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So, my life at 22, I have trained in all these carrers, and still life at home, have a shit dead end job doing admin, and still cant drive, and i am still single. While all my friends have good jobs and carrers, and I feel left behind.

So, I thought why not do dance, so I appled to univeristies, and didnt get in, new jobs.. nothing.

I am trying really hard, but nothing seems to come off it, I was even considering applying to American Unis, and moving there, I want a new life, and I feel the Uk isnt for me?

Any Ideas on what I should do?

Thanks x

Any help I would love.:cool:
 
yeah my twenties sucked too. the most importantt thing to remember about a career advancement wise is you have to stick with it. I cant imagine at 22 that you have stuck with too much long enough. What kinda of training do you have? is it in line with careers that are growing in the Uk? ARe you spending money on things that are keeping you from spending your money on the things that would get you free of your parents? Are you really ready to live wihtout the parental parachute?
 
I am just sick of many people like my exs and friends seem to progress with their lives. I have dance training, since I was 18 months old, and three years of hair, and beauty and 3 years of acting. My Money is fine, I am ready to move out, and leave all the shite behind from my parents who want me to remain under their care forever and shelter me, I wanna break free. I want to live on my own, forget all the heartache and pain that has been in 22 years of life, and do what I wanna do, become the person that I wanna be, and show the world, that I can fucking do it.

But, when I try it always fails.
 
>>>I am trying really hard, but nothing seems to come off it, I was even considering applying to American Unis, and moving there, I want a new life, and I feel the Uk isnt for me.

Well, I don't know. I'm only going on what I got from your post, but if you trained in "all these careers", why can't you get a job in one? I'm wondering if perhaps your find yourself at the crossroads. Where you have to choose which career path to start down...and you're just too scared to do it. Because, y'know, what if you choose wrong? So you want to continue the education process, because that means pushing the decision-making process back another two, four, six years.

Seriously, what do you want to do? Not forever, not in five years, RIGHT NOW?

Lex
 
Right now, I wanna Dance. But, I have tried all the Univeristys for Dance, but they said that the courses was to Theory based, then practical based.

And, I have started to drive again, but I feel like Dance is my passion, my life, but I am too scared of failing. thats the trouble, when I try do soemthing, I fail, and try something new, then that fails.
 
JoniBoy said:
Right now, I wanna Dance. But, I have tried all the Univeristys for Dance, but they said that the courses was to Theory based, then practical based.

And, I have started to drive again, but I feel like Dance is my passion, my life, but I am too scared of failing. thats the trouble, when I try do soemthing, I fail, and try something new, then that fails.
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What do you mean by 'fail'? Are you a perfectionist? Will you consider anything you do a failure?
 
You might want to improve your written composition and spelling skills if you hope to advance a career in admin or one of your other chosen fields.

Maybe some time in an American University would be a good idea.
 
>>>And, I have started to drive again, but I feel like Dance is my passion, my life, but I am too scared of failing. thats the trouble, when I try do soemthing, I fail, and try something new, then that fails.

Some time after college, I decided to try writing for the first time. And I decided I loved it. So I started writing a lot. I posted some stuff online. I talked to a local magazine about doing some writing for them. They took a couple small pieces, but then stopped taking them. I was in talks to do some writing for a national magazine as well, and although they seemed interested, nothing came of that, either.

So, let me ask you - did I fail at writing?

I certainly don't think I did. I still love writing. I post my stuff online, and often get nice feedback on it. No, it doesn't fill my bank account at all. But I love doing it. Doing it scratches my creative itch, and (I think) makes me an all-around better person.

So you can't get into a dance university. Can you bring it down a step? Are there "intro to dance" classes you can take? Learn some basic theory, and some basic steps in forms you don't know (but are interested in)? Are there local dance troupes you can join?

And, most importantly, will you enjoy that? Not the huge accolades, not the fame, but the sheer act of dancing? Because you love doing it? And if you do, doesn't that mean you haven't failed at it?

Lex
 
I am a bit of a perfectionist,and when soemthing doesnt go right, I go into a bit of depression stages, and try and pick myself up, and I always have in the back of my mind that I will fail.

I love to dance, I dance for companies locally, and even in night clubs, but I feel that I need to get away from here, I ahve started the application process for a Visa, and Appield to some Uni's.

Would it work if I just went on a holiday Visa to the US, then decided that I wnated to stay their permantly, people have already said that they would let me stay with them, and help me find work?
 
That in and of itself is fine. The real question, though, is what you expect to get out of it. Are you doing this because you "hope to succeed" here in the States? Or do you think this just sounds like something fun you'd like to do? If it's the former, I can guarantee you won't. But if it's the latter, I think it'd work out well. :)

Lex
 
I have always wanted to live in the States, ever since I was young, and live my life the way I should. I have to much heartache, and fake friends here I want to leave it all behind and start a fresh.
 
JoniBoy said:
So, my life at 22, I have trained in all these carrers, and still life at home, have a shit dead end job doing admin, and still cant drive, and i am still single. While all my friends have good jobs and carrers, and I feel left behind.
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I can empathize. Up until a month I a go I had a dead-end job in a warehouse, I don't even have my learner's permit, and I've been single for four years. Two of my friends are software engineers and another is in University finishing her electrical engineering degree.

Right now, I'm unemployed - but that's by choice. I've said, "fuck it" and I'm moving to Vancouver. I don't care what job I get out there, I just want to be somewhere different, see new things, have new experiences. I don't want to feel inadequate because I'm not as "successful" (whatever that means) as my friends. I want to feel happy because I'm taking control of my life and doing something interesting.

JoniBoy said:
Any Ideas on what I should do?
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What really interests you? What could you see yourself doing for the rest of your life? What sparks your passion?
 
>>>I have always wanted to live in the States, ever since I was young, and live my life the way I should.

Which is how, exactly? What is it about the US that enables you to "live the way you should" that is unavailable in the UK? I'm not arguing - just trying to clarify.

>>>I have to much heartache, and fake friends here I want to leave it all behind and start afresh.

Fake friends are everywhere, I'm afraid. That doesn't mean you're doomed to always have them, mind you, but US exactly isn't the place to escape deceit and opportunism. :)

Lex
 
New York. Thats how I feel I want control of my life. I just wanna fucking dance....... as the song goes lol
 
You ever been to New York? It's got a vibe, but it can be a really cruel town. :)

Lex
 
Well, do go visit. Check out New York, do some visiting, feel the vibe, and see how you like it. :)

Lex
 
Thats What one is going to do, tlaking to friends, who said that I can stay with them, and if I like it? Do I apply for a permit Visa over there.

Thanks so much for the help, when I get there, I will buy you a drink x
 
You do realize, that if you can't handle the competition where you are now... New York is brutal.

I hope you rise to the challenge.
 
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