The Truth About Gay Asians...an Article

[todwod]

I think the term 'potato queen' is hilarious. I've never heard of it before.

 

[altlover85]

^ lol.



I already said I know Jackie Chan has leading roles.
My question was whether any of these roles had something other than Jackie Chan's martial arts skills as a focal point.

Chow Yun Fat's a pretty good actor. He has done martial arts, but also did Anna and the King.

I like Jackie Chan and he can be pretty funny, even without the martial arts.

Finally B.D. Wong is a gay asian actor that's in Law and Order: SVU and played in M. Butterfly.

 

[electricflame]

It's okay to have preferences. I just find it not ok how the VAST majority have a preference AGAINST one SPECIFIC group that is excluded everywhere they go and have that much less of a chance finding "love." that just plain isn't fair.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

................there are always exceptions to general perceptions. I'm a top, tall, and not only attracted to white men. What I can say is that because white men dominate media and culture, especially in most other countries, it shouldn't be surprising that people from other countries and other races would be more so attracted to white men. And the term potato queen is inane.

 

[giftart]

I think the term 'potato queen' is hilarious. I've never heard of it before.

I love to eat potato. I'm a Potato queen.

 

[FunFunk]

I think this might only apply to Asians living in West. I don't get the white fetish. I live in an East Asian country so to me, white people are just as desirable as East Asians. Most, if not all, of the gays here are East Asians and they prefer to date other East Asians. People with darker skins or from different races (usually Indians, Arabs and Africans) are "undesirable". It's nothing new. Let's face it. Most people are just not interested in other colors. If you're not white or East Asian white, you are either going to be a fetish or that token guy these people date to make themselves feel better. Once in a while, you will meet someone who will love you for who you are -- a person and not a color. I don't think it comes as a shock when I say most gay people are pretty choosy and blunt in the race department when it comes to forming a relationship with someone.

It's the smaller ethnic communities within the country that suffer this ridiculous "I-only-date-[insert main race]-guys" syndrome.

It has also to do with a certain race being more "successful". I like people who have great jobs and fine salaries, and thanks to race statistics, it becomes ingrained that race x is more successful and hence makes more evolutionary sense to mate with race x that is "stronger" and has "survived and is able to provide". It sounds like total bullshit, most likely is totally bullshit but I theorize this explanation according to my own needs and preferences when dating.

I met people who think that my race and my color is just simply ugly. I don't want to be like them and so I told myself that I refuse to let race and color interfere with dating and love. And yeah, I've met great guys thanks to my politically correct direction in dating.

As an Asian, I would date you if you're financially secure and you know how to drive and park well. Really, those are my standards.

For all you queens with white thirst you're missing out on this brown delight.

Excellent post, Ram.

 

[jackoroe]

I like Asian men. There are some amazingly hot Asian men out there.

 

[FunFunk]

Dear Funfunk, that sounds like a scheme to protect 2% and annoy 98% of those concerned.

I completely disagree. It wouldn't be meant to "protect" anyone. It's far more annoying that such a large number of people find it so difficult to look past race and skin color that they can't do without such standardized options. That is what is truly annoying -- and digusting. Actually, those are the only people race-based websearches "protect." They protect them from the paranoia of encountering the stereotypes they've learned, less from real life experience than from unfair depictions and preferences about race in pop culture. They certainly don't protect those being ignored and shunned for no reason other than the amount of melanin in their skin.

Really, it's way past time that gays start to truly recognize and properly address and alleviate the casual, every day racism that is so prevalent throughout our community. One would think that with all the civil rights battles we have fought, we as a community would routinely reject all traces of such raciscm. We fight and fight against homophobes, justifying our stance in support of gay rights by saying, in part, that being gay is not a choice. Yet many of us turn around and reject or dehumanize people based on race and don't object to the behavior of such racists, despite the fact that race is not a choice either.

 

[FunFunk]

As one who used to pursue asian men and now has almost a distaste for them, I don't know how to respond.

Not sure I was "racist" before. Or that I'm "racist" now.

Anyway, we like what we like and we like it when we do...

Why do you now have a near-distaste for them?

 

[FunFunk]

I removed any profiles I had from dating sites a while ago, but when I had them, I generally didn't fill out the forms so that I could avoid these searches.

I'd put all notable info in my profile itself (usually in text in a "tell us about yourself"-type section) without filling them in specifically to forms that were easily searchable.

That's actually a good way to go. I usually do something like that myself.

 

[FunFunk]

Well, there is no better demonstration of how the western culture view east asian descent people as inferior than hollywood. Most people can't even name one hollywood made movie where the asian guy gets the girl at the end. Hell, they made dragon ball z and they used a white actor to play an asian part just so people wouldn't have a gag reaction.

