When is it too late to never have been in a relationship?

[Kulindahr]

Loneliness is a finite space of time that ends when the rest of you does.

That's an awfully deep thought for this forum.

 

[lacrayfish]

Yes it must be sad for you. Most young guys from 18 are busy partying or surfing. or having kappa house party.
Just think, your twinky years are gone so get out a lot more. Twinky years only happen once in your life where your body is most attractive physically so don't waste it. Check out with college friends or work friends if they
are having bbq or going to the beach.

 

[oakpope]

And then it doesn't even matter, anymore. Loneliness is a finite space of time that ends when the rest of you does.

But we don't know when we end...Sould,body,heaven,metempsychosis, all that jazz

 

[senorserio]

Never, ever too late....I'm 38, will be 39 this year and I JUST met the man of my dreams. Until him, I'd never been in a serious relationship beyond one night stands and had never been kissed. And, I can say that although I'm getting a later start at this, I never settled for less than what I wanted in a mate and he came along and found me when I least expected it. It will happen, just be open to it.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

You come into the world alone crying and terrified and you will die similarly.
Enjoy the middle trip because there are some things in it which make the beginning and end on Earth look like heaven, and hush the drama,.....23 pfffttttt!

 

[TheLyingGame]

I'm 20 and in the same boat.
without love...

 

[Swellegant]

When is it too late?

When you are dead.

Exactly what I was going to say.

If I had one thing I could go back and impart to my younger self, it would be "Hold your damned horses! Life doesn't end at twenty-five. You've got plenty of time to fall in love."

Also, work on yourself first, be someone that you'd want to date, and you'll feel good about yourself... and nothing is more attractive than feeling good about yourself. Nobody can love you if you don't love yourself. And finally, relationships don't "fix" you. You need to be fixed first and then the relationship has a chance.

 

[birddog7]

I'm well more than twice your age, and in the same situation. For me it's much too late. Most of my years are gone, not just my twink years.

You have plenty of time left age wise, I don't...

 

[ravenstar]

It's never too late to fall in love. I'm a believer in it happens when it happens. You can try and force yourself into a relationship but if it's not the right one it rubs like a burr in your underpants. I'm 38, been in love - I thought - a couple of times but never in a relationship. He'll get here though. There are times when I wonder if it will happen, but they're few and far between.

 

[refujiunderground]

since it's friday night.

you know, i think i probably would have a bit of an easier time if i was out the closet being that i'm actually scared to hook up or get a boyfriend. geez... i don't even know what the hell i'm going to do the moment i come out to my family and friends. i know that i want to fuck and i want to be the giver and someone's going to be the receiver. but damn.. i plan on making up for lost time. 20 years is a long time to not experience any romance with anybody. 25 years is a long time to be a virgin. sorry but that's damn near 30. if you're a virgin at 30, then damn....... you probably have a dusty dick.

 

[bankside]

I didn't even meet my guy till I was 24. It's been 14 years so far. I was lonely before I met him but tried not to whine because I worried that it would be unattractive. Most of all, I truly wanted him when I found him. I didn't settle because I had waited long enough or something stupid like that. He's someone I would have loved to meet when I was 16 and legally able to consent. I would have been just as happy to wait till I was 50 if I had to, because he's the one. It confirmed that it was worth the wait. If fate separated us for some reason, I'd gladly jack off for 5 years patiently awaiting his return.

 

[asu1117]

I'm 22 and I've been in plenty of relationships, but they've all been disastrous. The grass isn't always greener.

 

[Kulindahr]

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At 22 I looked at the notion of relationships as a duty I'd have to shoulder sometime.

 

[72-Jay]

There exist people who are unpleasant enough on the inside that it's best they stay alone...and they' very often are alone for long periods of time.

I probably shouldn't admit it, but oh well...I would qualify for at least parts of that.

