On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[Happenis1]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

Wow, so you're mad about other races of men refusing to date black men BUT you wouldn't even date a black man yourself? I'm done lol

And if a "black guy" has visible Caucasian features then they're probably mixed-race or at least heavily admixed (and not even actually black unless you're using the outdated "one drop rule").

Anyways, its okay to have a racial dating preference BUT don't be mad if others have one too (that happens to exclude you).

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

Wow, so you're mad about other races of men refusing to date black men BUT you wouldn't even date a black man yourself? I'm done lol

He just totally shot me down because I'm black.

 

[bankside]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

I took a look at that reddit link.

The first person was like “wow that was a really long story to get to the point” and they were not “uninterested in your gay personal life,” they just wanted the story to get to the point.

The next comment mentioned that you always announce being gay and black, and they thought it was odd to repeat yourself so often when the topic is not about sexuality. It’s like they were making the same point as this skit:

You can’t go from that example to say people aren’t interested. It’s just there’s a time when it’s on topic and a time when it’s off topic

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

I took a look at that reddit link.

The first person was like “wow that was a really long story to get to the point” and they were not “uninterested in your gay personal life,” they just wanted the story to get to the point.

I have this problem with every person under the age of 25. Every story they tell has to have every micro-detail, every text message must be dissected even if it's just two words, they can never just say "This is what happened and this is how I reacted." They're worse than old people with the oversharing.

 

[eastofeden]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

I see rejection and acceptance as the same thing...neither are about me..they are about the other guy....

...just like when I accept/reject anyone else..it is about who I am..not them...

...and I have dodged alot of bullets because I was cool with either/or....

Dodging bullets is always advisable

 

[rareboy]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

Because porn is not fantasy. Why fuck is every porn star married to another porn star? Please get real.

It's actual love. You're not gonna do that shit if it didn't have some elements of reality. Because it is real.

Now acting, that is fantasy.

Sex and love scenes in movies and TV are fake. It's very rare that on screen actors that are in romance situations are that way in real life, most of it is fake.

But the adult industry is very much real and the pressures from that are more real.

Yeah it's still art and entertainment in a sense, but it's real.

Pornography is real, and they might be practicing sexual fantasies, but it's not fantasy.

That couple you see on Chaturbate having sex, yeah they aren't acting or playing around. They have kids they need to feed, hence why they are doing that shit. It's real.

You are so wrapped up in having an argument....any argument that you don't even see the fallacies in your own positions or your inability to distinguish real from acting.....even though apparently the topic was about gay for pay.

Seriously. Enough.

You just need to step away from your flood of topics on the board for a few hours (days), get calmed down, seriously look for some counselling help and probably some sleep.

 

[bankside]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

Is it okay to enjoy physical similarities in someone you’re attracted to? Height, weight, build, eye colour, shoulder width, facial features, voice pitch, hairiness, skin colour, bendyness, speed, reflexes, balance, strength.... YES!

Is it okay to enjoy physical differences in someone you’re attracted to? Height, weight, build, eye colour, shoulder width, facial features, voice pitch, hairiness, skin colour, bendyness, speed, reflexes, balance, strength.... YES!

Is it okay to prefer those things again and again, guy after guy, and to have a definite “type.”. Yes. Maybe you limit yourself by being so specific, but that’s your problem.

Is it okay to reject someone who doesn’t match your type? Yup.. You don’t owe people a fuck or a romance. You don’t have to fake it for their sake. If you don’t feel it, you don’t feel it.

Is it okay to switch it up all the time and go after a wide range of guys? Yes indeed. Obvioulsy it’s a good way to increase your chances of meeting someone interesting if you look for the sexiness in all kinds of men.

Is it okay for the guy you think is hot to say “Sorry, not interested...” Yes.

Is it okay to point out what an asshole he is if he’s being a dick about it? Yes.. If you have been up front and take no for an answer, “Eww you freak” does not usually deserve your respect or understanding.

 

[rareboy]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

My love, if he's also attracted to guys like me. His support. Maybe he's dealing with issues as well and I can help him. Just to know that there is another gay guy out there and we were meant for each other.

If you can't/won't fix yourself, you can't fix him.

The two of you would be a co-dependent mess.

Fix yourself first before potentially doing harm to another guy.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

Because porn is not fantasy. Why fuck is every porn star married to another porn star? Please get real.

