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It would not be hard to go nude diving at Kaloko-Honokohau National Historical Park,although it would be quite a haul a tank and dive gear out to where you would be in a secluded area. Most people park at Honokohau Marina and then walk the 10-25 minutes to get into the park itself. However, there is another entrance on the northside of the park so you can drive in and bring your tank more easily. But beware of the NPS rangers patrolling.



It has been known to have nudist (including gay cruising) but the park rangers have been ordered to crack down on nudists. Still, once you're in the water, you can always remove your swim trunks. However, the water's too shallow until far out. I think the best place might be Puako - about 30 miles north of Kailua-Kona -- it is surrrounded by private homes so public nudity would be risky, but again once you're in the water can remove your trunks and the diving there is wonderful. Puako is a long straight stretch of a two-lane road lined on both sides by luxury homes. There are quite a few small public beach access points or you can drive to end and find a larger parking area (not paved). Again it is not a nudist area, but I find a spot that is fairly deserted and take off my clothes discreetly.


It's fairly shallow out to about 75-100 meters from the shore then its starts dropping off to 20-30-40m and there is always great wildlife. I get my tanks at Kohala Divers (instead of bringing them from Kona) - the dive shop is in Kawaihae - just 4 more miles to the north of Puako.) Mauna Kea Beach (a public beach accessible from the hotel of the MKB Prince Hotel) would also be a great place for snorkelling and diving (not nudist but you can make it so - it starts our shallow (good for snorkelling too).




 


There are not any organized groups or dive tours that I know of which offer nude dive trips... I'm only
familiar with Hawaii and Oahu. Some dive instructor or private dive master might be willing to do make such a trip. So you most likely to be on your own (and hopefully with a dive buddy).

Warning: Nudity at Hawaii public beaches is not legal. More to the point, diving itself has some inherent risks, not to be taken likely are the scrapes, cut or abrasions that can happen on the reefs and rocks (especially from a shore dive entrance).

Note: Photo to the right is one of me, showing ass, and various other pics of the author are included in this blog entry.
However, you can easil make a nude shore dive at Kehena Black Sands Beach (on Hwy 137 - the coastal road between Kalapana and Kapoho near milemarker 19.) Since most of the people on the beach are nude, no one will mind if you bring your dive gear - with no wetsuit).


However, I'd have to say that is not a particularly great area for diving - except for the fact that you might very likely get to see a pod of dolphins up close (or from below). But you can also seem them just swimming or snorkelling.
You'd have to get your tank(s) in Hilo since that's the closest dive shop or bring them from the Kona side - where the best of the islands diving is to be found. There are many semi-secluded spots on the Kona side of the Big Island but there are not any truly nude beaches like Kehena.
 
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But I can't believe my luck; you're in the islands?!!!

I have been invited to a New Year's eve party, and the host has insisted all us guys wear a sarong or pareo, and nothing else. No problem freeballing it, but don't have a clue as to how to put on a sarong. Can you give me any tips, or instructions? Would be very greatful. I have this image in my head, I'm in the buffet line, plate of food in one hand, glass of wine in the other, and suddenly a sarong down around my ankles.


Yeah, have checked out other freeballing sites, they are ok but this one seems really insightful and helpful too.

Please let me hear from you again sometime, not just for dressing lessons, but would enjoy tales from being bare-over-there....Leo
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=========================================Toru Ueno wrote:

[FONT="georgia"][FONT=&quot]Hope you do get inspired and start getting your all over tan again -- then you'll join the sunbuns club (not actually a real one-- I just mean being a freeballing nudist).

I love being naked whenever I can -- I was NOT allowed the privilege of doing so as you did as a teenager -- so I spend a lot of time doing so now.

This week will go nude hiking in the Anza-Borrego State Park of California, then go nude camping and nude beaching on the Big Island of Hawaii, then will be nude on Oahu for a few more days.[/FONT][/FONT]

I love the freeballing site -- mainly because it is NOT much about sex (I am not against sex by any means) but freeballing.com about a free life style and I like how so many different guys freely intermingle and talk about things.

