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What Do Women REALLY Think About Bisexual Men?

ahotjock71 said:
That's right. What if you have sex with a guy, or even a couple of guys, then decide it's not your bag. Then you find that girl who just knock your socks off & you find sex with her the best thing in the world.

In the future, would you not describe this time in your life as "experimental" or "confused?"

Right now, doll, you are GAY CURIOUS. Until you try it, HOW DO YOU REALLY KNOW?
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Well I may not have had sex can I not say what type of body or face (male or female) is attarctive to me? I could never have sex with somebody I didn't fin at leat midly attractive (<-- and I don't find women attarctive in the least). And that still doesn't defend your earlier statement. What if those bi husbands HAVE done both and like both, does thta mena they cannot be in a loving monogamous relationship? No, it just means they may find other men AND women attractive a opposed to just other women. IT doesn't mean they will act on those urges, as tons of people don't.
 
I am a female. Yes, I would be okay with my husband being bi. The fact that he is bi would not be a turn on or off. Why would I be jealous? The expectation would be that if he were with me, the relationship is monogamous. Any man can cheat if they want to no matter the sexual orientation. If the man acted on the urges, that would be unacceptable. However, people do deserve second chances sometimes. Many women married to straight man forgive them for activities outside the marriage, so why would this be any different.
 
ahotjock71 said:
Why are we making this about you & your attractions?

If you were a woman, how would you feel?
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First part: Because they apply to the conversation.

Second part: No different than I feel now. Why would gender change anything?
 
I've never knowingly dated a bi guy, but I see no reason why I wouldn't. I'd hope that he'd be honest and upfront about it with me, which I think is almost a bigger issue: It seems like (from the posts we see) lots of bi guys don't tell their girlfriends that they are bi.

Why does a monogomous relationship have to be limited to two? Have you ever heard of 3 men in a relationship together? Or a guy with 2 girlfriends who knew about each other and he was totally honest with both of them (I've had some experience with that one)? It might even be possible to have a relationship with a bi guy where there is another guy involved too, though I don't really know.

All I know is that his ability to honest and open and communicate is the most important thing.
 
NameTaken said:
First part: Because they apply to the conversation.

Second part: No different than I feel now. Why would gender change anything?
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1. No, they are not. Can you differentiate that?

2. It would. You are THINKING like a dude, not a chick.
 
I'd happily marry a bi guy, but he'd need to be monogamous, and not someone who 'struggles internally' with his feelings for men. It definitely seems, from what I've seen on JUB and some other forums, that there are plenty of bi men perfectly capable of settling down with a woman (or a man, for that matter) without ever longing to be with a man. I wouldn't mind at all if he looked at hot guys - I see no difference between that and checking out hot women. And if he was looking at men, I could join in! ;)

Some people choose to have open relationships - more power to them, but that's definitely not for me.

I really don't believe that if a bi man marries or has a relationship with a woman, he's somehow 'stopped' being bi. The feelings would still be there, even if he wasn't acting on them. Equally, if he has a relationship with a man, I don't think this makes him gay, either.
 
ahotjock71 said:
1. No, they are not. Can you differentiate that?

2. It would. You are THINKING like a dude, not a chick.
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1. Umm that response doesn't make any sense. :confused:

2. Well it seems all the girls here think the same way and also you're discriminating based on gender, automatically assuming girls would think differently than us.
 
Zeremonie said:
I've never knowingly dated a bi guy, but I see no reason why I wouldn't. I'd hope that he'd be honest and upfront about it with me, which I think is almost a bigger issue: It seems like (from the posts we see) lots of bi guys don't tell their girlfriends that they are bi.

Why does a monogomous relationship have to be limited to two? Have you ever heard of 3 men in a relationship together? Or a guy with 2 girlfriends who knew about each other and he was totally honest with both of them (I've had some experience with that one)? It might even be possible to have a relationship with a bi guy where there is another guy involved too, though I don't really know.

All I know is that his ability to honest and open and communicate is the most important thing.
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I can see where the honesty thing would be the biggest issue. For any relationship to work, there has to be complete honesty from the beginning.

But you don't feel you would be compromising your values or feelings by him being attracted to people you cannot, I suppose, compete with? I mean, with other women you can compete, but with men it's a different ballgame?

As for the group relationship thing, I live in a college town and have seen many of them, and they ALL ended badly.
 
NameTaken said:
1. Umm that response doesn't make any sense. :confused:

2. Well it seems all the girls here think the same way and also you're discriminating based on gender, automatically assuming girls would think differently than us.
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1. What I mean is your attractions do not apply to the topic of conversation. The topic is "How Do Women REALLY Feel About Bisexual Men." How do your attractions apply to that topic?

2. With basic biological, chemical & sociological differences women do not think "just like men."
 
If one goes into the realationship with the expectation of monogomy, how would that be compromising values. As far as competition, if one chose to compete, what is the big difference?
 
ahotjock71 said:
1. What I mean is your attractions do not apply to the topic of conversation. The topic is "How Do Women REALLY Feel About Bisexual Men." How do your attractions apply to that topic?

