White Guys, are you or will you ever be into black guys?

[wilbur33]

I am attracted to men of colour. Always have been, always will be. 100 per-fucking-cent.

But that's not to say I would date someone just because of his skin colour - that will get my attention, but it takes personality to keep it.

 

[G-Lexington]

This isn’t directed towards you but in general what I’m sick of is guys on sites like Grindr, okcupid who make statements on their profiles how they’re not attracted to black guys, then message me ‘complimenting’ me about how they aren’t usually into black guys but they would make the exception for me b/c “i’m cute”. And I’ve been told by other friends of mine that b/c my skin is of a lighter complexion that that makes me more desirable than the average black guy in the gay dating world. And with the open platform of the internet where people can just air out their innermost douchenozzle ‘preferences’ for all to see, it just makes this all the more apparent. But personally, quite unlike the OP and many other black gays, I don’t find being the exception to some idiot white guy flattering at all. I find those comments to be very unsavory and annoying. If you’re not into black guys on your profile, stay that way. Don’t hit my ass up expecting me to be pleased b/c you think I’m sorta cute for a black guy. Some white guys seriously need to pull their heads from out of their asses and understand that those comments still strike with a notion that that person is still unworthy to fully receive your ever so sought out and needed consideration. I’m just fortunate and happy that I don’t have to seek out and beg for approval from white guys to validate myself.

I get enough attention from guys of all shades of grey so I really couldn’t care less.

And truth be told the white guys who aren’t into me b/c I’m black usually aren’t shit in the looks department to get it if they wanted it anyway.

I can't be the only one to have been told by a homophobe that they're cool with me because I'm "one of the good ones". Same playbook, different players.

Lex

 

[Taralen]

OP, I have a similar situation to yours.

I grew up in a mixed area. Even though I lived in the ghetto/urban part of town. My school however was very diverse. Before high School, I was sort of asexual. I never felt attraction to anyone. I just wanted to stay home and play world of warcraft. When I eventually started going to into high School, I first realized I had feelings for men. But they were mostly other black boys.

There was this one person in my history class that I developed my first crush on. Mr. Barnes, the teacher. Lol. He was so goddam handsome. He looked just like Michael Shanks, so sexy. From this point on I found white men more attractive than black.

Don't get me wrong, black men are gods. Usher, ll cool j, Tyrese are fine as hell.

But in this sorry excuse for a community, you have a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.

If you don't date/not attracted to white men, you are prejudiced.

If you date white men, guys from both races will degrade you. Black guys will call you a sell out and assume the relationship is full of kinky s&m action, whether it is or isn't. White guys will call you a snow queen.

But if you ignore ignorant people, you will be just fine.

 

[Vicebeach86]

I wish this hot white hunk was into me! I would fuck him every chance I get. Back to the question though, I'm black and have been with a few white guys in the past so yea, there are some out there that are into black men.

 

[legend145]

"Some white guys seriously need to pull their heads from out of their asses and understand that those comments still strike with a notion that that person is still unworthy to fully receive your ever so sought out and needed consideration."

Yes! It's a sense of superiority. Racism.

 

[refujiunderground]

back to this thread topic and i have to say the real reason why i think this thread is fucked up. VERY FUCKED UP.


i hate this whole idea where you have this notion where a white guy is automatically hot or date worthy because he's white and everybody else that isn't white is basically inferior. this is a common theme that i'm seeing in the lgbt community. beauty is subjective and all, don't get me wrong but i think it's funny how you have everybody putting white guys as the cream of the crop because of their skin color as if they're the best and putting everybody else to the back. i think it's fucking ridiculous. i always hear a nonwhite person basically making a thread like this basically saying to himself that he's inferior and that people that are like him are inferior and that he needs a white guy to show him love in order to feel whole as a person. there was an asian poster that used to complain about how no white guy wouldn't want to date him but yet he wasn't down with dating someone who was asian and wasn't white. i also notice that you have nonwhite guys saying that they're not attracted to other nonwhite guys and only to white guys. basically everybody is saying that they're only attracted or want white guys. to me, it smells like BULLSHIT. like seriously, like are all white guys hot or saying. PLEASE. the same folks would give a white guy they consider unattractive over a hot black guy or a hot asian guy so i don't believe the whole "i'm attracted to white guys" bullshit. like so you're saying that white guys are the only guys that are attractive, have good personalities, have good qualities about them and etc. to me, i think it's an insult to basically want to date someone because they're white and shut somebody down because they're black. you obviously aren't dating them because you geniunely care about them as a person. you just want to date them for how they look and you base assumptions about them without even getting to know them. you're ready to jump into paul's lap because he's white, ready to suck his dick and etc BUT you really don't like paul for who he is. more so for how he looks.

