On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[Taralen]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

All, but one, of my male friends are straight; the remaining one is bi.

I am perfectly comfortable around straight men and they seem very comfortable around me.

Although I love them as people, I don't find any of them sexually attractive; I like/love them for who they are.

Well every straight man I find attractive.

Just the allure of him being straight and so manly, with no agendas.

Majority of gay men, to me turn me off. Unless he's like masculine and roughneck. That's just me.

What's worse is straight acting gay men who I have signs and feelings might be gay, turn out to be total assholes to me when they come out.

I've had so many bad experiences with gay men.

 

[Zeno Lorea]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Most of my friends are straight men. They are man enough to be friends with me. But I've known others who weren't.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

Questions like these make me realize how fortunate I am to be who I am and have the friends I have.

Obviously race and sexuality effect life... But I have a ton of straight friends, a ton of gay friends, a ton of friends of various colors, and plenty who land on spots all over the masculine/feminine spectrum. The ones I consider close friends and even the acquaintances are invested enough in my life to want to know who I'm seeing and what I'm doing with my life. I'm blessed.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

My best friend who is a brother to me is indeed straight. Not that serious.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

I almost answered, but it's not going to solve anything for you. You come up with different titles, but it always boils down to the same thing. You're obsessed with this and looking for answers that we can't give you because they won't make any difference at all.

It's not about me, it's about you. This is a general topic.

 

[Alistair]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Yes.....

 

[Alistair]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

It's not hard....

 

[medic1]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Please mate, just for once can you not say that you are an effeminate gay black man, who looks like a schoolkid. Every post you make, you just have to be sure to include that about yourself.

As to the question: Yes, i believe and i know that gay and straight men can be friends, and gasp, horror. Even very close friends.

It saddens me that you "seem" to have had only bad experiences when it comes to friendship with others of a differing sexuality.

Perhaps that is telling you something about yourself, and not them?

 

[Alistair]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

No......

 

[Alistair]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Please mate, just for once can you not say that you are an effeminate gay black man, who looks like a schoolkid. Every post you make, you just have to be sure to include that about yourself.

As to the question: Yes, i believe and i know that gay and straight men can be friends, and gasp, horror. Even very close friends.

It saddens me that you "seem" to have had only bad experiences when it comes to friendship with others of a differing sexuality.

Perhaps that is telling you something about yourself, and not them?

It's because he's just cutting and pasting threads that he's created on other forums. Just spamming and baiting the place.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

I was never aware, you never mentioned this before.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Please mate, just for once can you not say that you are an effeminate gay black man, who looks like a schoolkid. Every post you make, you just have to be sure to include that about yourself.

As to the question: Yes, i believe and i know that gay and straight men can be friends, and gasp, horror. Even very close friends.

It saddens me that you "seem" to have had only bad experiences when it comes to friendship with others of a differing sexuality.

Perhaps that is telling you something about yourself, and not them?

It is.

It tells me that we are all different and it's okay.

Because I'm not acting, this is me. This is who I am.

I don't want to be friends with a closed mined macho guy anyways. Fuck him.

It's the fact I automatically have to make that choice is the fucked up part.

You feel me?

 

[rareboy]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

Yes of course it does. Our race and culture is the frame of reference for everything we do. It is a pretty simple fact. Even when we do something that may not be identified with our race our culture....this stepping outside the boundaries is in the context of our usual experience.

And there is no right or wrong to this.

 

[medic1]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

^To be honest buddy there are times where you have left me scratching my head in awe and frustration....

In this thread i think that i do indeed "feel you", but what i am feeling is a mass of frustration and impotence at your perception that there is nothing you can do about it. There is.

Like every form of help and improvement, the first act has to be performed by you.

I don't think you realise just how many of us are "rooting" for you. It may not be shown often, but it is there.

 

[HoodedRat]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

If 'culture' includes religion then, yes.

I was born into a non-religious family, so I've never suffered any religion-induced guilt over my sexuality.

All the nonsense that the various religious 'prophets', 'teachers', and 'holy' books, say about sexuality is of no importance to me whatsoever.

 

[Telstra]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

I live in Australian "culture" hence i have an Australian lifestyle.
Anyone who don't "assimilate" into Australia lifestyle should consider moving to different country.

 

[medic1]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

Only if you allow it too.

 

[MrRochesterNY]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

This is really a sad thread, because of the mindset of those who think that sexual orientation prohibits or ensures friendship. There is much else that goes into the forming of a friendship, and sexual orientation is not the be-all or end-all of that friendship.

I have friends and I have more casual associates and whether they are straight or gay or pansexual or asexual does not figure in to the picture, although early on in the process of becoming acquainted it may play a small part.

This thread really makes me feel sorry for the OP and I am not very hopeful that he will ever find the love and happiness that he seeks and certainly needs and deserves as a human being.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

Well it's mostly due to things you cannot control or change. You can't control gender roles, and how that defeats a homosexual man. So.

Well, I have been able to manage out in the real world quite well by adapting to provide what it needs from me....pretty much the same way a straight guy would.

For the last 35 years, i have had my partner with me on projects, at meetings......everyone pretty much knows I am a total homo, but I can function in any social or professional setting.

I get that you have real issues with understanding cues and with other behavioural tics...but again, these are the types that you can work on.

I have known many homos in the professional world who are happy, out and unafraid....including men of different races and cultures that are not as accepting of homos......

I don't know what you want us to say. Once again, you'd like us all to validate your own experience by saying #MeToo....but the reality is that each of us has a unique set od experiences and context to live within.

 

[medic1]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Only on the dance floor, when YMCA comes on..............