Chance1 said:hmmm - if I could answer that I would have no need for my therapist now would i ?
irish catholic upbringing perhaps
marine father
yada yada
Chance honey, I've got the asshole Irish Catholic father too and he was the main reason my current BF and me split up the first time. I've endured the BS that he has shoveled out and gave me thick skin and hardened my BF's too. So don't even throw that around as an excuse.
Chance1 was kidding. Making a joke.
If any of you had actually bothered to get to know the guy you'd understand why he made that comment.
A quite revealing one in IMHO.
Chance1 never plays the victim, and it's probably a reason why he's sometimes a dick to the Moderators here when we delete post.
He can "take it" as he proclaims.
My point from the get go, since my first post in this thread is for everyone to at least try to see each post from someone as the first time that you've ever heard/read that idea and THEN look at who posted it.
If you find that you're not surprised, well guess what? They're not surprised in your response either.
maxpowr9 said:I've always tried to understand somebody's point of view that may be different from mine to learn where they are coming from. You learn a lot more about someone if you ask why they may think a certain way instead of berating them with a torrent of ill-conceived words. Let them explain themselves instead of telling them what to think.
And this is one of those rare threads where we have the opportunity to do that.
If our only true goal is to marginalize, and segment and separate ourselves from other members and opinions without considering the humanity of the other posters....then why even bothering having these types of discussion threads here?
Why put out our true feelings, and opinions if we're just going to subject ourselves to judgement and ridicule?
It's easy for those who share a "majority opinion" because even if they're wrong someone is going to back them up.
If you're in the minority, well by Gawd you had better have your facts, sources, links, and further more your "shit together" before you start posting here.
That's what I've been seeing / witnessing here, and oooh how biased and inconsistent the Moderators of this Forum Are!

Whatever.
Privately engaging each other, if you're truly here to make friends (and some have indicated that they are), what better way to do that?
If you want to marginalize, and take away the humanity of an individual member because of one or two posts that you've read because you don't like their opinion?
You're not going to be here for very long.

Individuals who post here and "play victim" don't get a free pass either.
Own it. Fess up to it when you're being called out upon it, and let's all move forward without considering one a weakness over another.










