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OK, so I was on MH the other day and I got a wink from this guy. So I replied that his pics were nice and whatever. We ended up exchanging like 100 MH messages over the course of an hour and a half about just basic crap. Then we exchanged numbers and texted since. He made it clear that he was after a relationship. I am open to whatever.

So yesterday I asked what he was doing later that night. He said nothing. I said well we should meet up somewhere. He said that would be cool. I got a text an hour later that he was going to his parents and would be back later the next day. He said we could meet then. I was kinda ticked, but I let it go. We texted all night and it kinda got sexual. He talking what he wanted to get done to him and I was just as into it as he was. He fell asleep in the middle of a text conversation and then he wished me a good morning when he woke up. I wished him one back and then asked if we were still meeting. He said yes.

So I hadn't heard from him in a few hours so I sent a text saying I was waiting to hear from him, I was done with what I had to do. He said he was still at his parents. Then a few hours later I get a text he will be later than expected and that his friend will be staying at his house for a few days and we;d have to wait until after then to meet up. I was kinda mad because I had turned down plans for this evening because I expected to be spending it with him.

I told him that it seemed like he was putting me off, and explained everything above to him. He said he understands but it isn't the case. I then asked when we'd meet up and he said middle of next week. I asked if he promises and he said yes. And he was like something seems like you are mad. I told him about how I turned down plans for tonight. He then sent me a message that said:
ok, fine. then since i fucked up your plans I won't expect to meet you."

Now I feel bad for telling him about doing something else tonight. I apologized, but he won't answer.

I really like this guy. We have so much in common. He's 28, I'm 20. He's a really sweet guy though and I know even though we met on MH he isn't just after sex. I would like to try a relationship with a guy.

OK, now the question:What do I do? Do I let it go? Do I try and work it out?
 
A promise is a comfort to a fool.

Sweet guys don't blow you off repeatedly then snap once you let them know you turned down plans just to see them only to have them bail.

Men are master shit-talkers, they know exactly what to say to sound sweet. His actions suggest otherwise. Keep pursuing it if you want but don't be surprised if you keep getting the same results.

He's possibly meeting up with other guys and stringing you along as a back-up. That happens A LOT with online dating.
 
He told me he hadn't been with anyone in a while. Said he's only slept with 3 men, and none within the last 4 years.

He also said we'd hang out tonight :(
 
He told me he hadn't been with anyone in a while. Said he's only slept with 3 men, and none within the last 4 years.

Not many men are willing to admit that they lost count of their sexual conquests after 467. :lol: He may have been telling the truth, he may not have, but you'll have an easier time dating if you start judging people according to their actions and not what they say.

Nobody wins dates by telling the truth that "I'm a whore" or "I'm going to steal your credit card while you're in the bathroom" or "You're not the only guy I'm sleeping with." They tell us what we want to hear.

He also said we'd hang out tonight :(

Good luck, in his defense it's only 6 pm (here anyway) so the night is young.
 
I really like this guy. We have so much in common. He's 28, I'm 20. He's a really sweet guy though and I know even though we met on MH he isn't just after sex. I would like to try a relationship with a guy.

OK, now the question:What do I do? Do I let it go? Do I try and work it out?

He told me he hadn't been with anyone in a while. Said he's only slept with 3 men, and none within the last 4 years.

He also said we'd hang out tonight :(


The two of you have't even met in person and you already sound like a desperate high school girl.

This already doesn't sound like it has any future or that is going to end well.

Couldn't your time be spent elsewhere meeting guys that don't have these complicated situations and with whom you might have some semblance of a future?
 
For whatever reason, people today don't seem to understand the meaning of responsibility. If you don't intend to carry out your end of a meeting, call, text or send smoke signals if necessary to the other party. When people make an online commitment today it seems to be understood by many that this means I'll meet you unless I get a better offer. COMMUNICATE--it's not that hard.
 
As someone who chased a guy for about 9 months that continuously put dinners and dates off (yes i've learned my lesson) you can give him a few chances but honestly if he does this a couple of more times then i'd kick him to the curb.
 
Sure is a lot of drama for a guy you haven't met yet, or (perhaps) haven't even spoken to yet. I'd say drop this guy, and see what you can learn from it. Because I can think of at least two lessons to be learned.

Lex
 
His behavior would piss me off royally, but I would probably give him one more chance - but no more than one!
 
MikeMartin, you will soon learn that there are lots of pretenders like this.

He's just using you to get off while you chat. You will never meet him.

Move on.
 
My god.

Sturm und drang.

Stop getting so worked up about an imaginary friend. Because until you meet, that is all theses avatars are.

Instead of sending 1000 texts over a 24 hour period, why don't you go outside and go to where you can meet people and get a more instant read on whether there is chemistry.

You think you like him but all you like is how he's got you all hot and bothered on-line. Give him up as waste of time and get out there and develop a relationship based on more than heavy breathing.
 
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