The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

[jdcnow]

In bed arguing with myself about how I need to get up and get my day started. Half of me is like, "Get up!!!" The other half of me is like, "Fuck you, and the horse you rode in on! Seriously, just fuck off!"

My internal bickering about getting up at the moment. And it's the crack of noon.

 

[Adrock-JD]

I am addicted to technology and having high speed Internet is no longer a "luxury" it's a necessity. A very expensive one, too.
Okay, it would not trump food and housing and transportation but you know what I mean.

 

[Agent Provocateur]

Got fired from my job a couple days ago. My boss is refusing to give me my goddamn paycheque. She has less than four hours left before I call the labour board. Fucking cunting bitch.

 

[mikemizanin729]

I have to drive home from the gym in this wet, cold weather.

 

[dpnice]

The Hobbit is on general release in France the 10th December.

BUT NOT IN THE CINEMAS IN NICE.

 

[jdcnow]

Well, I'm 2 for 4 on things I wanted for my birthday, on Monday. The cake thing didn't work out. Neither did the mp3 player - it's on its way back to Amazon late this afternoon, and earlier this evening, they've already processed my refund - the money should be back in my account sometime within the next week.

However, my Champion boxer briefs did come, and I'm happy with that. Also, this was a thing that happened earlier tonight...

(Note - I digitally flipped the image to how it would actually look, if you were looking at it, in person.)

By Christmas, it should be fully healed or pretty close, and it's going to look badass!

 

[Anders123]

Since it's past 3am and I can't sleep, I've been reflecting on my time at JUB and how the experience of the forum has changed for me over the years. I was really tempted to post in the "what's wrong with JUB?" thread to air out all of the grievances I have, but then I realised I've sort of lost the right to complain since I'm not really actively contributing to the forums anymore. At least in the past when I complained, it was somewhat counterbalanced by the fact that I was here interacting with my friends and contributing to the forums as a whole. Now if I complain I'm just that guy who stops by to remind everybody why he doesn't like to come here much anymore. That's kind of a downer for all of the people who still post daily (or the new people who have started contributing and still really enjoy being here).

I think it's pretty obvious to most people that JUB isn't as active as it once was, and I think there has also been a shift in the overall tone of the forums, but I can't help wondering whether I've been overstating how much change has actually occurred. My experience on JUB is very different now to what it was 3 years ago, but how much of that is due to JUB changing, and how much of it is due to me being a different person now than I was back then?

When I come to JUB now, it's a whole lot easier for me to focus on the petty arguments and the negativity, but that sort of stuff has always been here, at least it was here 4 years ago when I first signed up. I think it's just that back then, I was interacting with everybody constantly and people were going out of their way to interact with me too. That's not really the case anymore, and I think it's mostly my fault. I can't really blame people for not interacting with me when I log in for a day or two and then disappear for a month, especially if I neglect the PM conversations I start or participate in. I'd probably be less inclined to drop somebody a forum comment or a PM too if they hadn't responded to the last few I sent.

So of course JUB is going to seem like a shitty place if when I browse the forums I can't really see many people who are interested in interacting with me. I mean, I can't count how many of my friends have self-deleted or gone inactive, and that's certainly a factor too, but whether it's by my own doing or not, a community forum isn't exactly going to be appealing to me if I don't really feel like a part of the community anymore. I can't really tell if there's less of a sense of community on JUB, or if it just seems that way because I'm not really a part of it anymore (at least not in the way I used to be).

I don't really know what the point of saying all this is, but it's definitely something that's been on my mind tonight. I should probably just sleep.

 

[sixthson]

Anders, I agree with you. It is mostly your fault. While Jub is certainly not the community it once was, by not being who you once were has not helped. That is not to say you shouldn't change because change is part of maturity. However, in the past, you shared who, what and where you were. Now, because you are here so little, you no longer share much. I know you know you have friends here, myself included. But if there is to be any warmth of fellowship here, it won't happen when everyone who made JUB such a place is always leaving. There will always be those who only bring turmoil and antagonism to this place, but that is all the more reason for others of us to counter their influence. Do you understand what I am saying.

