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Were any of you guys (or girls) molested as children?

Nope, not so much as a quick feel by one of the nannies.

But let's face it, I was a chubby little thing with a bad temper. Probably a molesters worst nightmare.
 
ive never been molested or anyhing of the sort, and Im exclusivly gay. Whilst I know it does happen to some, I believe the actual percentage is far far lower , (if not minimal) than people would like to think. its a gross misconception, promoted by scare mongerers as it re-encorces their "deviant" stereo type.
 
Some current data on child abuse (US):

According to "Child Maltreatment 2004" (Children's Bureau/U.S. Department of Health and Human Services), the most recent report of data from the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS), approximately 872,000 children were found to be victims of child abuse or neglect in calendar year 2004. Of this number, 62.4 percent suffered neglect, 17.5 percent were physically abused, 9.7 percent were sexually abused, 7 percent were emotionally or psychologically maltreated, and 2.1 were medically neglected. In addition, 14.5 percent of victims experienced "other" types of maltreatment such as "abandonment," "threats of harm to the child," and "congenital drug addiction."

The largest percentage of perpetrators (78.5 percent) were parents, including birth parents, adoptive parents, and stepparents. Other relatives accounted for an additional 6.5 percent, residential staff for 0 .2 percent, and day care providers for 0.7 percent. Unmarried partners of parents accounted for 4.1 percent of perpetrators while foster parent accounted for 0.4 percent of perpetrators.

In terms of gender, 57.8 percent of child abuse and neglect perpetrators were females and 42.2 percent were males. For the most part, female perpetrators were younger than male perpetrators; of the women who were perpetrators, 44.4 percent of females were younger than 30 years of age as compared to 34.1 percent of males.

Note: The data has limitations. Government statistics are based on cases that were reported to social service agencies, investigated by child protection workers, and had sufficient evidence to determine that a legal definition of "abuse" or "neglect" was met. A good number of cases are underreported.

Link to official report:
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cb/pubs/cm04/index.htm
 
Yes.

On another note, my uncle placed me on his lap and then I urinated on him lol.
 
Never molested sexually. Your friend is wrong.
 
Continues to be an interesting thread...

I confronted my molester, via snail-mail. He responded by not acknowledging he did anything wrong. Two years ago I told my brother, and he admitted being molested as well. We were both distraught. At the end of a bottle of scotch, we vowed to dance on his grave as our way displaying our disdain. Not like this will erase the hurt, but perhaps it will make me feel in control of my life for just a bit...
 
ive never been molested or anyhing of the sort, and Im exclusivly gay. Whilst I know it does happen to some, I believe the actual percentage is far far lower , (if not minimal) than people would like to think. its a gross misconception, promoted by scare mongerers as it re-encorces their "deviant" stereo type.

Hey Teddy,

Mate I think that you missed the point a little...I dont think anyone was suggesting that all gay people were molested...that would just be too scary to comtemplate. Thank God theres plenty of normal guys...guys who had great carefree childhoods that are gay. Thats what makes us a great group...just like any other....diversity...difference. We've all got different backgrounds and experiences. Being gay is like any other trait or characteristic...

I think the question is more about the number of people who were molested being gay... does it swing the pendulum one way or another? Does it influence the outcome of peoples sexuality? However until we live in a world where honesty and lack of judgment rule...we'll never know the real %'s or the effects.

And yeah mate...certainly there are some out there who want to paint gays as deviants... and again like all groups there are some amongst us who deserve the title...and not because they molest. Thats a different group altogether.

The best we can do is live our lives openly honestly and with love and consideration...be productive concerned members of society...thats the best way to shut the vocal minority up.
 
Wow...elvin, i had no idea. all you other guys too. though it makes sense since i keep reading an amazingly high number of kids are molested. and obviously most of the perps get away with it, despite what you see on dateline. i remember reading that maybe 10% of rapists in general are arrested. it must be even smaller for pedophiles.

have any of you tried to have the person responsible prosecuted? or better yet, tried to make the person pay yourself (and not necessairly through violence. i would really like to exact some kind of revenge. not by going public but making the guy's life hell. i just can't stop thinking about doing something to him to slowly torture him over time til i'm mentally satisfied. i'd be lying if i said i didn't think about beating the shit outta him once a week for the rest of his life too tho. not to mention the fact that the bastard has teen kids of his own which makes me wonder about whether he's hurt them too...i don't really know what to do. i keep thinking about it more and more as the years go by...it gets worse not better like it should.)

What JustBelieve said was important -- sometimes running into a discussion like this can bring it all back. I had a moment... not quite a flashback, but reliving that first moment of terror.

The statistic about rapists and other abusers is important to keep in mind. The really dangerous ones never get caught, and a lot who do get caught do because they deep-down wanted to. I saw a study that said that 98% of registered sex offenders who keep their registration up like they're supposed to are no danger whatsoever; they'll never offend again, while the guesstimate was that the ones who don't get caught are doing it over and over and over.

Obviously, from what I wrote, I was molested. The only effects I'm aware of was (1) I totally blocked it all out of my mind for more than two decades and (2) subconsciously decided (since I "knew" sex was evil, something degrading only to be done for procreation, and hard-ons were from the devil) that I wasn't sexual.

If my (prime) molester was still alive, I'd want to drown him in all the cum I didn't get to receive from all the hot guys I missed because he fucked up my life.
 
Nope, nope, and no. Personally, I think this is WAY too personal of a question to ask. Memories like that are extremely painful and it's incosiderate to ask
 
Oh God, I am very sorry for all you guys who were molested... but I´m utterly devastated to even start to imagine that someone could do that to children... It makes me sick of the human race... I would definetely never have children, or if I do, they are not leaving my sight for a minute.
 
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