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The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

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MissAnne said:
Im sorry that your fish died, its never easy to loose a pet. (*8*)




I can understand that. Ive encountered people that just dont want to or dont know how to let you in. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and can be a very open person. I have no problem doing things for people or expressing my 'like' for folks. Some people are too busy trying to look aloof and cool (most likely afraid of getting hurt) that they just can't go there with you.

I had to stop trying with some people. I feel like Im a good person and I think that its smart to hold on to good people because there are so many jerks out there.

What's funny about some of these folks is that when you stop trying, that is usually the moment in which they begin to reach out.... because they miss you.

Its kind of sad.

Some of my best friendships just fell into place so easily, that is how it should be.
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I hear ya both. I've realizes that as we grow older, it's more difficult to make friends. In my straight life all my friends have faded into the horizon for one reason or another. After my coming out process, I made a point of going out and making new friends. I got involved in the local LGBT community, joined some groups and new friends just fell into place. Now these friends are some of the best people I've ever met and I'm so glad they are in my life.
 
It's weird how friendships ebb and flow. And there's this tough-to-nail happy medium when it comes to maintaining them. I mean, you have to put SOME effort into them (although with some people, that effort doesn't FEEL like effort). But if you put too much effort into it for not much payoff, you're wasting your time.

My ex was sort of the epitome of that. We resolved to stay friends, and when he moved away, I tried to stay in touch. But phone calls were never returned, and e-mails went unanswered. So I'd think "well, OK, he doesn't want to keep the friendship" and just let it die. No drama, no whiny messages on my end asking why he didn't contact me. I'd just stop. And for eight or nine months, we wouldn't contact each other at all. And then, out of the blue, I'd get an e-mail or phone call. Starting with "it's weird - we never talk anymore." So I figured "OK, he DOES want to keep the friendship", and resume the occasional chatting. For about a week. After which the calls and emails would stop again.

I finally realized that he only contacted me when he wanted something. Not money or anything tangible, though. But he had worked his way in to this crowd of artsy gay folk. Which is fine, and apparently, he gets along great there. But apparently, there were things they had no interest in talking about, and so when he wanted to talk about those things, THEN I got a phone call. And even that would have been fine if he had returned the favor. But he didn't, so that was the end of that.

I ran into him a couple years back. Married now, nice guy, attractive, and a much better fit for him than I was. :) But I did learn a lot from my time with him. I've gotten decently good at extending overtures, and moving on if they're not returned.

Lex
 
I went out to dinner for my birthday last night and I was sitting at a booth. In the booth behind mine (and connected to mine) was this old woman who looked about 3 years older than Biblical Methuselah. When I got up to go to the restroom, she complained to the rest of the table that I was "shaking the booth", and when I returned she stopped me and lectured me to "be careful when I'm sitting" like I was two years old. Then she immediately started an argument that went on for about 7 minutes with her waitress trying to get the lunch menu prices instead of the dinner menu price for what she'd just eaten.

When I have to deal with people like this out in public or at work, I give ever outward sign of being polite and listening or caring about what they're saying. But the only thing going on in my head meanwhile is this:

 
^Im sorry that you had to deal with that shit on your birthday.
 
with my ex, I was like "I'd love to stay friends, but you were such a shitty boyfriend that if you want to maintain a friendship, you're going to have to be the one doing the hefty lifting."

surprise surprise, never happened. the biggest problem in our relationship was that he was never there... he compartmentalized everything in his life so much. he could see his family, see his friends, or see me, but the three sides of his life could never be intertwined. and he worked such long hours that all he'd ever want to do after work was go home and go to bed (alone) unless I really nagged him about going out or insisting on coming over to cook him dinner.

I really wish we'd met under different circumstances... we probably would have been great friends / occasional fuck buddies without the burden of trying to maintain a relationship thrown in. but as it was, I felt like I was single but forced to wear a chastity belt during the relationship.
 
My ex wasn't a bad guy - just a bad guy for me to be in a relationship. Ironically, another friend of ours said back then "I've stopped looking for a perfect woman. Now I'm looking for a woman whose baggage goes well with mine." And that seemed like such a great way to look at it. This guy and I made for decent casual friends, and the sex wasn't bad (faint praise there), but we just didn't make a good "couple". The break-up was pretty stress-free and drama-free - I just wish we could've stayed in touch, because I do like the guy - just...not like that. :)

Lex
 
xbuzzerx said:
I went out to dinner for my birthday last night and I was sitting at a booth. In the booth behind mine (and connected to mine) was this old woman who looked about 3 years older than Biblical Methuselah. When I got up to go to the restroom, she complained to the rest of the table that I was "shaking the booth", and when I returned she stopped me and lectured me to "be careful when I'm sitting" like I was two years old. Then she immediately started an argument that went on for about 7 minutes with her waitress trying to get the lunch menu prices instead of the dinner menu price for what she'd just eaten.

When I have to deal with people like this out in public or at work, I give ever outward sign of being polite and listening or caring about what they're saying. But the only thing going on in my head meanwhile is this:

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I get that more often than not in random restaurants. All from the older folks. "Young man, please learn your manners and keep it down." Hello? I wasn't talking any more loudly than she was. And she had the audacity to talk on her phone before that, too. Or another time, this guy was giving me dirty looks and shaking his head because apparently I shouldn't be laughing with my friends.

I don't have a sassy anime sequence going on in my head but I do have a few mental choice words for them...
 
Hard to quote on phone but in response to buzzer it infuriates me when people talk to me like a kid. It is incredibly disrespectful.

I dont like people and unfortunately retail doesnt help with that problem.
 
MakeDigitalLove said:
Hard to quote on phone but in response to buzzer it infuriates me when people talk to me like a kid. It is incredibly disrespectful.

I dont like people and unfortunately retail doesnt help with that problem.
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People tend to side with the elderly and assume they're cute and harmless but some of them are quite nasty and difficult.
 
xbuzzerx said:
I went out to dinner for my birthday last night and I was sitting at a booth. In the booth behind mine (and connected to mine) was this old woman who looked about 3 years older than Biblical Methuselah. When I got up to go to the restroom, she complained to the rest of the table that I was "shaking the booth", and when I returned she stopped me and lectured me to "be careful when I'm sitting" like I was two years old. Then she immediately started an argument that went on for about 7 minutes with her waitress trying to get the lunch menu prices instead of the dinner menu price for what she'd just eaten.

When I have to deal with people like this out in public or at work, I give ever outward sign of being polite and listening or caring about what they're saying. But the only thing going on in my head meanwhile is this:

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So sorry to hear about that :( I know some elders do take table manners seriously. I was told off by a Japanese waitress to leave last year when me and my good friend didn't reserve the sushi bar before hand. AT least she told us off politely- bowing and saying すみません please leave (Bows and everything LMAO).
And I didn't know you watch Shizumiya!! I love that show :lol:
 
xbuzzerx said:
People tend to side with the elderly and assume they're cute and harmless but some of them are quite nasty and difficult.
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My friend once was on the receiving end of abuse from an old lady. He retorted "I'd tell you to grow up but there's probably not much chance of that happening by this point."

Lex
 
Ive been so nauseous lately. Im nauseous right now.

It may be stress or perhaps I havent been hydrating enough after my runs.

If it were possible, I would be afraid that I was pregnant. :)
 
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