The Bisexual Handicap

[MrRochesterNY]

One thing I have learned here is that there isn't much difference between gays and straights in their view of faithfulness and monogamy. The majority of both gays and heterosexuals want and expect an exclusive relationship when they finally settle on "the one." Having more than one partner, whether regular or occasional is, for most, a no-no, even a betrayal.

How then do we bisexuals fit into this picture? Is it OK to have just two partners, one of each sex, or do we deny our bisexuality and pick either a male or a female partner? Or do we forsake any hope of finding "the one" and live a life of playing the field, settling for random hookups, some less random than others perhaps, but none with lasting commitment?

Are there any bisexual JUBbers who are in a committed but open relationship, where all parties concerned are cool with the three-way situation?

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Great.

Might as well just pour gasoline on all the bisexual members, huddle them together, and wait for a spark.

 

[CGHJ]

My head just exploded. Every post I've ever written defending bisexuals just went right out the freakin' window. Jasun, I apologize, I guess you were right the whole time.

 

[blackbeltninja]

This is why bisexuality is not so easily defined. Our own ideas of bisexuality are very different from each others'.


Mine is different to the OP's something chronic, at any rate.
-d-

 

[BlondeCanadian]

I like tall slender men and muscular guys too.. I guess I need an open relationship and one of each

 

[kallipolis]

I am rather surprised that the OP feels that human beings whose sexual attraction towards both genders should be considered differently from heterosexual, and homosexual persons.

My experience of bisexual men has always been very positive teaching me that a bisexual person can easily form and feel satisfied within a monogamous loving relationship with either gender.

Why should a bisexual person need to be involved in a three way relationship?

 

[Corny]

that's cool. I also feel the need for a three way relationship. I mean .. how else could I have a dark haired and a red haired guy at the same time? I cannot fathom why I should commit to just one hair color ..

 

[PKMO]

How then do we bisexuals fit into this picture? Is it OK to have just two partners, one of each sex, or do we deny our bisexuality and pick either a male or a female partner?

That's not denying your bisexuality. Bisexuality is being attracted to both genders, the ability to fall in love with either man or woman. I don't know whether this is a joke thread, or one intended to direct more hatred towards bisexual people, but your post isn't about bisexuality. It's more about polygamy.

I never realised the gay community would have such a problem with men who are attracted to both genders. The hatred, anger, stereotyping and assumptions made toward bisexual people I've seen on here has been an eye opening experience.

 

[maxpowr9]

that's cool. I also feel the need for a three way relationship. I mean .. how else could I have a dark haired and a red haired guy at the same time? I cannot fathom why I should commit to just one hair color ..

Dark hair on top and then a fire crotch?

 

[pat grimshaw]

That's not denying your bisexuality. Bisexuality is being attracted to both genders, the ability to fall in love with either man or woman. I don't know whether this is a joke thread, or one intended to direct more hatred towards bisexual people, but your post isn't about bisexuality. It's more about polygamy.
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Do you mean polygamy or polyamory?

I thought that polygamy meant a legal contractual marriage and polyamorists are telling me that polyamory means 'I do what I want to whoever I want but I may do something completely next month'.

 

[quasar]

...How then do we bisexuals fit into this picture? Is it OK to have just two partners, one of each sex, or do we deny our bisexuality and pick either a male or a female partner? Or do we forsake any hope of finding "the one" and live a life of playing the field, settling for random hookups, some less random than others perhaps, but none with lasting commitment?...

Simple answer. You're not denying your bisexuality by choosing one sex over the other.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Because to some, "bisexuality" hints at longing for both genders. That committing to one gender would leave something "missing." To others, bisexuality merely means being open to dating either gender.

Basically, this.

Also because some bisexuals feel their desire is fluid - sometimes desiring a man specifically or a woman specifically - whereas others find their desire is simply for someone, regardless of sex/gender.

-d-

 

[pat grimshaw]

I'm pretty sure the descriptive label 'bisexual' will change and perhaps disappear in the 2020s just as the legal definition of 'marriage' is going through a change now in the 2010s.

 

[AllMan]

Eye roll at this entire thread.

I'm not sure what you mean. Bisexuality is simply a sexual attraction to both men and women. How is that not easily defined?

I like tall slender men and muscular guys too.. I guess I need an open relationship and one of each

Why should a bisexual person need to be involved in a three way relationship?

that's cool. I also feel the need for a three way relationship. I mean .. how else could I have a dark haired and a red haired guy at the same time? I cannot fathom why I should commit to just one hair color ..

Exactly!!! I get so frustrated trying to defend (ahem, explain) my bisexuality to close-minded people. Why is it that gays (and some straights) cannot grasp the fact that just because I like both men and women, doesn't mean I HAVE TO have BOTH at the same time, or I will cheat on my gf with a guy, or vice-versa? My example has always been: ok so I like Ford trucks and Chevy trucks...does that mean I can, or have to, drive them both simultaneously?

I wish people would be more open-minded and get their heads out their asses. It's a shame because gay people, of all people, are the ones who discriminate on bisexuals the most---yet they are the very same ones who whine and cry for their "rights" and when people discriminate in their sexuality.

 

[G-Lexington]

I usually say "I like both geeky guys and muscular guys. Looks like I'll need an open relationship."

But if the OP doesn't want to settle, he shouldn't have to. If he wants to settle down with one gender and keep having sex with the other, that's his call. He of course might have trouble finding somebody to agree to that, but at that point, I'd say the smart thing is to find another bisexual who feels the same way, and settle down with him/her.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

 

[LilBit]

Polyamory is definitely not only the domain of bisexuals. And I know plenty of bisexuals who are in committed, monogamous relationships, and I know gay and straight people who cheat like it's their job. The whole premise of this thread is stupid, and the OP needs a good slap upside the head.

 

[Asenath]

 

[DigitalFudge]

Just at the title alone

I'm so done.


You Bisexuals are handicapped.


And you will deal.

 

[Asenath]

Maybe we're confused. Maybe this is Bisexual Handicapping.

I'm giving Kuhlindar 5:1 odds of winning the thread, Naughty Arousal comes in at 4:1, and Mr Rochester NY is the long shot at 50:1.