unsatisfied with sex life

[voyager1994]

sex therapy?

 

[sixthson]

sex is very but very important for me,i always tell my partner that the day he no longer gives me sexual satisfaction.that's it,our relationship is over.

Apparently your partner is either a corpse or brain dead because any living, breathing man with half a brain would have kicked your ass out the door.

To the OP: I have serious doubts that relationships end just because sex is not all it should be. Good sex is a product of a healthy, loving relationship. Walking away from a man, who is as you describe him, indicates that something is wrong somewhere other than the bedroom.
I'm sure you can find a guy who will let you fuck him everyday and satisfy your sexual desires, but finding a guy who loves you for who you are is not so easy.
Start taking your share of responsibility for your dissatisfaction in your love life. Examine yourself. Perhaps you are the selfish lover.

See a doctor about your medical condition, surgery is available for it.

 

[castoono]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and we have a great connection. He's the sweetest, most supportive guy I've ever been with,

Been there, done that. You are right being worried. Your relation is a close friendship. When you are truly in sex/love, you are open to almost everything, nothing seems too extravagant. Whenever you put frontiers, there's an issue there. The dirt thing I don't get it. The only solution is an open relationship.

 

[navidzurender]

I just hate it when the response is all about "if he can't satisfy you sexually, find another boyfriend" .
Well yah sex is important because it has a major significance in the whole concept of relationship but some people tend to think that sex is what a relationship is all about, and that causes a dark shadow over what he can offer ("great connection. He's the sweetest, most supportive guy I've ever been with, and he's been there for me in times when most guys would have given up")
vs what he lacks (sexual satisfaction)

 

[AlmondMilk]

Re: satisfied with sex life

Perhaps in order to get him to put out a bit more, YOU may also need to put forth more effort...say, more romance and attention? If you're rushing to the finish...maybe he's not properly prepared and thus anal is uncomfortable for him. Scheduling of sessions when he's at his "cleanest" may also help too...lessen his self-consciousness. Include showering into your foreplay...a nice, hot, long, soapy shower. .

I agree. A nice warm shower A bath would be great as well. Laying in the bath tub and making out. It could make for some hot foreplay.

 

[GiacomoPisani]

i always heard in my country that when there is no sexual chemistry in a relationship ,ummmmm things are going the wrong way.when sexual desire start to fall down and it affects sex and performance,unless it is because of a medical condition,something is falling apart for sure.if you wanna be convinced of this,ask the straights, quite a lot of them even after years of marriage with children and grand-children,get divorced because of that matter.
i had a similar situation that the Op and the best i can advise is to be very but very realistic when it comes to your partner,study him and analyze him thoroughly,is he doing this because he is shy,squeamish,or because he doesn't find me attractive,ask yourself questions like that.
in my case,my partner is bisexual and i had similar problems as you,to the point that i developed like a need to be very clean and have no body odors at all,because of comparisons that he used to make and i couldn't deal with it.But,if you are intelligent and know how to manipulate your man,you will see changes.Now,i see things changing fast in my relationship for the better,but i had to show him that i was getting less interested on him and i started to let him know very carefully, that very soon, our relationship was gonna be over.He hopefully reacted quickly and positively, and started to realize many things.Every time that he wanted sex,he got a huge cold "NO",i don't wanna have sex with you, i'm tired,go fuck one of those bitches that you like so much.".Do not be too "soft",sweetheart.
also remember that a partnership is like that,you have to accept things as they are,even when sometimes you do not like the way things are.

 

[hotb0d]

Keeping it to yourself is not nice. That's a recipe for disaster. The OP is doing things to make this work while his bf is not. His bf is the issue here, not the OP.

Communication is important and it seems like the bf isn't telling something.

that is an outsider's perspective. As I read the OP, I understand and agree that they obviously have communication issue. But if I can be in his bf's shoes, I can see how I can just shut my mouth and pretend I'm happy. I'm probably unsatisfied inside.

What is the OP's poster doing to make it work?