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[FONT="courier new"][FONT=&quot]Hey stud, I have been poking around on the freeballing site and saw your name: sunbuns. Boy did it bring back memories.
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[FONT="courier new"][FONT=&quot]I grew up on a farm, 88 acres, all deserted. I used to roam those fields and play in the creeks. From the time I was 12 till I was 17, I did it nude. It was wonderful. I kept an all over tan , one day some one noticed and called me sunbuns. I haven't heard that in 15 years. Living in a city now, no place to run around bare -assed outside is something I missed without realizing I did miss it. Anyway, seeing that name brought back such truly good memories, I had to drop you a line and tell you. Perhaps it will inspire me to do something about it. Thanks again for making my day, no my weekend...Leo[/FONT][/FONT]

 


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Someone asked me about wearing a sarong. It's easier just to give you the link below on how to tie a sarong (there is a list of instructions at the both of the page).

http://www.1worldsarongs.com/sartiesusetc.html

It sounds like a fun party you'll be attending - great idea too for the sarongs -- I'll go out clubbing on Dec 31 in Waikiki, then spend part of Jan 1 nude on Diamond Head Beach or at Sandy Beach (East Oahu) out passed Hawaii Kai. I'll be sure to wear mine or my Japanese yukata.


Yeah, I love wearing my sarongs -- I have several one of which is a mesh-like, see-thru material. Here are some pics of me wearing it and not quite wearing it . They always give you an excellent 'innocent' opportunity to flash dick or buns.

I am standing on Red Road just 500 ft from Kehena Black Sands beach (nude beach). That's where I'll be on Christmas Day until New Year's Eve. I am nude on the beach and wear my mesh sarong walking back to the camping place (Kalani) -- can't wait. Before that I'm going to go hiking nude in the southern California. (between San Diego and Palm Springs).



< -- Photo just above is one of this blog's author.

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From: leo chat Leo wrote:

Hey stud, do I ever envy you. I have some great memories my nude freedom from days gone ,especially at 16, but none like yours. It really is inspiring. I used to love the sun burning my skin, and the feel of a slight breeze on my balls and nipples. Damn, I wish I were there.


 
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5. 'Ni' comes from Japanese character for SUN -- since the Chinese were the ones who named it island country to their east -- Land of the Rising Sun (or the Origin of the Sun - that is what NIPPON or NIHON means. (These are actually Chinese brought their 'kanji' - the character writing system) to Japan when Buddhist missionaries came to the islands to spread their religion.
So 'Nikkei' (or some variations on this) would also work as PC-neutral words to describe hot men from Japan or men who are ethnically Japanese in origin. 'Nikkei' --means Ethnic Japanese (related ethnically to Japan). For example, 'nisei or nissei' are used to mean second-generation (Japanese origin emigrants (such as Hawaiian and Brazilian Japanese - some of whose families have lived in the places for nearly a 100 years).


'Nichi' has some similarity -- it sort of like Sino-Soviet (Sino - means China\Chinese) -- in the same way, 'nichi' means Japanese, or related to Japan. Japan-American relations is translated: nichibei (Bei is 'rice' - The Chinese named their own country the CENTRAL COUNTRY and the name the US (the RICE country) -- which is much better than BUSH COUNTRY although I guess it is C.RICE country in a matter of speaking if we remember who is the "face" of America to foreign nations (i.e. Condoleeza).
So nichiboi could work, right?



Hey, I could on but I'd better stop already since nobody but other editors (or writers, Japanophiles) probably give a damn.