I know what you are saying and have experienced it myself. I no longer share anything about my family because of the negative response both in open forums and private comments. My life is what I have to share here. When I feel it is not welcome, I don't know what more to share. So I understand where you are coming from.

Will JUB ever be what it once was? Probably not, nothing ever is. Could it be something good again? I hope so.

When you feel the way you do (as I often do) and when JUBbers like HardUp1 are continually deleting, returning, deleting, returning because of the negativity, aren't we forgetting that we might possibly be a positive influence on someone? It's not all about what we get from JUB, it's what we give, too.

Cheer up, friend.

 

[Taz]

^ I have been feeling the same when I come here. I used to feel positive, but now I log in and a vast majority of the people I used to enjoy posting with are gone. Now when I come here I find myself feeling a bit bored, and most of my posts reflect that I think. What doesn't help is, as Anders said, now when I come it's really easy for me to see the negativity. The same trolls, the people who insight arguments, the people who bring nasty into every thread. I feel that somewhat I'm starting to be like that and I don't want to be.

Jub has definitely changed, but so have I. When I first came I needed help. I was looking for new friends. Everything started to look up. Now that that time has passed along with the departure of many of those friends I don't feel this place anymore.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I know what you are saying and have experienced it myself. I no longer share anything about my family because of the negative response both in open forums and private comments. My life is what I have to share here. When I feel it is not welcome, I don't know what more to share. So I understand where you are coming from.

Obviously I don't know why Anders doesn't share what he might want to, but I would assume this is why a lot of people have become more reserved in this regard. Sharing some information on here that might seem innocent, sometime later it will bite you in the ass and be used against you in some nasty sleight by another poster.

I do agree with Anders reflection in looking into the fact is that whether JUB changed or the people who are here have and I think for most it would be a bit of both. I've personally been on and off this board for at least 10 years and be lying if I said I haven't changed. I can remember arguments I had with members here when I first started where now I am more inclined to agree with some of their views.

There has definitely always been drama and antagonizing going on through out JUBs life, but I think because the fact that the board is less active that it seems more apparent. I personally still come here because there are people that I like seeing here although I hardly ever say it.

 

[dpnice]

Well it is nearly 10yrs since I found JUB and must agree that it is totally different from when I first joined.

But I don't see it as worse nor as better just different. A difference due solely to the fact that the numbers of members posting is now extremely small. When I joined it was nearly impossible to keep up with the new posts.

I see the battles and insults of these days no different to those in 2005.

I share my life here, say the things I think, try to persuade others along to being nicer and give opinions I hope will be helpful.

I never expect to win an argument and I am quite happy to let others have the last word. Never have I felt offended and any insults I may have received have made me smile rather than kindle a desire to retaliate.

I don't expect to change the world neither do I hope to be every ones best friend; I am here, people know I exist and that is the most important for me. I am amused, educated and often amazed the things that I am certain I wouldn't find elsewhere.

I miss the people who have left but we each have our own lives to live and if JUB ceases to provide the things you appreciate then why stay; there are other things to do in life.

 

[dpnice]

What is so secret about the "Mario Brothers" thread that it won't download when I click on it. I can access everything except this one thread.

 

[Cormac135]

Anders, I agree with you. It is mostly your fault. While Jub is certainly not the community it once was, by not being who you once were has not helped. That is not to say you shouldn't change because change is part of maturity. However, in the past, you shared who, what and where you were. Now, because you are here so little, you no longer share much. I know you know you have friends here, myself included. But if there is to be any warmth of fellowship here, it won't happen when everyone who made JUB such a place is always leaving. There will always be those who only bring turmoil and antagonism to this place, but that is all the more reason for others of us to counter their influence. Do you understand what I am saying.

I know what you are saying and have experienced it myself. I no longer share anything about my family because of the negative response both in open forums and private comments. My life is what I have to share here. When I feel it is not welcome, I don't know what more to share. So I understand where you are coming from.

Will JUB ever be what it once was? Probably not, nothing ever is. Could it be something good again? I hope so.

When you feel the way you do (as I often do) and when JUBbers like HardUp1 are continually deleting, returning, deleting, returning because of the negativity, aren't we forgetting that we might possibly be a positive influence on someone? It's not all about what we get from JUB, it's what we give, too.