I dunno. Maybe there are hidden fires there, but you just strike me as someone who has sort of created a world of "alone-ness". And although you might sometimes wish to be more outgoing, or to be in a relationship, you're not...dissatisfied enough to really make the changes necessary.

I think since I've always been single and have never even dated or been close or anything ... and basically wasted my youth sitting around at home doing nothing never going out/partying/etc. Basically I have built a fortress of as you say alone-ness around myself (one with industrial strength walls LOL)

At times I would love to date/have a boyfriend ... but I also sorta fear it, and (I know I said in some other thread (probably more than one)) even more fear breakup/heartbreak .. that is something I couldn't take, I'm not strong in that way, it'd probably be the death of me...

There's a few reasons why I can not (at this point) ever be anymore than 'just friends' even on the rare chance I met someone (one of the biggies being where I live)

But its not like I'm totally-unhappy or anything like that being single anyway.

When is it too late?
When you are dead.

Well, LOL can't deny that...

 

[jdcnow]

I'm 22 and I've been in plenty of relationships, but they've all been disastrous. The grass isn't always greener.

Touche', "sometimes the grass is greener on the other side, and sometimes, that's just mold" - one of my personal '-isms'...

I will be 30 this December and have never had a relationship, yet. But I will also say that mine is partially a special circumstance on two fronts - 1) let's just say that there are some exceptionally dark intrapersonal psychological demons in my past that I believe that I'll never overcome, and frankly, there's a big part of me that takes the 'let sleeping dogs lie' approach - that, essentially, it's better this way - for me to be single and alone for the rest of my life. For dealing with those psychological demons (which I would need to do, in order to be ready for a relationship) would probably destroy me, first, before I ever had a chance for a relationship.

And 2) for the type of career and profession that I want to go into (weather science, specifically television weather forecasting), it's really best that I don't have a significant other, or a family. (You are contract labor - you are contractually obligated to be at work, no matter if it's your wedding anniversary, or your husband's/wife's birthday, or if your kid has a soccer game, or whatever. You'd be surprised how many people in the TV news business actually have a very hard time of relationships and family, simply because of the time demands of the job - working at all hours of the day and night; sometimes very long shifts; if there's breaking news, you're basically on-call to be at work and to come in to work on your off-time, etc.)

The other part is that down through time, I have seen very good people who have been destroyed by bad relationships. There have been those who have come up to me (both men and women), who have said, "I love my wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend and I love my kids. But if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have either one." Or at the very least, "I wish I would have waited a lot longer." And that, to me, spoke volumes. I've had the good fortune of learning from other people's mistakes, and not making said mistakes myself.

 

[USEDCAR]

I know the feeling, especially when your surrounded by people who are in relationships. I would love to meet a nice guy and just have a chance to fall in love.

 

[HunterM]

^fall in love...and be prepared to fail at love as well. Hey, that's reality. Live and learn...and move on.

 

[medic1]

How about a blow-job kinda strapped for cash just now ,

 

[medic1]

You come into the world alone crying and terrified and you will die similarly.
Enjoy the middle trip because there are some things in it which make the beginning and end on Earth look like heaven, and hush the drama,.....23 pfffttttt!

What a load of grap , only this last hour i held a childs hand , no ,crying , no screams of terror
only the crying of her parents , as i certified her , if anything i was the person with watery eyes , Christ what an ugly persona .

 

[BigDestiny]

I'm well more than twice your age, and in the same situation. For me it's much too late. Most of my years are gone, not just my twink years.

You have plenty of time left age wise, I don't...

I agree with everyone else that said it's never too late. A woman in my home town got married for the first time when she was 93. My mother said to me, "Do you remember Laura Graham?" And I was like, "Oh, did she die?" because that's where my mother's 'do you remember' questions usually go. But it turned out she met a well-off Texan and was seriously happy for the rest of her life. So it does happen.

I'm 40 and haven't been in a long term relationship yet. I do worry sometimes that I'm so used to being by myself that if I do meet someone I won't be able to adapt to it.