even the title of this thread has this underlying theme. it's making black guys seem inferior towards white guys. the op is basically saying that he isn't shit because he's black and not worthy of a white guy because of that. it's sad really. if you want to like somebody or date somebody, just like them for who they are. quit looking at their skin color, their eye color, their background and etc and get to know them as a person. yeah, of course you have to be attracted to them BUT i personally think that there's a bigger underlying reason behind that. more of a psychological reason. the whole okcupid research with the which guys respond to which guys.

to me, i think it shows the damage of society on a whole where basically folks are brainwashed to be a certain way where they feel that white is right and anything else is wrong. this has GOT to stop. the simple fact that the op feels that he's inferior to a white guy because he's black is fucking sad. the simple fact that to this day and age people are basically judging someone for who they are from their skin color where they assume that so and so is more dateable because they're white. it's fucking ridiculous. i'm not ugly or unattractive because i'm black and you aren't hot or attractive because you're white. get it through your head.

 

[Ganoderma]

if you want to like somebody or date somebody, just like them for who they are. quit looking at their skin color, their eye color, their background and etc and get to know them as a person. yeah, of course you have to be attracted to them (....).

^^^^^^ I fully agree with this opinion, and that's also the way how I look towards guys. So similar to the opinion of people in this topic who have said things like 'I like them all'.

 

[mauveb]

If it wasn't for the white guilt i wouldn't have a problem dating guys of different race, though as it stands white gay guys have more than enough issues for me.

 

[refujiunderground]

So many race threads about white guys not wanting black guys.

Why don't we have more threads about black guys who have a "preference" for white guys as well? OR any other race.

I'm more disgusted by black guys who aren't open to other black guys than I am disgusted by white guys not into black guys.

it all boils down to the same thing at the end of the day. there's way too many people running around with this whole "white is right and everything else is wrong" mentality. that's what it boils down to the end of the day.

i also can't stand folks who act like something is wrong with the people they're not attracted to. who the fuck do they think they are?

 

[mbamike]

^ Really? Not me!

I want to hookup with at least one guy from every race. I have had a generous sampling of black guys and a few white guys. I'm hoping for some Latinos next.

 

[PKMO]

I think writing people off because of race is pretty sad and pretty stupid.

 

[moniker]

I see no essential difference between a preference for a sex partner of a certain skin color and a preference for the same sex. They are simply preferences. If I was to make a concerted effort to overcome my preference in this regard I would prefer to spend my energy in trying to like chicks, which is never going to happen. I prefer not. Understand?

 

[mbamike]

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What a hussy!

LOL! Kisses!

 

[xbuzzerx]

I think writing people off because of race is pretty sad and pretty stupid.

Well writing off is one thing, not seeking out / not being inherently attracted to x is another.

I could never possibly say that I "would never" date a black guy or "would never" be attracted to one, or whatever else. Attraction is a lot of things and I have gotten into people I didn't initially think of romantically at all after getting to know them better. However, speaking strictly from the chemicals (and I'm sure social and cultural influences have been huge, admittedly) I'm not physically attracted to black guys at all, and I know many black guys aren't attracted to non-black guys too. But that isn't coming from a place of disliking black people because of their race, it has almost certainly been influenced by what I saw in imagery and movies and magazines and what I was told was attractive growing up, but at this point it's no different than (for me) seeing a guy has absolutely 0 body hair. I don't find that attractive at all. I couldn't say I'd never date a 100% smooth guy but if I did get really into one it would have to do with more than an initial physical attraction because that wouldn't be there.

 

[refujiunderground]

I see no essential difference between a preference for a sex partner of a certain skin color and a preference for the same sex. They are simply preferences. If I was to make a concerted effort to overcome my preference in this regard I would prefer to spend my energy in trying to like chicks, which is never going to happen. I prefer not. Understand?

there's a difference between preference and attraction. you can't chose what you're attracted to but you can chose what you prefer. that's why it's a thin line. you may not be attracted to somebody or a group of people, okay. just because you're not attracted to somebody doesn't mean that they're ugly, that they have something wrong with them or make them any less of a human being than you are. you have dudes that go the extra length and get rude with it, man. there's many guys out here that simply don't understand that. their egos are too big for their bodies. just because you're not attracted to black men doesn't mean that all black men are ugly or that there's something wrong with them. they have to throw in the racism in there too.

you can see the same thing with some gay guys towards women. they go overboard with that shit. they pretty much write women off. they have to go to the hills and beyond to let the world know that they don't like women when all they have to do is just simply go about their fucking business. they can't even say "that woman is pretty over there" or say something positive towards a woman or think of her in a good way because they're afraid they might be attracted towards them as if there's something wrong with that. at least you have the ability to love. some people outthere are born without emotions.