However, whatever we call them, men who like male-to-male sex in Japan can be HOT!
I was just in the glorious company last night of a beautiful, masculine Japanese male who really enjoyed getting his ass split wide ('wari-ketsu' - Japanese for buttfucking). It was anonymous sex at one of the local Tokyo bathhouses -- I was enamored at first sight - -trailed him for about 1 hour (and he me) until finally we both scored in the huge bunk room. Man, did he take it like one! This is not bragging - it was just a dream or dream cum true! Obviously, this pic is NOT me and him - he looks a hell of a lot better and was not grimacing in pain but was really enjoying the experience of getting his tailbone polished -- from the inside! It was a hot night on ol' Tokyo town last night since we were igniting the futons.


(Photos are used gratuit here atsfree advertisement for their producers)
Mata ne... Kelly (sunbuns99 - JUB)


 





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[/FONT][/FONT]J-Boy -- Admiring Japanese gay porn and being PC is this a contradiction or not.


I lived for years and still often travel for work in Japan (among many other places) - if you follow my blog (or check the previous entries, it will no doubt be evident. While I am not japaphillic or 'rice queen' (or a Japan maniac or more properly termed Japanophile), it does figure large in my consciousness because it occupied and still does much of my life's journey.


Recently on the JUB Blog, there was some discussion
about the use (pro-con) fo the word: 'Jap boy'. So most of what I wrote here is part of the discussion and in response and by way of 'illuminating' it with my own experience, and my own knowledge of Japanese culture and sensibilties (and not only homerotic ones).


The j-boi porn (selected pics) and that discussion can be seen at:
http://www.**********.com/archive/2005/12/japan_pictures_3.html


I don't there you'll totally convince some people that it IS or isn't PC -- so (in the future) maybe you can try out some these -- perhaps equally attractive/exotic - which might be less pc-allergenic (my own coined phrase to describe this type of betwist and between 'semantic' debate.


1. Jap. Boi (the period connotes an abbreviation)


2. Japan Boyz (easy to say that Japanese)


3. J-boya , J-boyatachi (adding 'tachi' makes it plural - i.e. - boys/bois/boyz/boys to men)


a) 'J' is used in Japan like 'e', or 'i' is used for e-mail and ipod It denotes a new cultural norm. So in Japan now, the J League (without the hyphens/spaces) means the Japanese Professional Soccer League(s). J-pop is Japanses popular music (especially for the younger generation) -- Get it? So j-boys or Jboys or J Boyz would not or should offend but is actually in vogue (fashion - trendy ('to-ren-dee')- as the Japanese say.



b. boya (and its various variations) is areal Japanese word.'boya' or 'botchan' 'botchama' are real Japanese terms (not slang but not formal vocabulary either) for a type of young man or boy - typically he's well-healed, a bit pampered, -- I think "dandy" might be the closest word related to it in English usage.
Some hypercritical may say it connotes a too young image (a small male child) for this channel (JUB) but that is not the case - and there is a different type of language 'police' in Japan anyway. -- Refuting the use of "boya" is would be like prohibiting gays from saying 'I like that boy' - for fear that he's revealing himself as a pederast (sex abusing child molester) -- like duh!


4. Nippon Danshi / Otoko / Kare / Kareshi
a. Nippon or Nihon (both are used) are the real Japanese for their own country. So that was the origin of the formerly perjorative word, 'nip' - but in the case of Kinniku (muscle) Boys in the video shots -- it seems to be true in both senses: Nipple nippers -- Nip Nip Nippon! Get ON the nips !.
b. Danshi / Otoko / Kare / Kareshi are Japanese for male, man, he(him)/ my 'he'(meaning 'my boyfriend') and would connote a Japanese male (not necessarily a gay one, of course).
 
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As a teen, my Mom discovers evidence of my masturbation


FB23, well, I am not sure if you are totally embarrassed by your mom catching you in a state of erection while freeballing or if you found it
somewhat stimulating. It was bad enough for me when I mom found the dirty towel I had been using to wipe up cum after I masturbated (when I was a high school student). She had evidently gone through my drawers and found it buried at the back where I thought it was hidden. She brought it to me later, all washed and folded, and said something like - "it would be better to use paper tissue." I was mortified.


