Wow. Just wow. Some interesting premises, but you need to organize your thoughts.
Here's something, though: I believe (though I do not have any relevant studies to back up that belief, only anecdotal evidence and a few educated guesses) that homosexuals know they're homosexual before they're ever sexual. Homosexual children understand that their attractions are for the same sex... but how they manifest that attraction differs case by case.
Child A will comprehend a predilection for mating with a male (I am talking about social and familial mating, not sexual mating) and, looking around himself at the exclusively heterosexual relationships around him (mommy and daddy, grandma and grandpa, play-family toys, family-oriented TV shows, etc.) will surmise that he must be female in order to mate with a male. He then develops and cultivates feminine characteristics.
Child B will manifest the same predilection for same-sex social mating by emulating what he desires, which is male. He develops and cultivates masculinity the same way Child A developed femininity; however, Child B, by conforming to social gender expectations, does not become an outcast the way Child A would; as a result, Child B usually discovers his homosexuality much later than Child A, and has a much harder time coming to terms with it, because he's suddenly facing the ostracism that Child A has become quite accustomed to over the years.
Then there's Child C, who started off as a Child A but had the femininity shamed or beaten out of him by gender-fascist parents. Child C will grow up resembling Child B, but will be a gender-dysphoric wreck on the inside; Child C will also come to loathe Child A for manifesting something that he associates with shame and pain (as might Child B, who has lived in homosocial environments where Child A was ridiculed, and Child B had a hard time coming to terms with his sexuality for fear of that ridicule).
And don't forget Child D, who will have grown up in a home where the heterosexual dichotomy has not been enforced and reinforced, and he grows up without any particular draw toward either masculinity or femininity in his quest for same-sex mating. Child D is the rarest of all rarities, however, since most parents do follow gender stereotypes; and even if the parents don't, the rest of society does. But Child D does exist.
But returning to Children A and B, our major archetypes: they've grown up, and are looking for male mates. Child A is now a big queen, and on the search for a masculine male to create his heterosexual paradigm; Child B is a "regular guy" (if not a macho man) who is not remotely interested in women, he worships the male and has emulated the male, so he wants another masculine man like himself.
Of course, Children A, B, C, and D are continuing to develop as they grow up and grow older, and more complex permutations than can be described in twenty-six letters are going to occur, so it's not like this is the be-all/end-all. But I do think that's how effeminate and masculine archetypes develop in presexual children with homosexual orientations; and judging by the variety of different experiences on which I've based these beliefs, I think I may at least be pointed in the right direction.
Something to think about, anyhow. The book you started us off with probably goes into greater depth with this sort of thing, and is based on a fifteen-year study which is more interested in preventing stress and anxiety in children than with "correcting" their development. It looks like an interesting read.