The Truth About Gay Asians...an Article

[altlover85]

As a Caucasian man, I read that article with a sense of amazement. I had no idea some Asians felt like that. Absolutely no idea. If anything, I’ve always been a little jealous of the Asian community’s close-knit structure and their incredible, ancient culture and history.

I’ve always thought that Asians had cause to be smug and feel superior. I’m NOT kidding. I mean, that article just fucked my whole world-view.

I would imagine it's harder for gay Asians who may not be as easily included into the family structure as their straight counterparts. The few gay Asian men I know are not out to their families.

 

[Telstra]

I would imagine it's harder for gay Asians who may not be as easily included into the family structure as their straight counterparts. The few gay Asian men I know are not out to their families.

Meaning, very very few Asians are out to their families.

Thats why there is NO gay pride march in Asian countries.

 

[Nomenclature]

Yeah. . .Asian countries are very traditional and conservative when it comes to family, so there's basically no way in hell an Asian guy would be able to come out as gay to his family and have it go well, or to be accepted.

In theory, I think that's why a lot of young, newly out Asian guys are looking for older men who can take care of them; they're still young, in school and aren't really capable of being on their own yet. They basically need that support, since they're cut off from family entirely.

 

[Ram]

Meaning, very very few Asians are out to their families.

Thats why there is NO gay pride march in Asian countries.

You might want to check your info first before making such statements. India, Taiwan, Japan, China, Nepal, Philippines and Thailand had such marches and are going to continue having pride marches.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/11/28/us-india-gays-idUSTRE6AR14V20101128

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/15/shanghai-pride-china-gay_n_215785.html

http://loqal.ph/travel-and-outdoors...speaks-against-prejudice-in-pride-march-2010/

 

[Ram]

According to your own link

Yes. I know. Shanghai had public drag shows and same-sex "weddings" in public with like 3000 people attending the festival in that entire week that was dedicated to gay pride. They are clearly in the closet and so anti-gay because you are only full of pride if you march or move from one street to another. I don't think I was wrong for equating gay pride festivals with gay pride parades.

This one has the word "parade" in it:

http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1866308,00.html

And the "no gay pride marches in Asia" is still just so wrong.

 

[electricflame]

Yeah. . .Asian countries are very traditional and conservative when it comes to family, so there's basically no way in hell an Asian guy would be able to come out as gay to his family and have it go well, or to be accepted.

In theory, I think that's why a lot of young, newly out Asian guys are looking for older men who can take care of them; they're still young, in school and aren't really capable of being on their own yet. They basically need that support, since they're cut off from family entirely.

Me and my Asian friends are out to our families. Aside from initial bad reactions all of us are now embraced.

 

[Sha-Rok]

As a Black man, I see so many other Black men who dismiss the idea of me just on the basis of being Black, and the source of it is so readily obvious, even though very few would take the time to confront themselves and their conditioning the way the writer of this article has. Kudos to him for doing this. I'm very happy for him. It's not an easy journey.

Yeah, I don't date "black" men or "white" men.

 

[GiacomoPisani]

i just wanted to point out that latinos is NOT a race,my boyfriend and my partner are hispanic ,and they are whiter than me,they all have 100% european ancestry,they even tell me jokingly that i can't go north to other "white' states because they are gonna kick my ass.

so hispanic people come in many different ways,some are 100%whites,some are biracial,some are blacks and some of them like the mexican and those from peru look like mayan or astec indians.

 

[electricflame]

Yes. It is confusing.

 

[altlover85]

Yes. It is confusing.

I'm assuming it means he dates men in general and sees men as men as opposed to men of a certain color.

 

[electricflame]

Ah. Makes sense.

 

[julien]

Accurate on the most part, but a sentiment I love in the comments was;

a guy that likes me, and I just happen to be asian"

also

I find that if men that like leaner body's gravitate to asian because they tend to have them, thats fine. I don't like rice queens, I avoid them like the plague. I am a person, one with depth, an opinion; I am not a fetish!

basically

my ideal is a tall thin/lean/athletic brunette with blue or green eyes, a bit rockerish.