No, I'm not from Singapore, but like to travel there - although it is more often a stopping point on the way elsewhere. I often travel and still have business connections in Japan where I used to live. So I get to China, Thailand, Malaysia, etc - often via Singapore (or Hong Kong). You asked about me -- you can find some of my details and also my blog at:




Actually, that is one thing I really like about the http://www.freeballing.com site - it is not generally a cruising zone - guys don't generally ask about intimate details or look for hook-up (sexual encounters) while posting on this site. That generally happens elsewhere - such as http://www.dudesnude.com or http://www.manhunt.net or
http://www.gay.com
I do find all types of men attractive - both culturally and physically. -- I am not simply interested in one type either, but there are certainly some great looking Asian guys. Yes, I do recognize that there is as much physical differences between men from various regions of Asian as there are between Latinos and Scandinavians. I am not really sure people who haven't spent a lot of time travelling or who don't live in as ethnically diverse places - -such as a city like Singapore, Toronto, New York City, Honolulu, or San Francisco, or London, that they will readily recognize physical difference between individuals that they broadly classify as white, hispanic or asian, etc. [Look closely at the pic - the 3 guys are clearly freeballing. What's more - you can see that the middle guy is also peek-a-boo flashing - which I find totally hot!]


 






Excepts from an online dialogue about freeballing, men in Asia, and accidentally exposing (to family members) Oh, those embarrassing moments....
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FB23 wrote: Hey, I'm from Singapore. 23 chinese. i've been freeballing since Junior College. tats little experience in the art as compared to most of the guys here. wanna know are there any guys from Singapore who dig having no underwear binding your goods?

I'm now studying at uni. I started out mornings wearing some snug jeans to school. Sometimes when i get horny, I have major hardons. No one could see me in the back rows and I sometimes rub my jeans under the desk. I reached that point where I really needed to blow, but also I know its wrong and would be a mess. It felt so good. Doing my situps nvr felt so liberating too. Haha. Doing my chin ups was also a breeze, i could feel the wind rush up round my cock. really quite shiok. Wonder if the guy helping me knew a not.

I've seen guys walking in the heartlands and its almost certain they dont wear undies, i mean, their bulge is quite obvious under their cotton berms and u can almost see it swinging. Do u know what i mean? My point is although i freeball more nowadays, i still dont dare to go out like those guys. But i really wanna be one of those guys. Recently bought some similar berms from the pasar malam but i'm hesitant to wear it without undies. any Help?

freeballing is definitely a lifestyle choice for me. never felt more liberated. only thing is how people may view my bulging crotch whenever i get hard, especially in sch. haha. might be fun....

====================================== Sunbuns wrote back:
Hey, guy. I'm surprised nobody has written back to congratulate you on choosing the freeballing lifestyle. I was away from my PC since Dec 22 or I would have done so sooner.Some of the 'side-effects' you've mentioned are pretty common and you are NOT be the first guy who gets horny enough in long lectures to rub his cock and fantasizing about something or somebody else.

Hey, you don't even have to be freeballing to get that way but I think the initial few weeks of fb only heightens your awareness of your body, your cock and your sense of manhood. Keep it up and let us know how things are coming along [pun intended].
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Thanks really for the msg and the motivation. I've been going without undies all this while and am really getting the hang of it, haha, pun intended. The only incident worth mentioning is probably that i kinda flashed my mum the other day while dozing of on the sofa. I was wearing those short shorts that they sell at the market and was sure i had a semi-erection going on. What I wasn't sure was that my erection had actually gone down my leg hole and the fabric and ride up while i laid there. I only realize it when my mom just stood there with her mop in one hand. Worse thing was that i got more and more aroused when i became conscious that someone was looking. My cock erected fully and pushed back fabric to literally reveal itself to my mum in all its glory. And I didn't wana get up at all cause i really had no idea how to respond. i had to wait and pretend to be dozing the whole time til she went away before i quietly crept back to my room so u can kinda say that my mum saw my really hard cock! Luckily, she didn't mention it at all after that U're from? Singapore? How old are u? When did u start freeballing?


