>>>It was short of part joke and part bitter memory coming from when I was in High School getting the nerve to ask any girl out and being slammed down in fact the last one went as far as saying I insulted her by asking. From that day forward I decided I would never ask anyone out again why my ego detroyed already right?
Well, two things. First off, as Dylan sang, "When you ain't got nothing, you got nothing left tolose." So if your ego's already in tatters, you risk nothing asking now. And secondly, I was probably just as clumsy and oafish in high school as you. I got laughed at on a regular basis. But I kept at it. And I got better at it. I got better at trying, and I got better at handling rejection (which will ALWAYS happen as long as you keep trying things). Maybe you can too.
>>>yes I would like some one but I am slowly finding my self truth be told I have only been out 3 years don't get on the why didn't you get out earlier stump I am out now that all that counts at before then my life was TV and reading now I am either here or trying to improve how I interact with other people sometime good and some times bad.
I wasn't planning on mentioning the "why didn't you come out earlier" thing - I didn't come out until I was out of college, and I've gotten some grief of my own for that.
But I'm happy to hear you're trying to do better at interacting.
>>>But you in your own way made their day mainly with the second post you did of where you would go and why.
Well, maybe I did. In fact, I hope I did. But how about you? Don't YOU want to make somebody's day?
We're a fairly polite bunch here at JUB, I think. Yes, a couple of us can get snappy or rude. But in general, and in this thread in particular, things have been very positive. (Until I went all whiny, anyway.) Nobody has responded to a "I'd like to date you" with a "dream on, pal". Generally, it's been nothing but "aw, that's sweet - thank you" sort of reactions.
>>>But you are popular no one really looks for it and those of us who aren't look in with ourselve and ask do we exist or what? Average you might think so but bet you there is someone on this planet that thinks the opposite?
I think people DO look for it. I certainly did. Not in that "I want everyone to like me" way, but it's a side effect of what I'm actually setting out to do. I like people. I like interacting with them. No, not ALL of them, but I find I click with certain folks. So I go out, post, get into discussions, and soon I'm chatting with someone. Maybe that chat will lead to something else, or maybe it won't. Either way, I enjoy the trip. And in the process, I've managed to pick up what passes for "popularity" here on JUB. I've found some people I like, and some people have found they like me. Cool deal.
Do you exist? Sure. But it's strange that you hadn't made your presence known, from my point of view. It's probable that I simply don't post in the sections and threads that you do that often.
And as far as someone else on this planet thinking otherwise? Sort of. I don't know if my partner thinks I'm anything more than average-looking. I don't think he's very attractive. But that doesn't matter. I'm ATTRACTED to him, and that makes him more attractive than anyone else.
Lex
