This is what I have to deal with...

[NickCole]

If I knew the answer to this, I wouldn't be sitting here.

But I don't have a bloody clue.

What are you doing to figure it out?

You do realize that your life and where it goes is YOUR responsibility, don't you?

Stuff happens and that creates challenges for us. How we respond to those challenges determines the direction and substance of our life. We have no control over other's behavior, and some of them behave badly towards us. It's up to us to not let it damage us or our life.

If you step in dog shit do you just leave it on your shoe forever or do you figure out how to clean it off?

There is an answer to my question but you have to seek it, it doesn't come knocking on your door: You're 27; your life is marching on; what do you want for yourself? You won't go up in flames if you answer it; and most likely the answer is inside your own heart.

 

[screwnutty]

If you had to stare them down...I'd want a pair of those eyecontacts that light up when you blink. Something about seeing a guy's glowing red eyes would be enough for me. Plus work on sounding like a demon.

okay in all seriousness. Winterknight. you were the bigger man. you did the right thing. As long as your happy with who you are and such...who cares what the world thinks. At least unlike that jack off, you don't need attention to feel good. Just remember what goes around, comes around and that guy will one day get his reward for being an asshole!

 

[Wolfowitz]

Start beating the person up when they do this, they ask for it by agitating you, its like self defense

 

[NickCole]

Give them them finger, throw a can of coke at them, beat them up ....

What is wrong with you guys? Didn't anybody ever teach you that aggressive hostile behavior doesn't solve problems? All it does is create more trouble.

You all sound like George Bush and that crowd: bombs are the answer!

For God's sake, peace begins with each of us and our own responses. Stop starting wars because people do things you don't like.

 

[interesting]

I'm having a hard time believing it myself.

So even if somebody doesn't look so attractive, it's ok to yell it out in front of other people then???.................yeah.................okaaaaayy

Okay, winterknight buddy, you need to take some of my classes on how to get a smart mouth....then right afterward, you will need to join me in my self-defense class. I know the feeling trust me, I've been called ugly too, it hurts............yet, now I'm bent on vengeance since I'd rather retaliate than wallow in my self pity.

 

[winterknight]

. Simple as that. If you act all passive, they'd think you're afraid of them.

That's just the thing. I *am* scared of them. I'm not going to do anything to retaliate, even the finger.

What are you doing to figure it out?

I do nothing *but* think about it.

But somehow I never seem to draw any conclusion.

 

[NickCole]

That's just the thing. I *am* scared of them. I'm not going to do anything to retaliate, even the finger.

I don't think you should retaliate in any way, but your being scared of them just really makes me angry at your parents.

I think parents have a responsibility to teach their children to be unafraid because fear is a really hard thing to figure a way out of.

But anyway ...

I do nothing *but* think about it.

But somehow I never seem to draw any conclusion.

Well then maybe thinking about it isn't the way to solving the problem. If you have a problem and the way you're going about solving it isn't working then you have to do something else.

What excites you? And don't say porn because I will crawl through my monitor and find you and strangle you! What makes you curious and excited, what engages your interest? What, when you start talking about it, makes you sit up straighter and listen more intently? What do you care about?

 

[mabby7]

...
Nasty comments are aimed at everyone, regardless of whether you're goodlooking or not. A friend of mine who's really hot and a lot of people at uni says that he's hot. A lot of girls and some guys visibly lusts over him, because he's got a hot body and the perfect alpha male facial structure. Yet, when he went to buy a mobile for his girlfriend, the salesgirl told him, "Wow, your asian and you're goodlooking. How weird." He tore up the mobile contract in her face and left. You have to understand that everyone gets nasty comments, so don't take it personally.

lols

But that's such a nasty comment. I can't believe someone would actually say that.

 

[rareboy]

I think as long as it isn't your parents saying it, it isn't a big deal.

 

[winterknight]

What excites you? And don't say porn because I will crawl through my monitor and find you and strangle you! What makes you curious and excited, what engages your interest? What, when you start talking about it, makes you sit up straighter and listen more intently? What do you care about?

I really, really don't know.

I don't interact with the world much.

 

[NickCole]

I really, really don't know.

I don't interact with the world much.

Why have you isolated yourself?

 

[screwnutty]

I really, really don't know.

I don't interact with the world much.

Hi Winterknight!

Okay I see you live in the good old UK!

So tell me...Do you like Doctor Who? What do you do for fun, your interests, etc. I'm just curious cause as you can tell and if you seen my other posts on here...well you know alot about me!

 

[winterknight]

Why have you isolated yourself?

Because stuff like this happens to me?

really... I dunno. I just have. It's been going on for about as long as I can remember, and it's become so ingrained now that I don't know if I'll ever change it.

Even though it's lonely

What do you do for fun, your interests, etc.

I don't.

I get up in the morniing, go to work, come home, sit down here and don't do anything else. And then the next day I do it all over again.

Yay me.

 

[Jannus]

Don't take it personally, Winter. They probably only said that because you look so much like a wolf.

 

[frankfrank]

Why don't you have an adventure?

Actually, W, I remember about a year ago that you DID post about an adventure that was going to happen this year, and the comments (including mine) were generally in the "G0 FOR IT!" mode. I've hoped you'd mention that adventure again, but I haven't seen it since. I think I understood that there was a screening, though, and perhaps more requests than the number of vacancies, but did you ever follow it up?

There's been some GREAT advice in the past 24 hours here, in this thread, and I agree entirely. Please consider what we're saying in here. You deserve to give yourself a chance to really experience life, friendship and...yes, love. And all that goes along with all those things.

And it may be a good while off, but please consider that (at least by statistical design) you will most likely outlive your parents. Being "independent" long before that day will certainly be more than helpful. I've known a couple of people myself who have been in situations VERY much like yours, and when the parents passed on, the results were not good.

 

[gayjay22]

I was walking down the street yesterday, and some random guy looks at me and shouts "oi, mate, if I looked like that I'd have shot myself at birth"

thats to bad people are rude like that,
but i read alot of ur other posts and it sounds like u have really low self esteem for really no reason. everyone looks different and u shouldnt base ur life on others opinions.

also y dont u post a pic on here and see what we think if u dont mind. i doubt u look as bad as u seem to think.

 

[screwnutty]

Because stuff like this happens to me?

really... I dunno. I just have. It's been going on for about as long as I can remember, and it's become so ingrained now that I don't know if I'll ever change it.

Even though it's lonely



I don't.

I get up in the morniing, go to work, come home, sit down here and don't do anything else. And then the next day I do it all over again.

Yay me.

well time to change that! add me to msn if you have it! At least you'll have a friend to chat with and I'm good at talking!