 

[xbuzzerx]

there's a difference between preference and attraction.

Certainly there are things you just flat don't find attractive.

 

[Justmarc]

Oop

This GIF made me laugh out loud... Pierces EVER.

 

[refujiunderground]

Certainly there are things you just flat don't find attractive.

yeah, indeed.

i don't care too much about the whole attraction thing. i just don't like all these guys out here that go about putting down folks that they're not attracted to as if the world revolves around them. they think because they're not attracted to black men that gives them the right to say that black men are ugly or assume that something is wrong with black men like they have bad qualities and are inferior compared to the guys that they like such as whites. like i've literally seen some people say this shit on this forum indirectly and directly. fuckers can't simply say that they're just not into black men and keep it moving. one dude tried to push scientific racism talking about white genetics is better than black genetics and if so and so looks good, they have better genes than the ugly person. beauty is subjective, isn't it? folks will go the back way to basically write someone off where they can't even befriend them because they're not attracted to them or can't even say anything nice about them as a person. i'm not attracted to women but that doesn't give me the right to say women are ugly, vagina is nasty, and that women don't have anything good about them. that would be basically me saying i have a hatred for women.

folks don't realize how offensive they come off when they say that shit. just because you're not attracted to me because of my skin color doesn't make you any better than me and it certainly doesn't make me any less of a human being. to them, they're basically saying that there's NO attractive black guys outthere listening to what they say. if you're not attracted to somebody, that's one thing BUT don't go about shitting on them and trying to boost yourself up in the process.

 

[xbuzzerx]

yeah, indeed.

i don't care too much about the whole attraction thing. i just don't like all these guys out here that go about putting down folks that they're not attracted to as if the world revolves around them. they think because they're not attracted to black men that gives them the right to say that black men are ugly or assume that something is wrong with black men like they have bad qualities and are inferior compared to the guys that they like such as whites. like i've literally seen some people say this shit on this forum indirectly and directly.

folks don't realize how offensive they come off when they say that shit. just because you're not attracted to me because of my skin color doesn't make you any better than me and it certainly doesn't make me any less of a human being. to them, they're basically saying that there's NO attractive black guys outthere listening to what they say. if you're not attracted to somebody, that's one thing BUT don't go about shitting on them and trying to boost yourself up in the process.

Oh no I totally agree with you on that. Really I just perused this last page and it looked more like the opposite-- it looked like the implication that people are jerks or something if they admit to not being attracted to black people. I could go down any list of things that I would put in the same category that have nothing to do with race-- for example, I hate orange skintone. What do I mean by that? People with cheap tans, slap on tans, or Europeans who live in subtropical areas like South Africa tend to have this. I kinda shudder. Nothing to do with disliking them as people, I just don't find the visual appearance attractive at all. But yeah when people start to take their own subjective turn-on's/off's and try to codify them into some universal truth it annoys me--- size queens, twinks who call average (or above) guys "fat", etc. All that kind of stuff annoys me too.

 

[refujiunderground]

Oh no I totally agree with you on that. Really I just perused this last page and it looked more like the opposite-- it looked like the implication that people are jerks or something if they admit to not being attracted to black people. I could go down any list of things that I would put in the same category that have nothing to do with race-- for example, I hate orange skintone. What do I mean by that? People with cheap tans, slap on tans, or Europeans who live in subtropical areas like South Africa tend to have this. I kinda shudder. Nothing to do with disliking them as people, I just don't find the visual appearance attractive at all. But yeah when people start to take their own subjective turn-on's/off's and try to codify them into some universal truth it annoys me--- size queens, twinks who call average (or above) guys "fat", etc. All that kind of stuff annoys me too.

hell yeah, another thing too.

you notice how some of these guys use the excuse of being unattracted to somebody as a means to basically disassociate themselves all across the board with anything other than dating. as a friend, as an acquaintance, someone to talk to, and etc. it basically implies that they feel that that group has NO qualities that they see that is good with them where they literally write them off altogether. like folks aren't attracted to women BUT does that keep them from making friends with women though? it's one thing if you live in an area that has NOBODY of a certain group or very little BUT if you pretty much come in contact with folks everybody and you can't even talk with them and get to know them to an extent where it's big or small, you can imply that something about them.

like i certainly don't have to date someone to talk to them over a simple casual talk. what's that about?