The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

[xbuzzerx]

Yes, I've got a little one too. (and it isn't Buzzer )

We know that Buzzer isn't spelled "Belamo."

 

[maxpowr9]

I still find myself seeking the approval of people that I shouldn't give two shakes about.

I'm glad I learned that life lesson very quickly. When you spend your entire high school life in therapy bitching about people and why they don't like you, you need to just accept that fact and move on. The only thing I learned from therapy is that: "you can't change any one unless they are willing to change themselves."

Any way, I have been having a string of bad first dates but last night was sparks. It started off slow and I was 20 mins late due to the bad weather but we definitely warmed to each other, literally. We were outside standing in the cold and he was shaking freezing and I was warming him up and then we went into my car and had a make-out session for like a full hour.

 

[Gentleheart]

Yes, I've got a little one too. (and it isn't Buzzer )

tell me yours, and I'll tell you mine.

 

[pat grimshaw]

^ only in a PM.

 

[xbuzzerx]

tell me yours, and I'll tell you mine.

^ only in a PM.

 

[dereperez]

I used to play a variant of that game, namely "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours."

 

[xbuzzerx]

I used to play a variant of that game, namely "I'll show you mine, if you show me yours."

Kien and I used to play that, only it was "Show me yours and then go sleep in the doghouse." Good times.

 

[dereperez]

Kien and I used to play that, only it was "Show me yours and then go sleep in the doghouse." Good times.

Sounds like the Kien I know.

 

[G-Lexington]

Me: Fellow Artist, I'm holding a special event on such-and-such date. Would you be able to take part?

Fellow Artist: I can't. I'll be doing another event down the street that night. Would you promote my event?

Me: ...instead of mine? Um, no?

Fellow Artist: I thought you cared about the scene.

Lex

 

[xbuzzerx]

Me: Fellow Artist, I'm holding a special event on such-and-such date. Would you be able to take part?

Fellow Artist: I can't. I'll be doing another event down the street that night. Would you promote my event?

Me: ...instead of mine? Um, no?

Fellow Artist: I thought you cared about the scene.

Lex

You neanderthal. You care nothing for the arts.

 

[MissAnne]

Any way, I have been having a string of bad first dates but last night was sparks. It started off slow and I was 20 mins late due to the bad weather but we definitely warmed to each other, literally. We were outside standing in the cold and he was shaking freezing and I was warming him up and then we went into my car and had a make-out session for like a full hour.

Good for you.

 

[maxpowr9]

Someone needs to feed buzzer some vegan legs.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Someone needs to feed buzzer some vegan legs.

Misread that as "Las Vegans"

 

[jdcnow]

Me: Fellow Artist, I'm holding a special event on such-and-such date. Would you be able to take part?

Fellow Artist: I can't. I'll be doing another event down the street that night. Would you promote my event?

Me: ...instead of mine? Um, no?

Fellow Artist: I thought you cared about the scene.

Lex

I remember being in an almost identical situation when I was a cashier at Dollar Tree years ago. I knew the store inside and out, I'd been there for two years at the time, and I'd shown myself dependable - impeccable attendance record, and consistently coming in from a half-hour drive out of town to cover shifts when somebody else failed to show up for work.

We had an opening for an assistant manager position available. I tried for it, and was passed up.

A sister store location in another town had an opening for an assistant manager. So I'd decided that I wanted to transfer to that store and try and move up.

The assistant who got promoted over me confronted me about why I was leaving for the other location with the promotion opportunity.

She flat tried to guilt trip me - "You wouldn't be that mean and leave us like that?" I just kind of looked at her, then turning around to walkoff.

I was their "best employee" and "hardest worker" until I decided that I wanted something.

Then, I became the devil incarnate.

 

[jdcnow]

Omfg, am I glad to be away from my store or what?

My boss did nothing but bitch, whine, and moan the whole night! Not about me, or anything I did, we get along well together. But apparently, because of a braced left hand, my boss couldn't fix ceiling tiles in our pharmacy's work area. So our store manager wrote my boss - the night assistant manager a not so nice note.


All I heard was blah-blah-blah pig fucker, blah-blah-blah I'm tired of this shit!

So I had to be around 10 straight hours of negativity all damn night.

I am at school, now, killing time until my speech class in 15 minutes. I like my speech professor - his lectures are funny.

It's odd that a college class is how I unwind from work.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I remember being in an almost identical situation when I was a cashier at Dollar Tree years ago. I knew the store inside and out, I'd been there for two years at the time, and I'd shown myself dependable - impeccable attendance record, and consistently coming in from a half-hour drive out of town to cover shifts when somebody else failed to show up for work.

