Tell us why you would or would not go out with this escort

[MarkScott]

Hypothetical question:
If you could go out with an escort who was the best looking guy you had ever seen taking into consideration your ideal of beauty, would you do it?
Assume:
-You are very rich so the money is irrelevant
-The Escort is clean so no worry about STDs
-You are not in a relationship
-The escort is very pleasant, pretends he is very in to you and will do absolutely anything you like
-Nobody would ever know

 

[blanefan]

Abso-fuckin-lutely!

 

[G-Lexington]

Here's the main issue with me - I'm not usually attracted to what others usually think of as "really good looking". So somebody I might consider the "best looking guy" probably wouldn't necessarily so for most folks. And as such, I'm guessing he wouldn't be an escort. I'm assuming there's not a huge market for "average-looking escorts".

But let's go ahead and assume that I'm into (traditionally) "really hot guys". Would I hire him? Sure. I wouldn't believe that he was STD-free, though, because that's a really stupid road to go down. And I wouldn't mind if other people knew. I know people who spent $1000 on concert tickets, and they didn't get to fuck ANYBODY.

Lex

 

[IowaGuy]

I certainly would !!

 

[mbamike]

No, paying for sex just rubs me the wrong way. There are plenty of gorgeous guys out there who will fuck me for free.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

Going out?

I'd bang.

I like the idea of paying for sex because even though I can get it for free, I'm excited by the concept of "owning" someone for a select block of time. Different dynamic.

Go out as in relationship?

No. As long as money is involved, emotions are nullified. Falling in love with someone you're paying is a clown move.

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Yeah, I guess I should clarify. I'd have sex with him. I wouldn't "go out with him". I mean, I guess I might if he wanted to date me, but I wouldn't pay for that privilege.

Lex

 

[Cormac135]

No, thankfully i don't have to pay for it and if i did, some skank escort no matter how good looking wouldn't fit the bill.

 

[Devois]

Here's the main issue with me - I'm not usually attracted to what others usually think of as "really good looking". So somebody I might consider the "best looking guy" probably wouldn't necessarily so for most folks. And as such, I'm guessing he wouldn't be an escort. I'm assuming there's not a huge market for "average-looking escorts".

What does the term "rough trade" mean to you, besides the record label. You must be paying too much attention to those programmes like "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" and belamo's anecdotes.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Here's the main issue with me - I'm not usually attracted to what others usually think of as "really good looking". So somebody I might consider the "best looking guy" probably wouldn't necessarily so for most folks. And as such, I'm guessing he wouldn't be an escort. I'm assuming there's not a huge market for "average-looking escorts".

Lex

Escorting, or the general 'sexual actions for money' is also done by action, not necessarily looks. I don't mean '$40 for a blow job with Adonis' or $600 for a night with dinner convo thrown in' so much as someone familiar with rigging, or someone familiar with bondage and domination, ect ect. Looks don't much matter when you want an experience without someone accidentally maiming you. There's also particular ways to go about such relationships for safety's sake, both yours and theirs. More about the power differential than hiring for those cheekbones, is what I'm trying to say.

I'm poly so me being single would mean fuck-all and I consider safer sex mandatory whether someone says they're sti free or not.

Yes I'd use an escort, no I don't care about looks for a variety of reasons, and nope I don't mind if others knew. No shame in being good at your job from either direction. Besides, it would be a bit hypocritical considering I've a bit of experience with sex work from the other end. So long as they like their job I'm fine with it.

 

[G-Lexington]

Escorting, or the general 'sexual actions for money' is also done by action, not necessarily looks. I don't mean '$40 for a blow job with Adonis' or $600 for a night with dinner convo thrown in' so much as someone familiar with rigging, or someone familiar with bondage and domination, ect ect. Looks don't much matter when you want an experience without someone accidentally maiming you.

Understood, but my tastes in the bedroom are just as "average" as my tastes in guys. It makes total sense that somebody could charge a decent fee if they're good at a more unusual or extreme fetish, but I don't expect there to be much demand for "average-looking guy performing vanilla sex".

Lex

 

[luckynumbah7]

What does the term "rough trade" mean to you, besides the record label. You must be paying too much attention to those programmes like "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" and belamo's anecdotes.

I'm pretty sure by this point rough trade is code for anyone not both a model and not charging upwards of a grand. Pretty people don't have less sti's. it's just assumed joe blow doesn't use barriers because joe is average. Unless you're talking about a desperate person, usually either homeless or an addict looking for quick cash, most people at least aim for condoms.

 

[luckynumbah7]

@lex,

Ah, but you'd be amazed at the amount of people that would be bemused to do vanilla sex for that amount of cash. The bemused bit comes in where you say you'd like to schedule because they're average looking. Can't think of anyone who'd say no, provided their service also involved such sex in the first place. No one has to aim for the pricier stuff.

