On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[rareboy]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

We knew very little about our teachers private lives when I was in school.

It doesn't matter if a teacher is LGBTQ and out.

The only thing that matters is that all teachers should be supportive of their LGBTQ students.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Someone needs to get laid badly.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

We knew very little about our teachers private lives when I was in school.

It doesn't matter if a teacher is LGBTQ and out.

The only thing that matters is that all teachers should be supportive of their LGBTQ students.

I'm still not understanding why this is supposed to work outside of superficially connecting the teacher to the student. Just because someone is gay doesn't make them a role model. Taralen is gay so if he became a teacher he would be the leader guiding the young, lost homosexual student and I can't count the ways that [STRIKE]could[/STRIKE] would go wrong.

And the thread took an extremely creepy turn with his "stories." I was waiting for him to go "Then my teacher accidentally spilled his coffee on his shirt and had to take it off."

 

[rareboy]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

Yes it is okay.

It may severely limit a person's choices and life experience, but that is all it is.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

Once you are able to differentiate fantasy from reality, i don't think so.

Quoted for truth.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

We all know that racism and discrimination exists across all of society.

And since the internet was created I think I've read about a thousand threads with the same topic. And have pointed out that sucking cock doesn't inoculate against atavistic behaviour.

It doesn't stop at the doorway of the LGBTQ community.

It is why civilized societies actually have to have laws that protect people from the existential danger that racists present.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

We all know that racism and discrimination exists across all of society.

And since the internet was created I think I've read about a thousand threads with the same topic. And have pointed out that sucking cock doesn't inoculate against atavistic behaviour.

It doesn't stop at the doorway of the LGBTQ community.

It is why civilized societies actually have to have laws that protect people from the existential danger that racists present.

Atavistic. There's my new word for the day.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

Yes, because all kids need role models. Gay teachers are a role model for gay children. And for the straight ones.

The other day I was at a restaurant and there was only one child, a boy with his father and a French woman who must have been his father's new girlfriend. They were sitting nearby and I could hear them talk. The boy had a bunch of miniature action figures and was explaining to his dad that there was one thing he didn't approve about his superheroes: "They are all boys! This one is the only girl. Well, and this one is boy who looks like a girl. Maybe he feels more like a girl and will become one, I don't know." The woman asked "but do you like him?" To which the boy looked up surprised and said "of course. But we still need more girl superheroes."

The kid got these liberal values from being exposed to them. More kids need that experience.

Being 'open' about your sexuality doesn't equate to sharing 'liberal values' though. Straight guys with a photo of their wife usually don't go around proselytizing on the values of marriage and monogamy, like two of my previous science teachers worked into their lectures. While a photo on the desk might give an indication that there's a gay teacher it's what they're actually taught that makes a difference. And they shouldn't be teaching anything but their subject, professionally speaking.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

Yes, because all kids need role models. Gay teachers are a role model for gay children. And for the straight ones.

The other day I was at a restaurant and there was only one child, a boy with his father and a French woman who must have been his father's new girlfriend. They were sitting nearby and I could hear them talk. The boy had a bunch of miniature action figures and was explaining to his dad that there was one thing he didn't approve about his superheroes: "They are all boys! This one is the only girl. Well, and this one is boy who looks like a girl. Maybe he feels more like a girl and will become one, I don't know." The woman asked "but do you like him?" To which the boy looked up surprised and said "of course. But we still need more girl superheroes."

The kid got these liberal values from being exposed to them. More kids need that experience.

I've got some mortage-based securities I'd like to sell you.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

I've got some mortage-based securities I'd like to sell you.

To be fair, it's a simple judgement error about what's appropriate to learn where and to what extent. I've faith he'll see the distinction in subjects eventually and regulate 'em to the appropriate classroom.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

Being 'open' about your sexuality doesn't equate to sharing 'liberal values' though. Straight guys with a photo of their wife usually don't go around proselytizing on the values of marriage and monogamy, like two of my previous science teachers worked into their lectures. While a photo on the desk might give an indication that there's a gay teacher it's what they're actually taught that makes a difference. And they shouldn't be teaching anything but their subject, professionally speaking.

Not incidentally, it was very much straight marriage and monogamy. One of them had the habit of throwing in 'funny' voices as well as skewing the available data by failing to mention such things as condoms when using lab to 'mention'/preach sti transmission. So no, I don't think teachers should be opining in the classroom on sexual issues outside their teaching degree.

I imagine he eventually got in trouble. Or perhaps not; barring the extreme religious views he managed to work in there he was an excellent teacher. But he shouldn't have been doing that shit in the first place.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Well, to many people with sheltered upbringings, we are that-which-was-spoken-of-in-hushed-tones made flesh. We're the Yeti, the Bigfoot, the Skunk Ape, a close encounter of the third kind. I'm not surprised when they're a bit gobsmacked by it. We're of course used to it, so it's no big deal here.

A Jewish friend told me a story about working in the hinterlands with some "sheltered folks". Afterwards, one of them told her she was very nice, and then, haltingly, asked her where her horns were.

Lex

Well yeah, there's that, too. But I was speaking more of friends, family and casual acquaintances who share a similar background. I've gotten more questions concerning other's (largely hypothetical, according to how the phrasing is articulated and stated) conundrums with emotional and ethical interaction of various sex/relationship styles (as an example) than I know what to do with. Usually shit they've seen in the news or heard through the grapevine.