We had an opening for an assistant manager position available. I tried for it, and was passed up.

A sister store location in another town had an opening for an assistant manager. So I'd decided that I wanted to transfer to that store and try and move up.

The assistant who got promoted over me confronted me about why I was leaving for the other location with the promotion opportunity.

She flat tried to guilt trip me - "You wouldn't be that mean and leave us like that?" I just kind of looked at her, then turning around to walkoff.

I was their "best employee" and "hardest worker" until I decided that I wanted something.

Then, I became the devil incarnate.

I'm curious as to your speculation why she got it, and you didn't. Was she more qualified than you?

 

[jdcnow]

I'm curious as to your speculation why she got it, and you didn't. Was she more qualified than you?

No. She had actually only started a few months prior to getting promoted.

There are a lot of narratives one could very easily draw off the situation in retrospect. I was the only male in an all woman store location. It was assumed at the time that I was straight (I was closeted and kept to myself anyway).

Also, my store managers had a lot of under the radar nepotism (the first of the two store managers took over after the store's original manager came down with cancer and passed away a few months later; and the second was the guest's assistant, who replaced her when the district manager fired the first manager during an "Undercover Boss"-style visit, when he first took over, two years later).

But the first store manager had a problem with nepotism - she hired here sister and her cousin. The cousin would cause a lot of drama, etc. at the store until she (the cousin) was fire by a separate then-district manager.

After the first store manager was fired, the second store manager was a woman with two problems - she was somewhat gullible, and she was biased towards older people and women like her, and these people that would get hired on as cashiers and eventually made assistant managers had kids and always wanted a job that would tailor to their availability. Trouble is, that's not retail.

So I was hired in January 2006, and I wanted to move up, especially when the gasoline crisis hit (I would drop $90 bucks a paycheck just to put gas in my car for two weeks, so that I can drive to work and back). These are people who world be hired on way after I was, but always got promoted over me. Thing is, these people who were made assistant managers over me would never work out.

Some never made it 90 days in the assistant manager position before they up and quit, or literally flake out and just stop showing up for work. Yes, supervisors did this.

I became my store's Susan Lucci - always deserved it, but never got. Always earned what I was going for, but never actually got it.

I would actually remain an assistant manager until I fell into severe depression in early 2010, which would result in the suicide attempt I've posted about here on JUB.

 

[jdcnow]

*replace "guest's" with "first's". I'm on my android.

 

[jdcnow]

I see that I left out the detail that after fighting for it, I did finally get promoted in Summer 2008..

Posting from my android smartphone is kinda problematic at times.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

No. She had actually only started a few months prior to getting promoted.

There are a lot of narratives one could very easily draw off the situation in retrospect. I was the only male in an all woman store location. It was assumed at the time that I was straight (I was closeted and kept to myself anyway).

Also, my store managers had a lot of under the radar nepotism (the first of the two store managers took over after the store's original manager came down with cancer and passed away a few months later; and the second was the guest's assistant, who replaced her when the district manager fired the first manager during an "Undercover Boss"-style visit, when he first took over, two years later).

But the first store manager had a problem with nepotism - she hired here sister and her cousin. The cousin would cause a lot of drama, etc. at the store until she (the cousin) was fire by a separate then-district manager.

After the first store manager was fired, the second store manager was a woman with two problems - she was somewhat gullible, and she was biased towards older people and women like her, and these people that would get hired on as cashiers and eventually made assistant managers had kids and always wanted a job that would tailor to their availability. Trouble is, that's not retail.

So I was hired in January 2006, and I wanted to move up, especially when the gasoline crisis hit (I would drop $90 bucks a paycheck just to put gas in my car for two weeks, so that I can drive to work and back). These are people who world be hired on way after I was, but always got promoted over me. Thing is, these people who were made assistant managers over me would never work out.

Some never made it 90 days in the assistant manager position before they up and quit, or literally flake out and just stop showing up for work. Yes, supervisors did this.

I became my store's Susan Lucci - always deserved it, but never got. Always earned what I was going for, but never actually got it.

I would actually remain an assistant manager until I fell into severe depression in early 2010, which would result in the suicide attempt I've posted about here on JUB.

I can relate. I've been in jobs where I SHOULD have been able to move up, but for whatever reasons, and those that could kiss ass better than I, got the jobs instead of me. They too never worked out... there's only SO far one can go with kissing ass, and not performing. What floors me is how it wasn't as obvious to them as it was to me. Are people seriously that easily schmoozed ?