2. With basic biological, chemical & sociological differences women do not think "just like men."
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Yes they do. You said I may not be gay and I was using that as an examle to show that I most definitely am. So please, tell me again how they don't apply?

2. They are monogmous men and women, there are sluts of both sexes, there are tomboys and there are metrosexuals. Nowadays I wouldn't be so sure about that.
 
NameTaken said:
Yes they do. You said I may not be gay and I was using that as an examle to show that I most definitely am. So please, tell me again how they don't apply?

2. They are monogmous men and women, there are sluts of both sexes, there are tomboys and there are metrosexuals. Nowadays I wouldn't be so sure about that.
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1. That is an "off topic" conversation you seem to want to rehash. Move on, post relevant to the topic, or find another thread.

2. You are speaking of fringes of the mainstream (minus the monogamous). While their opinions & feelings are relevant to the topic, most women around the world believe in marriage & family, mainly because that is what they were taught as socially correct. but that's a WHOLE other topic.
 
It's not about WANTING or NEEDING to have sex with both genders, hotjock, it's about responding to stimuli obtained from both sexes. Unlike you gay guys, we find women sexually appealing, and unlike straight guys, we find men appealing too.

None of us bi-guys (at least I assume we are all on the same page here, so I hope you don't mind me offering a collective opinion) just want to fuck fuck fuck anything that moves all the time. We are as capable as anyone else of remaining faithful, and as capable as anyone else of cheating. The only difference is we can see ourselves settling with either a man or a woman.

Should a girl feel different about dating a bi guy than a guy should about dating a bi girl? I don't think so - but I can't speak for the women.

You raise some interesting and searching questions, but I find myself wondering why you ask more than anything else.

-d-
 
ahotjock71 said:
1. That is an "off topic" conversation you seem to want to rehash. Move on, post relevant to the topic, or find another thread.

2. You are speaking of fringes of the mainstream (minus the monogamous). While their opinions & feelings are relevant to the topic, most women around the world believe in marriage & family, mainly because that is what they were taught as socially correct. but that's a WHOLE other topic.
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1. Like I said before, it was relevant. It was used as an example to reinforce an argument.

2. Are we ourselves not fringes of the mainstream?
 
Speaking collectively for bi guys.

Bi guys just want to fuck fuck fuck not neccessarly fuck fuck fuck everything that moves.

But couldn't this be said of everything that has a penis :p
 
blackbeltninja said:
It's not about WANTING or NEEDING to have sex with both genders, hotjock, it's about responding to stimuli obtained from both sexes. Unlike you gay guys, we find women sexually appealing, and unlike straight guys, we find men appealing too.

None of us bi-guys (at least I assume we are all on the same page here, so I hope you don't mind me offering a collective opinion) just want to fuck fuck fuck anything that moves all the time. We are as capable as anyone else of remaining faithful, and as capable as anyone else of cheating. The only difference is we can see ourselves settling with either a man or a woman.

Should a girl feel different about dating a bi guy than a guy should about dating a bi girl? I don't think so - but I can't speak for the women.

You raise some interesting and searching questions, but I find myself wondering why you ask more than anything else.

-d-
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I don't nescessarily think it is al about sex all the time either, but why classify yourself as bisexual when you settle with one gender or the other? If you settle for women or one woman, you are straight. If you settle for men or one man, you are gay.

I am a black & white person, and it is the "grey" I do not understand. I suppose I ask more because somewhere in all this madness someone may trip a switch that more clearly illuminates the subject, not only for myself, but some who may be equally interested, but lurking on the fringes. :-)

The reason I started this particular topic was we all seem to argue or "discuss" from the male perspective, and I thought it would be refreshing to try to view things from the girls standpoint. Something that has been lacking in these discussions.

While most of us are gay or bi men, we all have mothers, sisters, friends who I know some of us have had these conversations with. While they may not be here to give a say, someone can post an abridged version of such an opionion. It is my hope also someone may have useful links to polls or studies on the subject to post. There is SO much more to this than what gay & bi men have to say, and that is my initial point.
 
Gotto Learn To Share

ahotjock71 said:
Why the sigh, boo?

Do we think that we can all run around fucking each other & the other sex not have an opinion about it? Are we not supposed to consider their feelings?
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This thread is really heating up. Bisexuality seems a hot button issue.

I find that straight guys/ some bi guys are hotter than other guys. But if they are straight or bi then chances are they will date women, and there is not much you can do about that right.

To tell the truth when i used to date straight/bisexual guys, or gay straight acting guys that only had a girlfriend for show purposes, i used to feel bad for the women they dated knowing that i had their man.

Then i realized that in todays world, we have to learn to share.

Lets face it some guys are way too hot for one woman to have them on lockdown.

Some men just have to be shared , so its every woman and man for themeselves.

Guys R Hot
 
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