On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[ballcaphair]

Re: What kind of music do you like?

^ Wow! I thought Clannad was an anime novel series. This is startling to me. See how you make me grow and thanks.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

The fact he's an active member on JUB tells me enough though that we were meant to be together.

This is one of the reasons that I think you need to speak with a real therapist sooner rather than later.

This thread has an underlying obsessive theme about finding a boyfriend on JUB.

There is a disconnect with reality in thinking that just because someone hangs around on the same porn site as you that you are ordained by Heaven to be together. It is great to have a type that you want to have as a boyfriend...it is also fine to have a crush on someone on the internet...but don't confuse this with reality.

You need to work more on training yourself to be likable in real life and functioning well with others, because you write a great deal about not being allowed to join groups or being kicked out of groups or not getting on well with others. This could be the nature of your own Aspergers/high functioning autism and there are many out there who have actually had behavioural training to help them understand how to behave in society.

At any rate, the thread seems to have settled on a theme about this search for a type of BF and hopefully has helped you reduce your levels of frustration and anger.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

They are a ridiculous waste of time. There is no 'force' that will bend other people to your will

You really should focus on developing an approach with people that is a spell in itself....that is, make yourself the kind of person that someone wants to be with.

Thinking that the only way you can find or trap love is with some magic is a deep rabbit hole that you don't want to fall down. You need to focus on the real world and understand cause and effect better.

See my responses to your other thread.

 

[tarallucci]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

No, I have never... I know people who believe in this and have paid for clairvoyance. I just don't get what they were hoping to accomplish.

 

[gsdx]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

They are a ridiculous waste of time. There is no 'force' that will bend other people to your will

Indeed. Even the world's best hypnotist cannot make someone do what they would never consciously do.

 

[swerve]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

Indeed. Even the world's best hypnotist cannot make someone do what they would never consciously do.

Reminded me of a FANTASTIC book:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_Memory_(novel)

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

A good “spell” you could win someone over for Valentine’s Day is a good blowjob.

 

[sixthson]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

What's next? Rohypnol?

 

[Charon]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

No.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

A good “spell” you could win someone over for Valentine’s Day is a good blowjob.

It sure would work for me.

 

[Vannie]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

I want my Mommy

 

[Alistair]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

What's next? Rohypnol?

Oh dear, I guess that's one way

I think I'd try a nice lasagna instead.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

This is one of the reasons that I think you need to speak with a real therapist sooner rather than later.

This thread has an underlying obsessive theme about finding a boyfriend on JUB.

There is a disconnect with reality in thinking that just because someone hangs around on the same porn site as you that you are ordained by Heaven to be together. It is great to have a type that you want to have as a boyfriend...it is also fine to have a crush on someone on the internet...but don't confuse this with reality.

You need to work more on training yourself to be likable in real life and functioning well with others, because you write a great deal about not being allowed to join groups or being kicked out of groups or not getting on well with others. This could be the nature of your own Aspergers/high functioning autism and there are many out there who have actually had behavioural training to help them understand how to behave in society.

At any rate, the thread seems to have settled on a theme about this search for a type of BF and hopefully has helped you reduce your levels of frustration and anger.

So if there is nothing wrong, why are you once again trying to blockade me into making myself happy?

THIS IS REALITY.

That's my only issue. Rareboy this is not a role playing game or fan fiction, or something like that.

I can understand if it were.

This message board is very much reality.

 

[tarallucci]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Hey Taralen... I'm sorry that you are struggling, and like I've said before I agree that being gay is like some kind of a curse... especially in particular situations... but try to be positive... don't let the pessimism control your life. I won't believe you don't have things that make you happy.

It's not true we don't care. Everyone is cool enough here in their own way, so many funny threads and thoughtful posts in the help section. I remember asking you something in a post comment but never got a reply.

Sometimes it's our choice we want to look more at the negative side. Not true bears only like bears. Not true a black feminine guy can't be attractive

I see you like music (haven't been able to post in that thread yet), make friends through your hobbies, be nice and don't be obsessed with the idea of finding a partner.

 

[72-Jay]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

The thought has never even crossed my mind. I'm not into spells or magic or anything like that....

 

[mikey3000]

Re: What kind of music do you like?

 

[Rickrock]

Re: Love spells/Voodoo Magic

Generally, I don't believe in that and don't believe that they work. At times I have wondered if sometimes a spell can be done by evil forces, like the devil, and does temporarily work, but in the end it has a bad ending.

I think I'll just go with no they don't work and never do one.

 

[72-Jay]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FINDING A GUY ON AN ONLINE FORUM DEDICATED TO GAY FUCKING MEN. UGH.
True there is certainly nothing wrong with finding a guy on a forum...
...but there is also the simple fact that it may not happen.

Fuck meetup. Racist ass and homophobic ass site. I tried to join groups and they wouldn't let me.

I've went to a few meetups from local groups, and there was never anything like that.
but I guess things would vary allot from one location and/or group to the next.

I go to LGBT events but they don't like me.

I've went to events too (like pride) in the past & didn't notice anything like that. I ofcourse never made an effort to to try to meet or talk to anyone or anything like that when there...I was for all practical purposes just another invisible face in the crowd

 

[Dominus]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

OP, I'm beginning to think you feel people don't like you rather than they actually don't like you. In other words, it's internal rather than anything else.

The thing about crowds like pride and dance clubs or bars is most people tend to stick with their friends. Don't get me wrong, I have my own insecurities just as much as anyone else. But the few times that I actually had the guts to insert myself into another group, they have always accepted me with open arms.

It's more of your own psychology than anything else.

 

[Happenis1]

Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

So if there is nothing wrong, why are you once again trying to blockade me into making myself happy?

THIS IS REALITY.

That's my only issue. Rareboy this is not a role playing game or fan fiction, or something like that.

I can understand if it were.

This message board is very much reality.

If you're not happy then you're just screwed.

People can sense negative energy and bad vibes from a million miles away. If that's what your giving off then no wonder you're not having much success.

This is why you gotta work on yourself first before putting yourself out there.You gotta build that foundation first before the tree can grow..