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What do you get from your ex boyfriend (s)?

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Q: What do you get from your ex boyfriend?

A: Heartburn :lol:
 
One of my ex boyfriends used to mock the way I talked. I had a South Philadelphia accent. That helped me to lose the accent.
 
I've been in 2 serious LTR's in my relatively young gay life (as in, after coming out) and from both I have learned a lot about myself. I feel that relationships can teach you a lot about the type of person you are, the type of person you want to be, and the type of person you want to be with (it can change from one relationship to the next, depending on how much you learn).

I've learnt things about me that it turns out I don't like (insecurities more than anything else, tbh), but I'm going to use these lessons to become a better version of myself for when the next guy comes along. My 2nd ex got a better version of me than my 1st and my 3rd will get a better version than my 2nd. I guess getting older and more mature also helps with this.
 
I still get a nice card, present and text :) Also, the knowledge that I should try and not fall for people who have to go back home - 5k miles away!
 
Where to go for free HIV testing.

The location of a sex motel. It charges by the hour and has porn on the television.
 
I've learned that my first ex is having a better fucking life than me.
 
Promises that he will change, because he claims that he still loves me...

I am not really buying that...:D
 
restraining orders

in all seriousness, I always take away something from an ended/ending relationship. It could be existential, literal, or spiritual. I always learn from my mistakes ;)
 
joswanprince said:
Im glad.^^ I know myself from endless self-introspection but my exes help me to know to reveal what kind of person for my next LTR.
They're like stepping stones, I satisfied their needs but I never get what Im looking for?
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I've very recently taught myself to look at it differently, and you kind of touched on it with the first part of your post....

You might go in to a relationship looking for it to go the distance and for him to be "the one", but if it doesn't work out, look at it as another stepping stone to a better you and to a better relationship with someone that's right for you.

Yeah, to begin with, it feels like failure, but the best lessons are taught by failure. If you don't/can't turn it into a lesson, then sure, that's a bit disappointing, but if you can then be happy with that.

I guess what I'm trying to say is; look for one of TWO things with your next relationship - "the one", or an opportunity to learn.

Do that and you can't fail. Either way, you'll get something out of it.



And worry not, there'll be someone out there right now learning their lessons and making sure they're perfect for you ;)
 
i don't have any ex's.....I'm still w/my first and only bf.....28 yrs on Aug 6th just around the corner.....
 
I learned from my first X that hard work and loyalty means you can be successful without a lot of formal education but skill and work ethic.
From my second I learn how to die with grace and humility and what pain is at this time,... To walk like a Man.
 
joswan, some relationships don't break.. I'm halfway to racer's stage of things. 14 years and I have no ex boyfriends.
 
Only on ex. We shared nerd genes, and a fondness for ninja turtles. I also learned that you can keep some things private even from your boyfriend.

The main thing I got? Practice in bed for all subsequent bed partners. :)

Lex
 
joswanprince said:
@racer= Well..because this is online so Idk the credibility of your story. If you're relatively young/middle age, 28 years steady is quite dangerous..because of the fatalism when it breaks ( I dont wish, Im concerned!) But if you're far beyond my age and had a considerable exploration time to choose and learn, then you're in the way of completion ..|

So, what have you learned/gotten from him? ^^
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"28 yrs steady is quite dangerous"
Where do you get that it is dangerous? I'm 46 and my honey is 52 and I would not have it any other way.

one main thing I have learned not all just from him, is that one can't help ignorant people. We met on Aug 6th 1984 and have a beautifull LTR going that is unmatched by some/most. LTR's are not for some, and relished by some/most. But just cuz someone say's they are, I don't go knocking it with presumptions of credibility.
 
joswanprince said:
I dont get it. What it has to do with my thread? Or..please explain :D
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"What do you get from your ex boyfriend (s)?"

What do I get? I just want them to leave me alone. Peace and quiet... and that's what I get. Everyone is replying to your question as if you asked "What did you get or learn?" But you asked "What do you get?" What do I get now, peace and quiet. What I got then wasn't your question. Yeah, I know I'm being too literal but I answered what you asked.
 
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