What Do You Think Of Gaybars?

[Jory]

Believe it or not sometimes I enjoy them and sometimes I do not

 

[Kulindahr]

Gay bars, from my experience, are like straight bars. I've only been to one straight bar but the gay bars I went to were pretty unspectacular. There was little sleaziness and they were more like places where you hung out with your friends as everyone stuck to their own groups. However there seems to be a pattern of grumpy, sour-faced bar-tenders in the bars that I go to. I'm still searching for that down-to-earth, friendly, welcoming bar with decent music. I have been to one club but it was full of cheesy dance crap and straight girls with their boyfriends.

I've noticed more than a few grumpy, sour-faced bartenders myself. Something I love about my fave bar is that almost every bartender there is playful and friendly -- I have regular ice fights with one of them....

 

[nufanm]

I can imagining you telling us this story with such an dirty look on your face


Damn, i would get very angry and he would feel my anger What did you do?


So far most have the same experiences in gaybars. Off course there are bad and good ones. There are more: the straight friendly gaybars and the gay friendly straight bars. Those are diffirent as well.

haha u know me well...

and i threw myself at him but my bf stopped me. then we all got kicked out and we left.

 

[nufanm]

this is the biggest line of horse shit ever.

I've been to a lot of gay bars in LA, and I've never seen people wearing glitter or wings. Nor have I seen anyone in their underwear unless it was an underwear party.

I have a feeling that you've never actually been to a gay bar and have watched a few too many episodes of Queer As Folk.


(Is this the first flame in a no-flame Bisexual zone?)

i replied to this before the thread was moved...

and yeah QAF's depiction of gay bars is not accurate although i do have to say it sort of looks like rage... and i'm sure u've at least heard of that place... that's where myf riend got punched and i'm never going there again.

and yeah, um... weekend before st. patricks i saw quite a few glittered underwear wearing twinks down santa monica...

i guess the abbey and such places are nicer, true... i'll give u that... but still... they're sort of stuck up (like most clubs in LA) soi'd rather stay with my sexualy ambiguous indie bars.

 

[nufanm]

I still thnk there's a lot of liars in this thread.

I've been to many gay bars over the last 20 years since I came out, and I think I've been felt up by someone who just felt me up out of nowhere maybe three times. I've been felt up many times, but very seldome just out of nowhere like that.

And, wether you like to think so or not, I'm one hot piece of ass.

I've been to plenty of straight bars filled with shitty music, drunken horny people rubbing up and down against each other, guys grabbing women inappropriately and... ok.. never people with glitter and wings. (but that guy's full of something I'm not allowed to talk about in this forum.)

I think it's more the inherrant homophobia amongst bisexual men which causes them to over-exagerate and flat out lie about things that have happened to them in gay clubs.


For the record, I hang out mostly at gay bars in LA that play hard rock and alternative, have an older crowd that's just there to have a good time and yes.. although some ass-grabbing happens, it's not unwanted or uninvited.

There are no thin, spindly twinks in glitter, although if they showed up, they'd be more than welcome to come party with us. (you see.. we're not all uptight and trying to hard to convince people that we're straight, so we'll party with anyone who wants to come party with us.)

well i most certainly would like to know where u hang out... and yeah like i said, there are a lot of straight bars that are just as nasty... went to one last night... everytime i go with girls i have to be watching over them to make sure they're not disrespected by stupid jocks...

and i like hard rock/alternative bars with an older crowd... that's usualy my scene... because i have felt unwelcomed at glittery twink bars and clubs... like when my friend got punched.

 

[nufanm]

Because he's making it up. Haven't you seen how many posts by the men who post in this forum all seem to end with "I'm so straight acting that everyone thought I was straight unlike those big flaming faires who were covered in glitter and wearing wings and grabbing every ass that walked past and rubbing up against each other?"

Look... I too have been mistaken for straight before. But that seldom happens in a gay place because gay people know that gay people come in all shapes and sizes. They know that there are masculine gay men and feminine gay men and gay men who appear gay and gay men who don't.

the only people who get asked that are either the ones who are going out of their way to "look straight" (Ralph IS bisexual, don't ya know... he was probably cruising the girls and checking out their tits if this story has any truth to it) or show up with girls hanging off of them.

But I'm not even that bugged by his story. It's just yet another story where the moral is "Wow... I'm so butch that nobody can tell I'm gay so therefore I'm not a big fairy like you guys so I can feel a bit better about myself."

What bugs me is all the silly stereotypes (and in a forum where people seem to whine about stereotypes an awful lot). Gay bars come in all shapes and sizes. If all you've been to is twink dance bars in West Hollywood... then yes... you're going to come across bitchy queens who are wearing the latest fashions and dancing to annoying music. If you go to STRAIGHT bars aimed at a young crowd that likes to dance, you're going to find the same thing.

