What Do You Think Of Gaybars?

[bayern20]

Ok, unless you live in a really really big city (and maybe even then) loads of gay "bars" are not just gay bars. (that in itself is the problem) One of the main "bars" here, is really also a mini club as well. (there is a dance area, etc) So you are going to get your guys that just wanna have a beer and watch the game, but a lot of them are there to dance, kiss, and yes feel each other up. And, I'm sure you can add different groups in there.

This is precisley the problem. I think from city to city, you cant just keep a gay SPORTS bar, it wouldn't last. I mean I would LOVE it..I'd be there everyday, because I'm into most sports, but gay community is much smaller than the straight. (and even some straight bars dont succeed) So as a result, it becomes a bar that is a lot of different things (therefore attracting a lot of different people)

 

[Andreus]

it seemed made up to me as well

just an opinion

 

[bayern20]

And..if its true, its not hard to figure out.

If you go into some twink club, and you aren't a twink (more butch)..chances are people will come up with those types of questions "Are you straight?" or questions that may not make sense..because you look out of place.

 

[sb]

I also doubt the story is true. And if it is true I wonder what they were doing to be asked if they were straight.

 

[Andreus]

I also doubt the story is true. And if it is true I wonder what they were doing to be asked if they were straight.

punching guys in the back of the head maybe?

being obnoxious and disrespectfull of the place they were IN?

just a few guesses

 

[Andreus]

Ralph, do you always cause such controversy and drama wherever you go? LOL

Looks like you have a fan club here.

fanclub?

lol

hell

anyone that can make SB, Soilwork, and Andreus agree on something is a miracle worker

he probably needs his own church, not a fanclub

 

[RRRalph]

I still think there's a lot of liars in this thread.

He's making it up.

it seemed made up to me as well.

Ditto.

I also doubt the story is true.

What the hell? I didn't make up that story! Only because you don't like it, it didn't happen? That's so easy. The bartender asked me if we are gay. Don't ask me why he ask that, he just did.

You shouldn't dramatically overanalyse and conclude it is gay bashing cuz we look straight and therefor not gay. Who cares for that? I am what i am, weather people like it or not.

 

[Soilwork]

LOL What does that mean?

IT means we can add another line to the tally of how many posts in this forum end with "I'm SO straight acting that even the fags can't tell."

Nothing more.

 

[RRRalph]

I've been to many gay bars over the last 20 years since I came out, and I think I've been felt up by someone who just felt me up out of nowhere maybe three times. I've been felt up many times, but very seldome just out of nowhere like that.

But it did happen. It happen to me and my buddy too that night and in that gaybar. I didn't claim it happens everywhere. Of course i know that not all gaybars are the same. From what i read here there are various opinions. Many experienced some gaybars like meat markets. Many don't.

I think it's more the inherrant homophobia amongst bisexual men which causes them to over-exagerate and flat out lie about things that have happened to them in gay clubs.

Here it comes again: homophobia. What the hell are people doing in a gaybar when they are homophobic? Think better Jasun.

Haven't you seen how many posts by the men who post in this forum all seem to end with "I'm so straight acting that everyone thought I was straight unlike those big flaming faires who were covered in glitter and wearing wings and grabbing every ass that walked past and rubbing up against each other?" It's just yet another story where the moral is "Wow... I'm so butch that nobody can tell I'm gay so therefore I'm not a big fairy like you guys so I can feel a bit better about myself."

I know you love to dramatise things. You sound like a stand up comedian. A bad one tho

Look... I too have been mistaken for straight before. But that seldom happens in a gay place because gay people know that gay people come in all shapes and sizes. They know that there are masculine gay men and feminine gay men and gay men who appear gay and gay men who don't.

I wish all gay people are open minded like that about bisexual. Thankfully most people at Jub aren't narrow minded. Just a few.

 

[Soilwork]

Here it comes again: homophobia. What the hell are people doing in a gaybar when they are homophobic? Think better Jasun.

you tell me.


I worked in gay bars from the time I was 20 until I was 27. I saw LOTS of homophobic guys come in.. brag about how masculine they are.. how "None of these faggots can tell I'm gay" or "I bet these guys are all wondering what a straight guy is doing here." We'd all laugh about it once the bar was closed.

I've had so many guys harp on and on about how much they hated gay bars but they get horny and "need some ass" or some noise like that.

A bartender at a gay bar knows that gay men come in all types... although they also know a guy going out of his way to act straight and they know tips go up when you stroke the customer's ego. If that actually did happen and you weren't flirting with girls or checking out their tits (which you just may have been.. I wasn't there), he was probably just telling you what he knew you wanted to hear.

Bar staff are good like that.

 

[Andreus]

OMG. Aren't you straight Mattie? What does a straight man do in a gay website?

Jub Member: Are you straight?

Mattie: Yes I am

Jub Member: *turns to other Jub Member* Mary thinks she's straight.

haha

you guys arent taking it to the next comment

the other person then says....

" yeah right... she's got a swing in her gait and helium in her heels.... are you buying?.....lets do a shooter !!!

 

[RRRalph]

You tell me.