 
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The spirit is willing but the flash is week day and weekend!
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Jerking off in a local river ( inspired by seeing soccer boy butts)


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As I said, I was inspired to try out some innocent naked exposure on my own -- hardly innocent - but not malicious either. Who knows maybe there was someone with a camera, taking photos of my naked body - just as I had done with the frisbee team above.

About 4:30pm when the fisherman leave the river (most have on waders and are out flying fishing), I move from near the side of the frisbee soccer field on down to the river's edge. There is a grassy / bushy area between the field area and the river banks, which is lower, flat but wdie, and partially hidden - except from people who are either on the river's edge or who are standing on the other side of the river. It's covered in smooth rounded rocks and pebbles.
I strip and wear my wrap-around (pareo) to get into the water. Then remove it and swim in the very shallow cool and clean (mostly clean) water. It's not the muddy crap you see in China or some other Asian nations. The water in Japan is mostly clean so much so that you're tempted to drink it - and probably could without risk. The people in Japan are proud of their water and a lot of public works money is spent to ensure its quality and efficiency.

I start jerking my cock and it gets hard, knowing that someone might be able to see me -- either from the opposite banks, or the apartment building balconies just beyond that. Other 'viewers' might suddenly come down the embankment from behind me and interrupt my masturbating, but that only serves to get me more excited. Two teenage boys are fishing at my left down the river - they could have looked up - to see a naked male figure on the horizon. I keep looking to see if they noticed - but had no indication that they ever did.


If anybody gazes in my direction for a little while, they would see the regular pumping movements of my arm and a hand that's moving back and forth at my crotch. I'm not going to stand up - it's not even 5 pm and the sun is still one hour before setting - bathing me in soft yellowish light. Before long, my cum mingles with the mossy rocks and flows rapidly away downstream.

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Summer's dwindling away slowly here. But the sunny days are no longer so humid; school's getting started so that brings out teams and athletic groups. Fortunately, we've had few typhoons (Pacific hurricanes) so far this season).

Instead of spending all summer abroad (US/Europe), I returned to JP and have had a few weeks off. Lucky for me, it means trips locally (by bike), into the big city (for the gay baths) or further away. Just minutes by bicycle from my house is a (usually) shallow river that has large flat flood-zone embankments which are used for recreation areas.

I've been spending lots of time there - sunny myself (almost naked or sometimes completely - SEE NEXT article). I was pleasantly surprised recently to be flashed (accidental exposure - really) by some college age frisbee soccer dudes. (see pics below)
The best 'exposing' was done on a Sunday afternoon. But unfortunately, I didn't have my camera. I went back two days later and the same group was practicing. This time I got some photos; however, the two hottest guys who naked 'incidents' I wrote about in the blog entry (below) weren't as exhibitionistic as before.

Still ... I think you can get a flavor of what I was seeing before - since their undressing after practice lasted over a 15-20 minute period.

They are not intentionally flashing anybody - except maybe each other - although I can't see why they wouldn't know that anybody (like the white American guy sitting around the field) could be watching or even people passing on the walkway above them. However, I found it so ironic that they could so easily get naked -- since Japanese are so shy in some aspects of their individual personalities and social culture. Paradoxically, people in groups can get away with almost anything if the 'group's' mores/norms allow it.

It was both intriguing and downright sexy to watch. Enough so that afterwards, I had to get naked and exposed - on my own. It was easy and ohh so fun .. being inspired to nakedness!

