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When someone leaves the "Interested in" section blank on Facebook

NaughtyArousal said:
Not at all.

I'm a proud, out gay man, but I always thought that section of Facebook was stupid, so mine is blank. I'm not on FB to meet or hook up with people, so I don't want random guys messaging me. All of my contacts on FB are people I've met personally, with a few exceptions being folks I've been friendly with over the internet.

I don't even look at that part of their profile, because chances are that I already have an idea of their sexuality before friending them.
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I'm of this opinion too. I haven't filled this section out on my own page because I have my younger cousin around and she's not yet at the age where I want her to be aware of my romantic choices. Other than that, everyone who I consider important in my life already know what and who I am, so there's really no need to advertise it to satiate other people's interest :)
 
NaughtyArousal said:
John makes a point. The "Interested In" is a stupid (and immature, IMO) way of handling sexual orientation.
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I actually have to agree with Sultan on this part. When i first signed up to Facebook (in 2007 I think?) I actually thought it was kind of neat that they put "interested in" instead of "gay/straight/bi" for exactly this reason. Labels are kind of silly and outdated IMO.

But I have mine filled out as"interested in men" and have since 2008 when I realized I was gay and it wasn't just some crazy hormonal phase, and came out of the closet. The way I look at it facebook is not only a way to keep in touch with people you know but don't see anymore, but its also a way (as sad as it makes me that it has become a tool for this) to get to know new people in your lives. Nowadays adding someone to Facebook is an important step in the process of becoming friends. i look at all those little profile boxes as ways to present myself, and let anyone who looks at my page know exactly who I am and what I'm about. Whether they've known me for years, or we've lost contact, or its someone new I've met I look at it as a way for them to see who I am and what's relevant/important to me as a person. Being interested in men just happens to fall into this category.

I've actually encountered situations a few times this year where I met someone, added them to facebook, and after checking my profile saw I was gay (though the interested part is helped by the fact I'm "in a relationship" with a guy) and avoided me after that point. Like every piece of information I have put about myself on Facebook, I just see it as a way to weed out people who won't share my interests/enjoy my company/etc.

Just my thoughts on the matter ..|
 
NaughtyArousal said:
^Don't get it twisted. I'm not hiding anything from anyone. My LGBT interests are right on my profile front and center, and I post openly about being gay.

But "Interested in men" implies I'm on the site looking for guys. That simply is not the case. I'm there only to keep in touch with acquaintances.

John makes a point. The "Interested In" is a stupid (and immature, IMO) way of handling sexual orientation.
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Oh, my intentions weren't to imply you were hiding anything. I just agree that the 'interested in' section is irrelevant. I was only giving my own reason for not having that section filled in on my own profile. I'm openly gay to everyone and happy in not hiding it either. It's simply my belief that people who don't know should find out by either asking or me telling them.
 
I actually had to read my profile on facebook after looking at this thread.

And, most ironically, I do have the Interested In thing filled out as into Men.

It's just that i'm the only one that can see that part of my profile. So it actually works out for me. The few people on my page(another feature only I can see is the number of friends I have on facebook - that's because one person I was dating was messaging all my male friends trying to see if we were past or present hookups) know that i'm gay, because we hang out or have before(or they came from JUB).
 
After reading everything here I checked my own friends for their 'Interested in' section. The 'sluttish' friends I have state their orientation and those that boast also have. I have not along with a lot of my closer friends. Hmm, I wouldn't mind if one of them in particular were hiding something as suggested on this thread.
 
i have mine as interested men because, well, because im gay, and the question is asking you whether you're straight or gay, (or bi) no different than when the site asked me my name and age.

i dont see why its a big deal, and i have no problem if people kno im gay, in fact it bothers me if people that are close with me dont know.
 
I've left almost everything on that overly probing site blank.
Guess it's all true then ;)
 
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