If you go to a gay bar that's aimed at an older crowd or a different crowd, you're going to find a very different thing. In LA we have gay rock 'n' roll bars, country bars, 80s dance music bars, stand up bars, leather bars, lounges... they're all diffferent.

(and nobody wears glitter and wings unless it's Halloween. That story is made up too.)

ok so thank u! u agree right? most places in weho are like that! and now i'm not so straight acting that people don't know i'm gay, but i'm also not trying to be a girl... people go either way with me and thats fine because i'd hate to be on either end...

but just like u've all been saying that gay and bisexual men come in all shapes and sizes and the bars too i am one who doesn't enjoy gay bars as much as i enjoy other bars witha more diverse sexual preference crowd (not straight bars either!)

 

[nufanm]

From your pictures if I saw you in a gay bar I would think you were gay... even if you were all over a girl I would still think you were gay. You don't look straight to me at all.

Not that you can determine someone's sexuality just by looking at them.

i'd say he could be gay but not obviously gay and not obviously straight

i'd probably start a conversation with him.

 

[gewhite3]

If the gay bars are typical ones full of twinks with no hair and screwed up attitudes, you can have them all.

If, on the other hand, they are bars that are full of men who don't believe in shaving off every single piece of hair on their body, are fully matured and stable in life, then GREAT!!!!! I'm all for them and hang out with my friends in one called the Full Moon Saloon in Orlando. It's a great bar!!

 

[Soilwork]

The gay bars in Queer As Folk are freak shows... people covered with glitter and wearing wings hanging from the ceiling, assholes shouting insults at anyone who's not beautiful, full of sex in the bathrooms, alcohol abuse and drugs. Bars like that are pretty rare, but it sure explains where some people here took their fictional accounts of what they see in every gay bar they go to.

 

[Jory]

The gay bars in Queer As Folk are freak shows... people covered with glitter and wearing wings hanging from the ceiling, assholes shouting insults at anyone who's not beautiful, full of sex in the bathrooms, alcohol abuse and drugs. Bars like that are pretty rare, but it sure explains where some people here took their fictional accounts of what they see in every gay bar they go to.

Your right I have never seeen a bar like that, and I have been in Bars in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Francisco, and Palm Spring, Ca. Also Orlando, and Fort Lauderdale, Fl......oh I did wear wings once but that was for Holloween and on Santa Monica Blvd

 

[Lifesaver]

Anyone know any good ones on western long island like gewhite described above? I'm thinking about checking one out this summer.

 

[Soilwork]

We're saying that those are the exception and not the rule.

 

[TierraSimms]

This post is sure to lay to rest all the bickering.





A peek at life inside gay bars!








(and yes, fully choreographed dances happen every hour on the hour)

A mess!

 

[TierraSimms]

I've been to a few gay bars and clubs. They seems like a typical bars and clubs to me whether it was gay, straight, or other. Skybar in LA was a little more posh than the typical club, but it was still the normal club atmosphere.

Ralph, maybe you need to come to the US and go out with to the clubs here. Maybe you would have a much different experience, especially if you are there with me.

 

[RRRalph]

Ralph, maybe you need to come to the US and go out with to the clubs here. Maybe you would have a much different experience, especially if you are there with me.

Why would i go to a gaybar if i can be with you?

 

[TierraSimms]

Why would i go to a gaybar if i can be with you?

Because 2 attention whores like you and I are too good to keep our fun to ourselves. Hell, I want the clubgoers see that I'm international with my pull of men.

 

[Joe King Jay]

It would be cool to see and read what other bisexuals or curious guys feel when they first walk into a gay bar.

I've only been to a gay club once in my life, so my opinion doesn't count much , but from what I experienced it was no different then any of the straight clubs I attend.

I was intoxicated when I went so my memory might be a little altered .

In-fact, I've been hit on/groped more times in straight clubs then when I went to that gay club.

I was not groped or made to feel out of place at all while I was there. Everyone I did talk to was friendly. There was a little click thing happening, but most people seemed to be mixing it up on the dance floor. It looked exactly like the straight clubs I go to minus the girls.

 

[Soilwork]

Because 2 attention whores like you and I are too good to keep our fun to ourselves. Hell, I want the clubgoers see that I'm international with my pull of men.

not to be an asshole.. but woudln't you guys go to a straight bar?

I mean.. you'd be welcome anywhere, but you know.. just asking.

 

[blablablablabla]

here, you aint see a gaybar in a radius of 20 km....

 

[M4P]

not to be an asshole.. but woudln't you guys go to a straight bar?

I mean.. you'd be welcome anywhere, but you know.. just asking.

Then don't be



I believe the question is What do you think of gay bars?

Personally - I like them because they're places I can go to be with like minded people. There are three here in Calgary I like: one is more like a cafe, another is like a pub (and the owner has an ass you could bounce quarters off of ) and the third is a leather & Levi bar