Those who deny such racism exist in the western community, I say to you please continue to live in your fantasy land. The first step in solving any problem is to recognize that it exists. I've found that when this issue of racism against asian men is brought up people would usually deny up and down that it exists. No wonder east asians have been fighting for civil rights for 40 years and hasn't gone anywhere. People keep denying it exists.

So true. Isn't one of the first rules (if not *the* first rule) of Alcoholics Annonymous is that, to begin to recover from the problem, you must first acknowledge you have a problem. It applies to race and combating raciscm as well. It really is like a horrible, long-lasting, deep-rooted addiction.

 

[FunFunk]

Chinese actors Jackie Chan, and Jet Li have made films in Hollywood, in starring roles, and apart from their martial arts performances, have also been permitted to chase skirt.

Are they exceptions that we should ignore?

I think his point was that such scenarios don't happen nearly enough in mainstream Hollywood films.

Besides, for Asians, why must that happen only with actors best known for their martial arts work? Why not also a regular drama or comedy or other mainstream genre? But this is just a tiny drop in the bucket of how out of touch and small-minded Hollywood and the mainstream media are when it comes to race and depictions of people of color.

 

[FunFunk]

Now, Nomie...you know me well enough to know that any man I find attractive is going to hold my attention. I am open to dating guys of any race, so long as I find him attractive and his personality matches.

As far as my attraction to white men goes, I think what really gets me going about them is how different they are than me physically. Their features are pretty much on the opposite end of the spectrum when compared with mine. I find them exotic. The differences and contrasts excite me.

Now when I say the deal about the features, please note that I am not saying that there is something wrong with mine. I think some people confuse intrigue with another race's features with not being attracted to or disgusted by your own. That may be the case with some people, but it's not with me. I'm blue-black and I love what I see when I look in the mirror.

It also has nothing to do with thinking white men are better than others races, or any of that crap you hear people go on about. I'm sure some people have that messed up mindset, but I don't think that way.




I know about the racism deal, but I honestly thought us black guys get the worst end of it. I knew Asian had problems as well though. I dunno...the whole gay male community in general seems to be focused on white guys, imo.

And yeah, I've encountered the Cauc/Asian thing a lot. As I said earlier, I find it intriguing. I'm a pretty submissive guy myself, so I think it's a cute/hot setup what a lot of them have going on. I'm weird though...




My bad.

I guess some of my personal experiences made me think otherwise. But perhaps you guys are right.

Well clarified.

 

[altlover85]

I completely disagree. It wouldn't be meant to "protect" anyone. It's far more annoying that such a large number of people find it so difficult to look past race and skin color that they can't do without such standardized options. That is what is truly annoying -- and digusting. Actually, those are the only people race-based websearches "protect." They protect them from the paranoia of encountering the stereotypes they've learned, less from real life experience than from unfair depictions and preferences about race in pop culture. They certainly don't protect those being ignored and shunned for no reason other than the amount of melanin in their skin.

I guess I just don't see how getting rid of that option would help anything. Can you explain it better?

You can still self select the people you don't want out the minute you see a picture.

 

[FunFunk]

I love getting it for dessert at Thai restaurants.

I felt weird ordering the first time, though, because I was almost prepared for two Asian guys having sex to be brought out to my table.

Before reading this thread, the only reference for "sticky rice" I knew of was for the variety you eat in Thai restaurants (and I don't mean joining the two Asian guys having sex on your table as a threesome). It is a pretty silly term to use for people.

 

[electricflame]

I completely disagree. It wouldn't be meant to "protect" anyone.

Agreed. It's not protecting 2%. ASIANS ARE A MAJORITY. but all over the world it's about white people.

 

[altlover85]

Agreed. It's not protecting 2%. ASIANS ARE A MAJORITY. but all over the world it's about white people.

Are Asians a majority on gay dating websites?

 

[BearBoi]

I'm sticky!

I'd jack off to Caucasian men but, truth be told, I probably wouldn't date Caucasian men.

Now, if a white guy said the same thing, he'd be called racist.

Well, you know what? I'm not racist... only my penis is racist, and he just don't give a shit.

 

[youngnihilist]

I think you mean potato and not rice.

Right.

I do feel like where I am , Asians are progressing toward Asian pride and being proud of who they are and into other Asian guys. There are some potato queens but I see them very rarely now. Now it's Asians in groups together dating each other loving each other. It's nice to see. Not to say interracial sex is bad, it's great too just the fetishizing of white guys I thought was unhealthy. I'm seeing it less and less among the new gaysians.

 

[BearBoi]

As a Caucasian man, I read that article with a sense of amazement. I had no idea some Asians felt like that. Absolutely no idea. If anything, I’ve always been a little jealous of the Asian community’s close-knit structure and their incredible, ancient culture and history.

I’ve always thought that Asians had cause to be smug and feel superior. I’m NOT kidding. I mean, that article just fucked my whole world-view.