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He kind of stumbled as if he didn't know what to say.. and I shook his hand and said goodbye, and good luck. There was not even a word of polite gratitude. I know my 'act of kindness' was probably not that critical -- maybe a lot of people had given up their seat and changed flights or whatever.. so he might very well have be able to catch it as a stand-by passenger. I felt I learned a slightly bittersweet lesson. People can accept the act of a good Samaritan, but they don't actually appreciate the Samaritan coming back to seek any recognition or acknowledgement.


It was strange how an act of kindness can sometimes be misconstrued. I don't have any real evidence that he felt that way - -but i seemed so apparent in his reaction to seeing me suddenly appear in San Diego - he looked shocked or suddenly fearful. I just knew he was thinking the worst was about to happen.


Later that night when I discovered that my red-eye flight to Chicago had been cancelled, I thought to myself "No good deed goes unpunished."

I hadn't told anyone this story - and just remembered it when I thought of Abe (some I know who lives in Phoenix - an online-only acquaintance) whom I accidentally found that as a friend of a friend on a popular social networking site). I told him by e-mail privately but later decided to write it as a blog entry because it also strikes at the root of something that really bothers me about American society - the Victimization of the American Teen. We hear nothing more powerfully damaging to our psycho-social status (as gay males) than to be lumped into a category of CHILD MOLESTER. The fear of 'child molestation' is now so pandemic that it is affects how ALL men and women either as parents, teachers, or just innocent bystanders are treating (or ignoring) the education and socialization of children, adolescents and young adults.


I will some day write more about this issue.




 
This plane was supposed to have departed at 8:45 or so, but due to mechanical trouble (Uh oh!) it had been delayed until a nearly 11:00am departure. Now I was sitting on it, and waiting impatiently for it to depart, wondering if Steven, the high school hottie (he makes Zac Efron look like a dork).


Oh well.. I wondered if I should have encouraged him to come along and catch this flight - instead of taking a chance that my giving up my flight on that flight would actually benefit him. There seemed to be plenty of extra seats on this flight. I could have insisted (as Premier Exec) that Steven's bag be pulled and that he get on this flight with me -- so we would have had a chance to get to know each other better.


He really was a sweet, affable young man. He dreamed of being an athlete, but he was also realistic about his chances of becoming a professional one. So his 'backup' career was to become a sports injury rehabilitation therapist. Maybe the idea of massaging injured athletes' muscled legs and bulky arms or broken bones was appealing to him.. the thought of which certainly got my juices stirring.


When the plan was landing, I realized that my other flight should be landing at about the same time.






Although I thought better of it (for a moment), I know I just had to find out if he had made it or not to San Diego on that flight. So I asked at the gate where we deplaned and found out what gate his planed had landed at. By the time I got there, the passengers had already disembarked so I ran to baggage claim.


There he was waiting around the baggage carousel for his bags.. It first he appeared not to notice me or to not recognize me.. but I waved anyway. I seemed strange that he would look surprised to see me. Then it dawned that he was actually worried to see me. He'd changed this shirt (maybe just taken off his team jersey) and removed his baseball cap - more like he was trying to disguise himself. It made me realize that his parents had probably warned him of the possibility of a my being a stalker or a child molester roaming the airport in Phoenix, trying to pick up teen boys.


Maybe it wasn't anything like that at all... since he probably had assumed by earlier 'flight' had longer ago arrived -- well before his - but in reality our planes landed just minutes apart.


Despite all these thoughts flashing through my head, I knew I really done what I did for him - as a selfless act. I wasn't going to let his possibility misconstruing my act prevent me from greeting him. I didn't let those fears deter me...so I came up to him smiling and told him I just want to know if he'd make it safely and on that flight. I explained that my flight did leave Phoenix until just little while before his - so that why we landed just minutes apart. He seemed pre-occupied. Maybe he was afraid I'd grab him .. he was not the same boy who had so easily and self-confidently spoken to me just a couple of hours before.
 