And I wouldn't mind so much but the questions always contain some big gaping flaws in the knowledge base that have to be cleared up first, because the question as-asked makes no goddamn sense on an intellectual level. To understand a question as it was meant and my answer as it was intended usually means at least a ten minute excruciatingly simple conversation to establish terms and definitions, and then I get to move on to the actual question, and while they've seemingly softened around the edges and have lulled themselves into a sense of ease at the lack of horrified incredulation I'm showin', I'm over here wondering how the hell I indicate that they're still missing most of the detail and great swathes of underlying, interlocking conceptions and that there's no way for me to teach them the great breadth of information that's constructed my opinion in a mere fifteen minute window. And they're loath to research themselves, generally, which doesn't help. Does make me greatful for the sunglasses, though, hides that look of existential horror.

-Not that the questions can't be interesting or that I've never had a useful-for-others conversation but it's rarely "Hey, I've got this cake I'm sharing...."

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Someone needs to get laid badly.

Oh for the love of God no, could you imagine? He's the type to hear wedding bells as soon as you bust, as you quickly yank your pants up and get ready to make that walk of shame he sadly pleads why you're leaving so quickly, even though the first message you sent him was "I'm just lookin to smash and dash." Then he gets mad, blocks you and spams your pics all over social media. Might show up to your job. This one is a certified cray and we really gotta figure out a way to get him some help because these threads are the work of someone who is nearing a breakdown where the best case scenario is he only hurts himself.

 

[jjonn3]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

No. A teachers sexuality, no matter what it is, does not belong in school.

They are there to provide information and learning and that should be the extent of it. If a teacher is gay or straight is something that should have no bearing on the class or the subject matter.

 

[zoltanspawn]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

I don't think there's any need for "discussions" of a teacher's sexuality. But I also don't think there ought to be any special effort to hide it, given that any mention of it is as respectful and tasteful as it ought to be. I certainly remember teachers mentioning their husbands or wives and even dates, with good judgment.

If Miss Lubford is engaged, and eventually becomes Mrs. Crab-Lubford during the school year, a passing reference to the marriage is definitely appropriate. But that minxy Miss Eunice Bartok should keep her sleazy adventures at the Lipstick Lounge to herself.

Isn't it conservative enough to attach what's permissible to talk about to fidelity?

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

I don't think there's any need for "discussions" of a teacher's sexuality. But I also don't think there ought to be any special effort to hide it, given that any mention of it is as respectful and tasteful as it ought to be. I certainly remember teachers mentioning their husbands or wives and even dates, with good judgment.

If Miss Lubford is engaged, and eventually becomes Mrs. Crab-Lubford during the school year, a passing reference to the marriage is definitely appropriate. But that minxy Miss Eunice Bartok should keep her sleazy adventures at the Lipstick Lounge to herself.

Isn't it conservative enough to attach what's permissible to talk about to fidelity?

I'd think that depends on how it's done, wouldn't you? I know I've mentioned this before, but I had a home ec teacher who spent a year planning her wedding on class time. Whereas Miss Bartok could've been asked what she did that weekend and "I had dinner out, went to the X Club and wandered home a bit later than I should, but it was a fine night out all the same" and left it at that.

Good judgement is not always about the specifics of subject matter; it's often about discretion and brevity.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Rationality, I suppose. Just looking for a bit of rationality to the questions, really.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

It's not the same at all.

Tinder is also not the same as Grindr. Tinder is a relationship app, Grindr, (at least based on the advertisements and reputation it has) is a random sex app.

But going back to female escorts and call girls.

A straight man doesn't look at it the same way in the gay culture.

A man calls that girl to take her out to eat and drink and so he can have female companionship.

If they happen to have sex or whatever, so be it, but it's not the same. He usually calls her to keep him company, and mild sex might play in the factor.

With gay men, it's strictly wild hot random anonymous sex, and it's basically prostitution and calling a guy to have sex with.

For example, gay male escorts are not there to be your friend, boyfriend, buddy. He doesn't have time for that.

You call him for dick, and once you get your dick, he's gone.

I know sex is okay, but to me sex should mean something.

I don't want to have sex with Joe Schmoe off Grindr, and after we have sex, I never see him again.

I want to have sex with the man that I love, and he loves me.

You don't hang around with straight people much do you? Believe me they are fucking off Tinder - its a hookup app for most people. Everyones fucking all the time.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Well, to many people with sheltered upbringings, we are that-which-was-spoken-of-in-hushed-tones made flesh. We're the Yeti, the Bigfoot, the Skunk Ape, a close encounter of the third kind. I'm not surprised when they're a bit gobsmacked by it. We're of course used to it, so it's no big deal here.

A Jewish friend told me a story about working in the hinterlands with some "sheltered folks". Afterwards, one of them told her she was very nice, and then, haltingly, asked her where her horns were.

Lex

Sorry, I probably should've used larger quotations around 'outsiders'. So yes, outsiders in the sexuality/relationship sphere, but not outsiders in the overall cultural scheme of things.

On the other hand, I could be missing something subtle.

 

[PalacePaul]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

I guess things are slightly different here in Europe... we fantasize a lot about big black cocks