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Using a wedding guest to come out

Alive and Free

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Well guys I have a family wedding comming up in April and I have the option of bringing a guest and I am conisdering taking a guy , this would undoubtedly would out myself to my family. Only a few know and it is hidden from most. Those closet to me have begged me to take beard so I dont rock the boat , what say you ?
 
Its not your day, i think it would be inconsiderate for you to even hijack your family members day for the positive or negative reactions from the other guests. I think you should find your own time and space to go through this process, its not about not rocking the boat, its about rocking the boat on your time not on a family members special day.
 
i do think if you come out before the wedding, with at least a decent amount of time that any reasonable person should have come to terms with it then by all means you should not feel unable to bring a bf or partner. Thats different though than bringing somone with the express purpose of surprising/shocking/coming out to people.
 
To use the wedding to come out would be the ultimate in selfishness. This day is not about you. It is about the bride and groom. Don't even think about it!
 
You could be like Rosie O Donnell and tell your parents you want to eat your boyfriend out when your all eating at the table...but then you would be a BITCH.

C'mon dude. I know its not fair you got to hide your trueself. But let them have thier day, its their wedding day not YOUR coming out day. :mad:
 
i agree with what others have said - don't hijack the day for yourself. If you're going to come out, do so before hand, and then take your partner. Or come out afterwards and don't take anyone to the wedding.
 
There are some days that really are NOT days for coming out of the closet.

Your religion's major holidays, your birthday, your new year's day... and other people's celebrations

Find another day to do this my friend.

You have roughly 300 other days to choose from.
 
Alive and Free said:
Well guys I have a family wedding comming up in April and I have the option of bringing a guest and I am conisdering taking a guy , this would undoubtedly would out myself to my family. Only a few know and it is hidden from most.
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I agree with the advice you've been given. You'll get all sorts of bad karma if you fuck up someone's very expensive wedding day with family drama.

If you want drama, go see Tony and Tina's Wedding.


Alive and Free said:
Those closet to me have begged me to take beard so I dont rock the boat , what say you ?
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If you are not comfortable going by yourself, go with a female friend or relative- but only if the invitation was for two people and you have RSVP'd for two.
 
yea, u shuld take a guy if that makes u happy. But yea I wuldnt take a flammer, or cross dresser, hahaha.
 
id first run it by the two people getting married...if they give u their blessing, take a man...if they look hesitant, take the hint and go alone...
 
Sorry guys i really should have re thought the thread title. I am not using this as a hey look at me , most probably wouldent get it as most of my close family I have come out to thought I was pulling a joke on them. I would in no way want to upstage their special day and that was never my intent but bringing a guy with me as a guest would certainly help me becomfortable in these bring a date to the family situations. I wouldent never date a fem or queen so thats not even a problem , just a goold old boy who happens to like the cock.
 
sentirpromesas said:
id first run it by the two people getting married...if they give u their blessing, take a man...if they look hesitant, take the hint and go alone...
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Now I think this is a very sensible approach. If you're out to them, you can talk to them about it. If they jump up clapping their hands together and hug you and say "I'm so happy for you!" It's a definite go. If they go "Uhhh...I think mom would be unhappy" then it's a definite no. Anything between requires assessment.

If you're not seeing anyone special, bring a friend. Tell anyone who asks, "this is my friend Jack" (or Susan, or whatever). Don't hold hands or dance together or do anything that implies you're a couple.

If you ARE seeing someone special, I think this should be discussed with the happy couple well in advance. Or you should go alone. Under no circumstances bring a beard, which is insulting to the woman as well as an affirmative lie.
 
From my perspective, it totally depends on the bride/groom. A "family" wedding can have many definitions. If it is a close family member that already knows and accepts that you are gay, then I see no problem bringing an important man along. By that I mean that if your immediate family knows and accepts you, then who really cares what your second cousin might think.

But, if the bride & groom have no clue about your sexuality, there is no way I would advocate bringing a date. Additionally, if your parents and siblings (if there are any) don't know, this is not the place to make waves.

Finally, even if your immediate family does know and accept that you are gay, I wouldn't bring just anyone. If you are dating someone seriously, then go for it. If you aren't, just go stag.
 
OrionFyre said:
Yes I do. Do you have a goram problem with that?

(if you know that one then I want to have your babies)
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I didn't notice the second part. Please see my comment above for evidence that you want to have my babies!
 
Poppycock, all of it!

You should take a guy with you. When I got invited to a big-ass party where everyone could bring a guest, I took a female friend of mine who obviously wasn't my "girlfriend". That evening I felt like a whore, dancing after the tune of others. I wish I had brought a male friend, just to give some "pointers".

But if you have someone in mind to bring, take him and don't reduce yourself to some female friend who does it as a favor, possibly even hooking up with one of the the groom's men in the backseat of his Sedan around midnight.

Do yourself a favor and live your life and not the one of others.
 
Well, I don't see how it will automatically out you. Unless people already know and they're looking for proof.

And so what if it happens some find out you're gay.

You're not making the day about you. You're being you. It'll be the others the make the day about you because they're being silly.

Take whom you wish, I say.
 
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