My plane dropped into PHX airport on Dec 31 at 9:30am and while waiting for my connecting flight to San Diego, I met this very cute (and apparently str8) high school teen boy-jock next to me in the airport lounge. He started the conversation because there was a lone sparrow flying around in the waiting area. He was also going to San Diego but was on stand-by... without much hope of getting home until an evening flight (according to the US Airways ground staff).


We kept talking - I was in a generous and talkative mood.. he seemed to be a genuinely sweet kid and showed interest when I mentioned where I was traveling from (and to). We got into a conversation about his future career possibilities and I encouraged him to consider trying to actualize his dreams and to actually get into medical school - not just sports therapy.





His parents had sent to Phoenix for a week-long professional league baseball camp. He is still a sophomore in high school. We also got on the topic of gun control and he was claiming that Arizona' less strict gun control laws and restrictions on private citizens owning and bearing arms were a much stronger deterrent to illegal hand guns than in his native state of California. We were both enjoying the lively banter... and the sparrow still kept flying around -- in and among all the busy in the busy airport lounger - to our amusement.


A bit later, the airline gate staff called for anybody who had no checked luggage and who would be willing to give up their seat to go on another flight (actually an earlier one that had been delayed in departing). I told the kid (Steven age 15) that I was going to go on that flight so that he could get a seat. I was just about ready to adopt him when he said that he wanted to come with me (nothing 'sexual' intended I presume). He followed me up to the other gate but I made him go back and stay with the flight that had his bag.


He kept saying he enjoyed talking to me...... I was very flattered.




So after a rather long and unanticipated wait again on the jetway, this plane eventually departed and the again still-further delayed flight reached San Diego only a few minutes before the one that Steven (hopefully) was on.





I couldn't help striking up a conversation with the woman next to me. She and her daughter were returning from a visit to her family (parents) in Phoenix and she had only been able to get this flight - since evidently everything was completely booked all day long to San Diego. We figured it probably had something to do with increased air travel to the greater LA area for the New Year's Day Rose Parades (and / or Bowl games).
 
[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]I had left a strong warning posted from Dec 19-Jan 9 to this effect. I realize that the 'smurfs' I will l be targeting in the disinfestation will probably never even read (or aren't capable of reading) what I write on my profile page.[/FONT][/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]I will now begin putting my Flickr house-cleaning resolutions into practice. It's a right I've earned. I have 45,000 photos uploaded and now over 180,000 views of my photostream. I am a paying Flickr member, too -- well into the second year of my pro account. I have also 'donated' pro accounts to more than one worthy 'newbie' photographer.[/FONT][/FONT]

[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]Repeated again ...so LISTEN UP! DO NOT INVITE ME OR MY PRIVATE PHOTOS TO ANY GROUP THAT YOU YOURSELF HAVE NOT FIRST CONTRIBUTED 50 or more photos. I will remove SUCH slackers FROM MY CONTACT LIST.[/FONT][/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]WARNING 2 : STATE you are OF LEGAL AGE (18 years old or older) Don't add me unless you will NOT be offended by nudity or male arousal / sensuality. You should be responsible for your own personal behavior foremost, but please protect and honor MY US legal responsibilties, too. I don't think it's IMMORAL in the least and welcome anyone but, nevertheless, the US Congress has a somewhat different value system and the legal authority and power to enforce their injunctions. Flickr seems bound to help upholding those laws - for which I can't blame them (it's a company - owned by Yahoo after all).[/FONT][/FONT]
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[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]I believe their behavior clearly brands them as selfish, greedy and lazy people. With no other recourse to deal with these people, I will simply REMOVE them from my CONTACTS henceforth. I don't wish to be hassled about my decisions either. Once you've corrected your personality (and Flickr) 'problem,' you're free to invite me to be a Flickr contact again at any time in the near (or far) future.
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[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]The typical retort (response / rebuttal) by people I have confronted about this goes something like this: " Well. what's your problem anyway? Just delete the damned Flickrmail then you won't be bothered again because you'll not get another invitaion. " Oh yeah? Like DUH! It is so not true. On the very next day (or week) the same person or one of dozens of similar Flickr slime-bucket types creates another 5 to 10 dumb-ass 'public or private groups' and then sends out his or her (almost no women in fact do this) thousands of Flickrmail spams .(Some people evidently collect Flickr friends like bottle caps.) What's just as bad are the NON-COMMENTS that are simply invitations by Flickr Group Admin-termites to add a 'chosen' photo to his group.[/FONT][/FONT]

