 
i think the reason some guys are attracted to str8 guys is because they cant have them.. i mean its the american dream to want what you cant have... that seems to be the only reason i get attracted to str8 guys, its all about the chase.
 
Good question New_
I have no idea as to the answer. Sure there are lot's of handsome straight guys in the world but there are lots of handsome gay guys too. I like to look at handsome guys, same as most gay guys do... but I look because they are nice to look at. I don't know why a gay guy would pine over a straight guy knowing that there is no chance for a relationship. Makes no sense to me. But then, to each his own I guess.
 
I think it has something to do with masculinity. Straight men appear to be more masculine.

I've fallen for straight guys before, but I don't have a fetish for them or anything. To be honest, all of the straight guys I've been interested in have been rather ambiguous, only to be revealed as straight later. I have a thing for ambiguity, I guess.
 
i dont know,straight guys are weird,i mean they like girls!
why should i want such a guy?he isnt normal!
 
tccia1 said:
i think the reason some guys are attracted to str8 guys is because they cant have them.. i mean its the american dream to want what you cant have... that seems to be the only reason i get attracted to str8 guys, its all about the chase.
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It's also the Asian dream, African dream, and may even be an Eskimo's dream.

Nonetheless, I agree with Mark, I don't want to have a bf who'd go all Martha Stewart and fix me a fillet o' Dolphin before changing my bedsheets into scented pink. I want my guy to be tough (hopefully tougher than me).
 
Well, with me, I know one hot guy. Really... the rest are thoroughly bland. He happens to be straight, which is fine. Aethetically, he's the hottest guy who ever lived, imho, but I still don't see him as anything other than a very sexy friend.

I know about four gay guys, and none of them are at all my type. All camp as hell with massive egos.
 
Or, to quote Joe D'Allesandro from the flick "Flesh"........"nobody's straight."
 
I agree 100% also. But I understand where people like the fetish with all the supposedly "straight" guy sites. Half them guys on them sites seem very into it and usually are not too reluctant.
 
Straight guys act "masculine", which is the trait that most gay guys are attracted to in men. Most (not all) gay guys tend to act more feminine- which is a trait that many gay guys do not necessarily seek out in their partner (Opposites attract...)

It could also be the theory that going after straight guys is the gay man's internal motivation to conquer the unobtainable... in other words, we know we can't have it, but we have to give it a shot.

Just my 2 cents...
 
I think a lot of it just boils down to numbers.......there are a lot more ST8 men than Gay men. I think it is also a power thing. The ST8 male is endowed by society with a lot of power and rights which an openly Gay may or may not have.

I've had trysts with several married ST8 guys and it was hot at first....but devoid of any emotional content.....the phrase "cum dump" comes to mind.
 
sc_jock2004 said:
Straight guys act "masculine", which is the trait that most gay guys are attracted to in men. Most (not all) gay guys tend to act more feminine- which is a trait that many gay guys do not necessarily seek out in their partner (Opposites attract...)
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Sorry, but if you think that most gay men are feminine, you need to start hanging out in difference places.
 
sc_jock2004 said:
Straight guys act "masculine", which is the trait that most gay guys are attracted to in men. Most (not all) gay guys tend to act more feminine-
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Most of the gay men I've known don't act feminine at all. Not that I'd care. People are people. I don't care how somebody acts. But of all the gay men I've known personally, only a couple of them have a feminine 'air' about them.

Of course that doesn't count all the guys at the drag club I've been to a few times, lol. I just mean the ones I personally associate with. Which really isn't that many. I mean, I know more straight people than gay people. Of course. But... the gay guys I know are just... guys.

Again, not that it matters. I don't give a crap how somebody acts. As long as a person is a decent human being, it makes no difference to me. I never go around saying I'm "straight acting" because I don't frickin KNOW if I'm straight-acting. I don't really CARE if I'm "straight-acting" or not. I'm just me, as scary as that is :badgrin:
 
I too think it's to do with numbers. There are more straight men in the world than Gay so I am going to meet more of them. I become friends with them because I like who they are, I then may hope or wish they were Gay if I feel really attracted to their character and possibly develop a crush on them, but this is not to the exlusion of Gay men, it's just that there are fewer of them and I don't go out of my way to meet them in the same way that I don't with straight men, it just happens. If I develop 100 crushes in my life chances are 80 of them will be straight and, because of the type of characters I am attracted to, I will never realise the other 20 were in fact Gay. This is where the internet comes in, it narrows the field.

That was a bit of an uncoordinated ramble but I hope you get my drift.
 
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