 

[star-warrior]

Hypothetical question:
If you could go out with an escort who was the best looking guy you had ever seen taking into consideration your ideal of beauty, would you do it?
Assume:
-You are very rich so the money is irrelevant
-The Escort is clean so no worry about STDs
-You are not in a relationship
-The escort is very pleasant, pretends he is very in to you and will do absolutely anything you like
-Nobody would ever know

Basically it's about your money trying to prop up your ego. At the end of the day, once he's left, you're still alone. And both of you know that.

That's just so very sad.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Basically it's about your money trying to prop up your ego. At the end of the day, once he's left, you're still alone. And both of you know that.

Sex isn't code for ones ego and neither of them are synonymous with a long term relationship, though. If any of those were synonyms there'd be both no poly amorous people, no polygamous people and anyone in a relationship would never, ever cheat since they weren't alone. Although I find the answers do tell a lot about the people giving them.

You're also assuming people want a relationship instead of, say, just getting laid. Pretends he's into you is usually just the opposite of lieing back and thinking of England. The latter most people find deadly dull.

 

[G-Lexington]

@lex,

Ah, but you'd be amazed at the amount of people that would be bemused to do vanilla sex for that amount of cash. The bemused bit comes in where you say you'd like to schedule because they're average looking. Can't think of anyone who'd say no, provided their service also involved such sex in the first place. No one has to aim for the pricier stuff.

I think we've drifted kind of far off of shore. It seems we're talking about a "Joe Blow", average-looking guy who would be willing to have sex for a large sum of cash. Presumably, that's no longer an "escort" per se - just a guy deciding where his lines are. (Or perhaps he's an escort for more fetish-themed stuff, and I'm hiring him to "just fuck"?) Whatever the scenario, it doesn't seem like I really fit into it easily. I don't want to pretend I'm above paying for sex or anything, but what I'm after is pretty easily obtained elsewhere for no charge. I can understand paying for something that is hard to get otherwise - thus the preponderance of hot escorts, really well-hung escorts, and fetish-themed escorts. But I mainly am interested in "guys who'd like to have sex". And the only reason to pay for that would be if I couldn't find any (and I can)...or if I just got off on paying somebody to have sex with me (and I don't think I would).

Lex

 

[peeonme]

Hypothetical question:
If you could go out with an escort who was the best looking guy you had ever seen taking into consideration your ideal of beauty, would you do it?
Assume:
-You are very rich so the money is irrelevant
-The Escort is clean so no worry about STDs
-You are not in a relationship
-The escort is very pleasant, pretends he is very in to you and will do absolutely anything you like
-Nobody would ever know

If people were honest there are lots of things we would do if no one ever knew.
Now, as for the question, of course, providing he would meet my "needs".

 

[luckynumbah7]

I think we've drifted kind of far off of shore. It seems we're talking about a "Joe Blow", average-looking guy who would be willing to have sex for a large sum of cash. Presumably, that's no longer an "escort" per se - just a guy deciding where his lines are. (Or perhaps he's an escort for more fetish-themed stuff, and I'm hiring him to "just fuck"?) Whatever the scenario, it doesn't seem like I really fit into it easily. I don't want to pretend I'm above paying for sex or anything, but what I'm after is pretty easily obtained elsewhere for no charge. I can understand paying for something that is hard to get otherwise - thus the preponderance of hot escorts, really well-hung escorts, and fetish-themed escorts. But I mainly am interested in "guys who'd like to have sex". And the only reason to pay for that would be if I couldn't find any (and I can)...or if I just got off on paying somebody to have sex with me (and I don't think I would).

Lex

I was actually talking about someone who already does sex work, they're just not labelled an escort by most people because they both don't look like a model and dinner conversation/arm candy isn't necessarily part of why they're chosen. Time is money and intelligent, witty and warm conversation is a pain in the ass at parties. I only mentioned it because people like clear lines when clear lines are really few and far between.

For words and connotations, it goes (in order of least to most loathed, so far as I'm aware) mistress, escort/call girl, prostitute, then hooker. And then sex in exchange for a very small sum of what-have-you, not generally money. Technically all the same thing but not in the eyes of the public. That's not even getting into strippers and porn acting.

 

[Devois]

I'm pretty sure by this point rough trade is code for anyone not both a model and not charging upwards of a grand. Pretty people don't have less sti's. it's just assumed joe blow doesn't use barriers because joe is average. Unless you're talking about a desperate person, usually either homeless or an addict looking for quick cash, most people at least aim for condoms.

Well that's more or less what it means to me, although I don't know much of the market beyond Craigslist adverts and a story here and there so I couldn't draw any boundaries. I meant to pose it as a question and was that surprised at Lex's idea about the market.

Pretends he's into you is usually just the opposite of lieing back and thinking of England. The latter most people find deadly dull.

I don't know, there's a clear demand for "straight" men and what else would they be doing?

 

[LAPan75]

Just not into - Sex for the sake of Sex -

No connection, no fun.... thus: Pointless​