update on striaght friend

[trawler69]

Well done at last. It is a good feeling isn't it? and the reaction was as predicted, true friends don't judge you, they support you as yours has done. At least you now have someone you can talk about it too and who will support you even if he is straight, which you should be prepared to accept.

 

[Lucas07]

Congratulations! So happy for you Yeah it does take some load off your shoulders... kinda like setting yourself free.. I could tell because I kinda remember my experience! I am so happy for you! Update us whatever happens!

 

[boy-i-wanna-make-u-sweat]

At least you now have someone you can talk about it too and who will support you even if he is straight, which you should be prepared to accept.

Couldn't agree more. It's fantastic when you finally have someone who you can truly be yourself around.

I wish you and your friend all the best with your continued friendship.

 

[billybob109]

Alright i need some more help,

It has been 3 days since the day i came out to my ?straight? friend. The day after i told him when i saw him face to face, he came to my house with his friend from school and he had this smirk on his face like (yes, i knew it) or something of that sort. It was kind weird talking to him and him knowing what i told him over the internet about me being bi.

The other day we were in the mall and we passed abercrombie and fitch and i said "oh i cant believe they dont have a half naked guy in the picture" and he said "oh you like that". It was like he knows that he can joke about it in a way.

Also another point is that he or me never brought up the topic again. It is almost like 100000% he does not even care about what i told him the other day. NOTHING has changed in our friendship.. Not a bit change or a bit of acquardness.

Does he want me to ask him if he is gay/bi? Because i know he does not have the balls to tell me himself.
Or is he really straight and i just got myself a goodfriend? Any other suggestion people?

 

[boy-i-wanna-make-u-sweat]

Does he want me to ask him if he is gay/bi? Because i know he does not have the balls to tell me himself.
Or is he really straight and i just got myself a goodfriend? Any other suggestion people?

That's a tough one. I think you do need to ask him or you'll go mad. I can't really help you there as I've never asked anyone this before. What I can tell you is that straight friends can be that friendly. My best friend often feels me up

 

[MindBlast]

Alright i need some more help,

It has been 3 days since the day i came out to my ?straight? friend. The day after i told him when i saw him face to face, he came to my house with his friend from school and he had this smirk on his face like (yes, i knew it) or something of that sort. It was kind weird talking to him and him knowing what i told him over the internet about me being bi.

The other day we were in the mall and we passed abercrombie and fitch and i said "oh i cant believe they dont have a half naked guy in the picture" and he said "oh you like that". It was like he knows that he can joke about it in a way.

Also another point is that he or me never brought up the topic again. It is almost like 100000% he does not even care about what i told him the other day. NOTHING has changed in our friendship.. Not a bit change or a bit of acquardness.

Does he want me to ask him if he is gay/bi? Because i know he does not have the balls to tell me himself.
Or is he really straight and i just got myself a goodfriend? Any other suggestion people?

Nothing here points to him being gay at all. I think you got yourself a good buddy instead.

 

[jcaster42987]

Well, wouldnt you be happy with whats happening either way? Either you have a good friend, or he isnt telling you. When you say everything is completly the same, do you mean you guys still wrestle? Because it seems like that would go somewhere at this point if he was really bi, or you probably wont be wrestling at all anymore.

 

[gameboy 11]

I think you should ask him his orientation. Get that out of the way!

 

[billybob109]

Well, wouldnt you be happy with whats happening either way? Either you have a good friend, or he isnt telling you. When you say everything is completly the same, do you mean you guys still wrestle? Because it seems like that would go somewhere at this point if he was really bi, or you probably wont be wrestling at all anymore.

Yes we do still wrestle. I just came back from his house and i hurt my thumb in the process. Yes we still hang out all the time, and he has never brought it up about what i said. Sometimes in the car it will get silent and i really want to ask him what he thinks, about what i told him. But then again i think i should make a move on him while wrestling.. Because it is way hotter then talking about it and it might go somewhere.

Example on how it ends up sometimes:
He will put his leg between mine to act like he is going to kick me in the balls but does it real soft. I get him in sex like positions. He will also get me in a choke hold and i will give up trying to get out of it and we just sit their for a few seconds holding each other. Are the signs really that clear?? I did my part of telling him about me.. I think he should make the move if he really wants too. Today he got on top of me with my back on the ground and him sitting on my stomach facing each other. He kept on shoving his crotch area closer to my face. I wanted to so bad just unzip his pants and take that experienced cock for a ride. He is so fucking hoT!!!!! brown puppy eyes, brown hair, and body like an abercrombie model.