I worked in gay bars from the time I was 20 until I was 27. I saw LOTS of homophobic guys come in.. brag about how masculine they are.. how "None of these faggots can tell I'm gay" or "I bet these guys are all wondering what a straight guy is doing here." We'd all laugh about it once the bar was closed.

I've had so many guys harp on and on about how much they hated gay bars but they get horny and "need some ass" or some noise like that.

A bartender at a gay bar knows that gay men come in all types... although they also know a guy going out of his way to act straight and they know tips go up when you stroke the customer's ego. If that actually did happen and you weren't flirting with girls or checking out their tits (which you just may have been.. I wasn't there), he was probably just telling you what he knew you wanted to hear.

Bar staff are good like that.

O yes, all bar staff are the same I can't judge how others are in gaybars. I haven't work there and i haven't been there much. I can only tell you how i am. As much as you like to see me as an asshole, who think is better than others. I'm really not. I don't brag, i don't act, i don't think i'm better. I am loud tho when i talk to people, making jokes and have a laugh. That's what i do where ever i go out, including in a gaybar.

I think that those homophobic guys who entered a gaybar and brag about how masculine they are, are a bunch of losers. What were they thinking? That all the people in the bar get on their knees and worship Mr Masculine and that there will be a queue with people who likes to have sex with them? I agree that that is very pathetic.

 

[RRRalph]

I also doubt the story is true. And if it is true I wonder what they were doing to be asked if they were straight.

Punching guys in the back of the head maybe?
being obnoxious and disrespectfull of the place they were IN?

I was getting our first drink, so nothing could have happen before. I didn't punch the, just a slap at the back of his head. I very nicely said before that i am not interested and he kept continuing. He wouldn't listen. He got the message, so it worked. It wasn't a hard slap btw.

 

[sb]

You shouldn't dramatically overanalyse and conclude it is gay bashing cuz we look straight and therefor not gay.

From your pictures if I saw you in a gay bar I would think you were gay... even if you were all over a girl I would still think you were gay. You don't look straight to me at all.

Not that you can determine someone's sexuality just by looking at them.

 

[RRRalph]

From your pictures if I saw you in a gay bar I would think you were gay... even if you were all over a girl I would still think you were gay. You don't look straight to me at all.

Thanx for the compliment

 

[sb]

Thanx for the compliment

thats ok

 

[AresIncarnate]

I also notice that gay clubs tend to attract women that I find more attractive than I usually find in the straight clubs AND there are less fights.

I have a gay friend who happens to know a lot of hot chicks. So, one night, I decided to go clubbing with him to meet chicks. The problem is, I kept getting shot down, and I couldn't figure out why.

Then one chick got really drunk and said, "so, we really want to know, are you gay?" Turns out they kept shooting me down because they thought I might be my buddy's boyfriend (he doesn't really have many male friends; he's pretty effeminate). I dunno, that makes me think it'd be hard to pick up a chick at a gay club.

 

[Kulindahr]

punching guys in the back of the head maybe?

being obnoxious and disrespectfull of the place they were IN?

just a few guesses

I'm thinking --

looking uncomfortable
looking lost

 

[ZonerTC]

Heh, gaybars... Fun places, I had rough starts with the bar scene. But after a few years of hiatus due to embaressment, and a few friends to go with me... it wasn't so bad.

A few years back, I went with two friends (boy, girl, I). Two of us just basically sat in a corner and became introverts rather quickly. I wasn't exactly looking for any relationships, where as my male friend... HE was a casanova with the men.

Eventually my lady friend and I looked on in envy as he went to basically every single guy in the place and hit on them, gave them a wink/laugh and walked away. He came back, and acted 'oh so macho.' So, I got up... and only got just out of my seat before I looked around and about 5 guys were at our table, looking at me.

'ZTC, I found some friends for you.'

Oh ok...

...You know, not much has changed now that I think about it.That doesn't make me a prude does it?

Maybe I should go back for round 2? lol.

 

[Kulindahr]

you tell me.


I worked in gay bars from the time I was 20 until I was 27. I saw LOTS of homophobic guys come in.. brag about how masculine they are.. how "None of these faggots can tell I'm gay" or "I bet these guys are all wondering what a straight guy is doing here." We'd all laugh about it once the bar was closed.

I've had so many guys harp on and on about how much they hated gay bars but they get horny and "need some ass" or some noise like that.

A bartender at a gay bar knows that gay men come in all types... although they also know a guy going out of his way to act straight and they know tips go up when you stroke the customer's ego. If that actually did happen and you weren't flirting with girls or checking out their tits (which you just may have been.. I wasn't there), he was probably just telling you what he knew you wanted to hear.

Bar staff are good like that.

The only bar staff I've known who were like that were at the meat markets, where they also helped regulars set up newcomers for scams and ripoffs. Fortunately most of the gay bar staff people I know of have more respect for their customers than you obviously did.

In fact that's one reason I like one of the bars I go to: the bartenders and other staff are (often brutally) honest. Last week I asked a bartender "How's my hair look?" and he said, "Like it was cut with a broken lawnmower." I told him I'd done it myself; he said, "Don't make it a career." And I've heard them be equally blunt and honest with other customers -- and it's the customers I've seen them be honest with who give big tips.