Or a half asian/ caucasian guy with balanced features. I reckon that way i get the best of both worlds.

I actually find asian features like squinty eyes and complextion attractive in guys that arent even part asian. lol.


I go through phases of what i like, but asians, on the whole are def not unattractive, they have their "ugly ones" too, but so does every nationality....

 

[BearBoi]

I actually find asian features like squinty eyes and complextion attractive in guys that arent even part asian. lol.

OMGOMGOMG An Asian used the term “squinty eyes”! That’s precedent! He set precedent! Now I have just cause to use that phrase for the rest of my life and people can’t look at me like I’m racist! Thank you Jesus; today is the best day of my life!!!

 

[xname10]

the article is true i have seen so many gay asians drooling over white guys and rejecting asian guys when i see that i just think they have lowselfteem, specially when they say they dating an asian would be like dating their brother... , maybe its an asian thing because i have noticed this with gay asians and asian women.

if i meet a guy and i like him and he likes me and he tells me he wants to be bf but if he has a fetish for me i will reject him and will tell him that i dont want a bf with a fetish (unless he's rich lol)

so i dont mind having sex with a hot guy that fetishizes me but things will not go beyond that if he eventually wants more, i know races dont exist but my perfect guy would be a guy of the same ''race'' as me but i dont have a problem with other races as long as they dont have a fetish.

 

[Lostlover]

This thread of full of self hatred. Pathetic.

If the tv makes our attractions what they are, we'd all be straight. I personally think Asians that only date whites do this to fit in. I've seen To Catch a Predator, and there were a disproportionate number of Asians(Indians included). My psychiatrist brother attributes this to their ethnic groups not being mainstream so they go prey on children, not people more their ages.

There were few blacks on that show, a group here since our country's birth(Well, actually before our country's creation, but that's another story.)

 

[Lostlover]

Wow, I am in awe of you.

Just when I think I got pretty good at trolling, you go and do something like this.

I don't know how you're so masterful, but you just have the gift.

Well, do you have a medical degree or a better idea? I'm all ears...

There were more Asian pedophiles on that show than there were blacks. More Arab pedophiles than blacks. Despite their being 45 million blacks in this country compared to how many Arabs and Asians? My MD brother's idea seems to be true. I just built a bridge to this "white only"'garbage in this thread.

I'm sure he'd agree there's some self hatred too if you ask him.

 

[FunFunk]

I guess I just don't see how getting rid of that option would help anything. Can you explain it better?

You can still self select the people you don't want out the minute you see a picture.

Yes, you can still decide against meeting a person after you see his photo. But without the race option at least you would see the person's profile and what he likes, etc., and may very well notice that you have many things in common with him aside from skin color and may be willing to put aside your racially based preconceptions. You may actually start seeing him as an individual with many intriguing qualities of his own, not the blanket stereotypes that were fed to you by your exposure to the media and your lack of meaningful exposure to people with backgrounds and experiences that are different from your own. With the race exclusion option available, a perfectly good match could remain completely invisible.

 

[navidzurender]

Offtopic

who can resist dating this guy?

 

[altlover85]

Yes, you can still decide against meeting a person after you see his photo. But without the race option at least you would see the person's profile and what he likes, etc., and may very well notice that you have many things in common with him aside from skin color and may be willing to put aside your racially based preconceptions. You may actually start seeing him as an individual with many intriguing qualities of his own, not the blanket stereotypes that were fed to you by your exposure to the media and your lack of meaningful exposure to people with backgrounds and experiences that are different from your own. With the race exclusion option available, a perfectly good match could remain completely invisible.

My point is you usually see the picture and the profile at the same time, so you would immediately know the race anyway. And (at least at the websites I went to) if you do a search there is usually just a thumbnail picture and his profile name.

I think we're just coming at this from different angles. Regardless, I think expanding horizons is a good thing, if sometimes easier said than done for some people.

 

[AmazingP]

There are some truths to the article though it is not really universal as I also like Asians like me...it really depends on the person...