Cheer up, friend.

I agree.

Why am i still here even though i've probably been attacked more than any other member in the past couple of years, some of it my own fault, some not.

I'm here for the most part because i like the people and unlike some i haven't stuck to the same people all the time and then felt lost when they leave, i've tried to get on with most people from the newbies to old returnees like dpnice, and the revolving door/bore that is Hard-Up Welcome back................again.

I do wish some of you would at least say hello to the newbies and make them feel welcome.

 

[G-Lexington]

I've often compared JUB to a huge house party, and I maintain that it remains so.

Sometimes, there's a lot of chitter chatter.
Sometimes, there's a lot of laughter.
Sometimes, a lot of people are engaged in serious (or seriously frivolous) debate.
Sometimes, arguments break out.
Sometimes, couples sneak upstairs to make out (or do more than make out).

And sometimes, all of this is happening at once.

I'm totally fine with whatever it is at any given time. If I like the vibe, I'll leap in with both feet. If I don't really, I might just find a couple conversations to join. If nothing appeals to me, I might start my own conversation, or I might leave for the day.

...anyone want to sneak upstairs with the gargoyle?

Lex

 

[bort138]

...anyone want to sneak upstairs with the gargoyle?

Lex

I'll sneak away with you

 

[G-Lexington]

Not much of a sneak if you announce it. That's OK - I don't care if anybody sees us going upstairs together.

...you go first. I want to watch your ass on the way up.

Lex

 

[bort138]

*walks upstairs*

 

[eastofeden]

I definitely won't start threads here much where I will elsewhere because I don't want to expose myself to the crap...had too much of it already. To be fair though...most of the stuff I want to talk about I already know no one will be interested in anyway so I go to niche boards where there are people who do like discussing things I am interested in...they aren't gay boards. I like metaphysical and spiritual stuff ...and paranormal stuff...but not the lectures and the arguments you get on any of the general boards. I would rather discuss things with like minded people...and I am sure the people who hate that stuff appreciate that I don't post it anyway LOL

Working with gay men almost exclusively for 20 years full time was great most of the time...I like gay men for the most part...but it was also difficult as hell and the crap you must deal with is off the charts. I had the trolls and assholes in my face ..drunk...high...for hours and days and months and years at a time...and I have had quite enough....

I got nothin' left for them. For some reason a lot of them post here (and even moreso at another board I used to like a long time ago) and I see the people they chase away...not unlike the ones at the bar who chased away the good customers if they got a chance...same old shit on the internet as in the 3-D world.

People sometimes chuckle when they find out I use the ignore button so frequently and have a very long list. I belong to four gay boards and this is the only one where I have to use the ignore button. Most of the people on the list don't even post here anymore or if they do I guess I don't see them...or I can't remember them at all.

They wouldn't ask if they worked behind the bar at a gay bar for as long as I did. They would "get it"....there is nothing fun about assholes who want to fuck with you for fun....

There is only so much crap one person can deal with....and my dance card is full...

I like the friendly and interesting people that are here though and they are worth wading through the bullshit...

 

[mikemizanin729]

I've often compared JUB to a huge house party, and I maintain that it remains so.

Sometimes, there's a lot of chitter chatter.
Sometimes, there's a lot of laughter.
Sometimes, a lot of people are engaged in serious (or seriously frivolous) debate.
Sometimes, arguments break out.
Sometimes, couples sneak upstairs to make out (or do more than make out).

And sometimes, all of this is happening at once.

I'm totally fine with whatever it is at any given time. If I like the vibe, I'll leap in with both feet. If I don't really, I might just find a couple conversations to join. If nothing appeals to me, I might start my own conversation, or I might leave for the day.

...anyone want to sneak upstairs with the gargoyle?

Lex

I like this view on things. That's a great way to compare

- - - Updated - - -

Most forums have threads full of arguments. Jubs not the first and won't be the last.

 

[mikey3000]

I still like it here. So many guys here are true gentlemen. Compassionate and helpful. I know everyone has moods, me too, so I forgive and hope to be forgiven for any transgressions. After all, we are brothers; family.