When we are in the position like that again should i just make a move?, or tell him "i want to suck your cock". What is the worst that could happen.. He already knows that im bi so that would not suprise him.. At most he could get grossed out and never talk to me again or he would just say no, Or i could be in heaven and he let me take that cock deep down my throat. Also i am scared becuase with the women he fucks he does not really talk to them after he fucks them. Would that happen with me or could it be different? Sorry if this makes no sense because im about to go to bed and i just got back from his house.

 

[Blueyes]

i cant really help you from experience but i would say go for it and best of luck to you! this thread is so interesting to read keep us posted

 

[looseliam]

Hmm, guy on my chest and a cock inches away...

That's when I bring my hands up and gently slide down his chest and pause at the belt line. All while keeping eye contact, of course. You'll know if he wants you to stop, or go on.

 

[billybob109]

Yes we do still wrestle. I just came back from his house and i hurt my thumb in the process. Yes we still hang out all the time, and he has never brought it up about what i said. Sometimes in the car it will get silent and i really want to ask him what he thinks, about what i told him. But then again i think i should make a move on him while wrestling.. Because it is way hotter then talking about it and it might go somewhere.

Example on how it ends up sometimes:
He will put his leg between mine to act like he is going to kick me in the balls but does it real soft. I get him in sex like positions. He will also get me in a choke hold and i will give up trying to get out of it and we just sit their for a few seconds holding each other. Are the signs really that clear?? I did my part of telling him about me.. I think he should make the move if he really wants too. Today he got on top of me with my back on the ground and him sitting on my stomach facing each other. He kept on shoving his crotch area closer to my face. I wanted to so bad just unzip his pants and take that experienced cock for a ride. He is so fucking hoT!!!!! brown puppy eyes, brown hair, and body like an abercrombie model.


When we are in the position like that again should i just make a move?, or tell him "i want to suck your cock". What is the worst that could happen.. He already knows that im bi so that would not suprise him.. At most he could get grossed out and never talk to me again or he would just say no, Or i could be in heaven and he let me take that cock deep down my throat. Also i am scared becuase with the women he fucks he does not really talk to them after he fucks them. Would that happen with me or could it be different? Sorry if this makes no sense because im about to go to bed and i just got back from his house.

Can some more people comment on this... I need help please!

 

[Blueyes]

given the situation I would go for it, it seems like he is just waiting for you to make a move on him especially with the whole "Today he got on top of me with my back on the ground and him sitting on my stomach facing each other. He kept on shoving his crotch area closer to my face" thing

 

[Eagle653]

The way I see it, one of three possible scenarios are in play:

1.) He's straight and totally comfortable with himself and with you with who you are. He likes playing with you, perhaps even unconsciously happy that he "stimulates" you while wrestling. In this case, it means nothing and will not lead to any sex or romantic interest. In other words, he's just being friendly.

2.) He's secretly bi or gay and is not ready to admit it to you--or doesn't know how. Instead, he "acts out" hoping you'll come on to him. Yet, if you do, and if he's not ready to admit this to himself, he could reject you--and not necessarily gracefully.

3.) He's straight and has you right where he wants you: In a mindfuck. He's playing with you, but in a power way--a cock tease. He's the straight one, he knows on some level you "want" him, so he's having his fun twisting and teasing and driving you wild. This would be indicative of a sadistic streak that he may not even be aware he has.

Which is it? Who knows? The only way you can take control of this situation and blow the mindfuck and stop the game is to confront him and ask him outright. Such as, "You know, I told you about myself and I appreciate that nothing's changed and that you value our friendship as much as I do. I'm curious, do straight guys like you ever fantasize about being with a guy? Have you? Anyone? Ever?" Lay it on thick and only hint that you think he might be receptive, but make verbal assumptions that he's straight.

Watch his reaction--carefully. If he's acting out #1, he'll shrug it off, answer politely but clearly, and change the subject. If he's acting out #2, he'll have a stronger reaction and perhaps defensive "Whaaat? Meee? Why would you think that?" (In which case, refrain from listing all the ways as you've done here LOL).

If #3, he'll be curt and reject the idea out of hand, but the mindfuck will stop.

Good luck. It'll be interesting to see what you do and he does!