Probably why cops marry cops, lawyers marry lawyers, it's a unique profession that only someone else in the industry is going to understand and not judge. How many teachers or accountants do you think are out there looking for a porn star to wife up? Marry another pornstar and you don't have to deal with the whole coming out and explaining to their family because they've already been through it. It's sad in a way, must be terribly limiting. But whatevs.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

If you can't/won't fix yourself, you can't fix him.

The two of you would be a co-dependent mess.

Fix yourself first before potentially doing harm to another guy.

I give this speech to about 500 young people every day, real life friends, coworkers, online. It's the #1 relationship sabotage, entering broken thinking someone else is going to fix you.

 

[bankside]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

I have this problem with every person under the age of 25. Every story they tell has to have every micro-detail, every text message must be dissected even if it's just two words, they can never just say "This is what happened and this is how I reacted." They're worse than old people with the oversharing.

Tell me about it!!! So true. I’m trying a new fibre supplement so I had some extra time to browse the net this morning while I was waiting for things to move along, and I missed the start of the morning news.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Well I'm black so my type must be rough-neck thugs with criminal records and 4 baby mamas, right?

That's not what I meant. I meant I'm more attracted to more geeky and nerdy urban square looking guys if I'm gonna be with a "thug" type guy.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

Wow, so you're mad about other races of men refusing to date black men BUT you wouldn't even date a black man yourself? I'm done lol

And if a "black guy" has visible Caucasian features then they're probably mixed-race or at least heavily admixed (and not even actually black unless you're using the outdated "one drop rule").

Anyways, its okay to have a racial dating preference BUT don't be mad if others have one too (that happens to exclude you).

I'm not mad.

People can have preferences, and that's fine.

I just feel it hurts more because I see way more white gay men than black where I live. So it hurts more. The fact I'm more attracted to those guys doesn't help.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

You are so wrapped up in having an argument....any argument that you don't even see the fallacies in your own positions or your inability to distinguish real from acting.....even though apparently the topic was about gay for pay.

Seriously. Enough.

You just need to step away from your flood of topics on the board for a few hours (days), get calmed down, seriously look for some counselling help and probably some sleep.

We are having a discussion.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

If you can't/won't fix yourself, you can't fix him.

The two of you would be a co-dependent mess.

Fix yourself first before potentially doing harm to another guy.

I'm not harming him if it's love. Smh.

 

[Happenis1]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

Because it doesn't appeal to them.

Honestly, I can care less about what chicks Jake from Accounting likes to bang on the weekend? Or what dudes are running a train on Carol from HR tonight lol

 

[Telstra]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

Porn isn't fantasy though. Those are actual people having sex, who may or may not have internal sexual comfortableness with that person.

if they didn't, the fact there is so much gay porn which isn't lovely or romantic.

I'm starting to really hate pornography altogether.

I just want a boyfriend, and I don't want to see straight men naked, because it's not real love, but it's real porn and real action. That's his real dick.

Yes they use stunt cocks in porn, but it's dismissive.

The point is porn is not real, it's actual. People in real life have those fantasies, and are lucky enough to find a partner to do them with.

Then, do NOT watch.
A lot of people learn how to do sexual things from porn. Extreme porn such as fisting probably not good for society.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

Because it doesn't appeal to them.

Honestly, I can care less about what chicks Jake from Accounting likes to bang on the weekend? Or what dudes are running a train on Carol from HR tonight lol

Which in turn causes issues with friendships. It doesn't appeal to them. My relationship being gay doesn't appeal to them.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

Then, do NOT watch.
A lot of people learn how to do sexual things from porn. Extreme porn such as fisting probably not good for society.

Then what do I then? Kill myself?

I want to be loved and experience what I'm attracted to, yet I can't get it being black and gay and feminine.

So therefore all I have is porn, and searching and finding what porn and men is my type and I'm connected to.

But porn has a bad side, which is fucking damaging in some cases as you mentioned.

Anything else is considered rape/perversion, which will really end my life.

I'll also kill myself before I pay another man to have sex with me. You have to fucking kidding me.

 

[Dominus]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

I'm pretty masculine myself. My honey is feminine, but not over the top fruity. I have always love fem guys.

Unfortunately, not all of them like me.