[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]If there were just a few of these Flickr smurfs and a just few messages or comments per week, I might not have exploded like this. But in their heyday (last December 2007), I got anywhere from 10 - 30 or more such messages a day (invitations to join or to send a certain pic to their group via a comment invitation), so I can't and won't just IGNORE the problem. Just deleteing those 20-30-50 email/Flickrmails and hope they go away is NOT working. Obviously, you should be able to sense that from my very first lines above........ . I am going on the warpath:[/FONT][/FONT]

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[/FONT][FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot] So... receiving dozens of junk mails that are anonymous, impersonal canned invitations to join a meaningless ego-pumping porn-photo 'pool' party from somebody with whom I have never even spoken or even SEEN their photos or received any comments about my own pics or (porn collectiion) is an insult and an affront to the spirit of Flickr 'friendship'.[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]

Running a group should be a leadership role:




[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]Moreover, I take a very different attitude (and stricter) to would-be 'leaders' -- people who assume that by just starting a Flickr group (a leadership behavior), it gives them some kind of rights, authority or influence -- without demonstrating an equally serious commitment to that job or any real comprehension of their responsibilities AS A LEADER and apparently without feeling required to show much personal integrity either - are simply smurfs (not worth the paper their fakes asses are printed on!).
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[FONT=&quot;times new roman&quot;][FONT=&quot]Decent, sensible and considerate Flickr Friends and would-be Contacts can go directly back to the ABOUT ME section in my Flickr Profile: sunbuns on Flickr http://www.flickr.com/people/sunbuns[/FONT][/FONT]
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All of these places have a central type of clientele that makes them successful.


[The photo of the ass on the left is this blog's author.]

Try to find out what the clientele will be in your area? RVers only (aging baby boomers - which are still a forced to be reckoned with) or a mix of gay and gay-tolerant YUPs (young urban professionals). My impression is that today's affluent gay baby-boomers can afford and want more from an outdoor (camping resort) type vacation.

Having stuff (eating / activities / consumer-oriented (shop/gifts,classes/culture, etc or even entertainment) for guests that could also be used by passers-throug or short or day-time visitors and local residents might generate income -- of course, it makes the business larger and somewhat more difficult to manage -- In that case then, you cannot do it alone.

These might include:
a shop for local artisans or locally made food products/souvenirs), a museum of "___", a theater (for performing arts, music, gay plays, film festival, or not... ), classes and seminars (yoga , dance, bodywork, massage, spiritual training, arts/crafts, artists-in-resident, etc), gym-workout facilities, with sauna/jacuzzi


Staffing them becomes your second biggest problem -- (not always a problem since if you pay well and have good working conditions and know how to manage people effectively, your resort could become a very nice place to work. You would be able to recruit instead of just taking any Tom, Dick or Harry who needs a job.

Well ... I've given you the $2500 lesson in business planning ... send a check (LOL) to Sunbuns Consulting, Inc. -- just kidding. But you might have a great idea -- do you have the stamina, energy, vision, and drive to accomplish it? Do you the money or the source of funding for such a project? (Note: More of the first three qualities are needed than the latter.)

Hey... I've been to several such outdoors-oriented camping resorts in many locations (internationally and in the US).
A couple of examples are: Timberfell Lodge in Tennessee and Kalani Oceanside Resort (kalani.com) - they are representative of the kind of place that I would build if I were doing this business.
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