 

[jcaster42987]

I think its strange he still wants to wrestle with you even after you told him about it. It just seems like any straight person would not want to do something like that, especially if they knew you might like it. What are his intentions if he really is straight and doesnt want anything?

I still dont think you should risk your friendship by just jumping in there and making blatent moves. Just see what happens, him sitting on your chest facing you sounds like hes hornyish.

 

[slobone]

I'm late to this thread, but I remember this guy from high school -- he's just your average young straight cock-teasing jerk. He may have some vague interest in fooling around with you sexually, but what he mainly wants is to see how worked up he can get you before shutting it off.

I'd love to tell you to forget about him, but probably that's not going to happen. So you'll just keep letting him jerk you around until one of you gets tired of it.

Even if something did happen, I'm sure he'd find some way to make you feel worse after it happened than you did before. Just a warning...

 

[boy-i-wanna-make-u-sweat]

I think its strange he still wants to wrestle with you even after you told him about it. It just seems like any straight person would not want to do something like that, especially if they knew you might like it.

Well some do. My best friend fits averageguy's option 1 above (it's not as full on as wrestling tho).

But yeah, you need to ask him and get all the facts straight (no pun intended).

 

[cm98059]

Just a few thoughts from another view point:

In your IM with your friend, you said "I might be bi". Since then have you said any more on the subject? If not, you might as well have said I might be green. You haven't come out to him, you said you weren't sure. His responce was "who the fuck cares" basically he said "so". This means absolutely nothing. You told him you had questions about your identity, and he told you that he is your friend.

So far, unless something else has been said on the subject, he is still unimformed about your thoughts. You guys are wrestling and horsing around. Don't read too much into this. So far from what is in this thread, your friend has only said that he accepts you with all your questions. I would sit down with him and talk. Be prepared to get any reaction here. Because, I have a feeling that he isn't reading your "I might be bi" comment as "I am bi, I am turned on by our wrestling, and I want you". I hope your friend is secure enough with himself, that your revelation doesn't scare him away, but be prepared that this may happen. Hopefully he is infact your friend, and will accept you anyway.

For now, you should assume that unless you have directly stated that you are straight, bi, gay, or otherwise, he doesn't know that you are. But be prepared to give him some space to process this information after you tell him. There are signs that he has identity issues of his own, but I wouldn't read too much into his advances yet. He may be trying to find his own identity too.

Don't be too forward. You don't want to move too fast and scare him. I would say that touching him would be okay, but I don't think pulling his pants down and sucking him off would be a good move yet. He might be receptive, but if he isn't ready or doesn't want that kind of relationship with you, he would be long gone.

 

[looseliam]

I'm going to be blunt, but please don't mistake it for rudeness:

Find your stones, and kiss him. It really is that simple.

 

[billybob109]

Issues

Thank you for all the feedback! I wish i read this thread earlier in the day, because i just did it my way tonight without jub help.

I avoided him for about a day, For us to be apart a day is a long ass time. He kept on calling me from his house phone ( he has no cell) to my cell phone. I hit the ignore button and he left me a voice mail saying "nice job hitting the f you button, call me back when you get this." He then called me again, then emailed me a text, then texted me from his moms phone, then called me again from his house phone. this happened in about a matter of 2 hours.

He wanted to talk to me so bad so i was twisting his head. I have done this in the past he gets so frustrated when he can not get a hold of me. So i finally called him back and he just said "come over" so i was like okay. So i went over his house and he was like saying this shit he would never say usually. He started talking about how when he get's back from spring break he is going to be a different person that he is going to quit smoking (pot), and look for a job so he can buy a car. I was like wow. I offered to help him look for a job or to get him a job where i work, and offered him other advice i had. We just kept on talking about alot of serious things. Another topic was how i said that i was fat (im 5'11, 190lbs. But i workout on a regualr basis. He said "your not fat dude shutup", That made me feel so good i just wanted to take him on his bed for hours and fuck and suck. This boy is hot!! Easily could be Corfin Fisher model.

Anyway after talking i said that i was going to the gym. Before i left i had to ask him what he thought.. so right before i opened his door to his room i said " so what do you think about what i told you the other day on aim?".. He replied "oh i dont care dude, it does not change who you are." And i left.. Was that a good closing?

Can it be that true that i got one of the best friends someone could ask for. Or is their more to him?
(btw im in new york not georgia)