Who is into fem guys?

[inlovewithblair]

If anything, maybe the straight-acting gay guys should speak up and break the stereotype.

 

[t1ghtO]

in my opinion the main fault that we have & that we continue to pass along is the stereotipizing itself & by that I mean that in our own minds we do have that criteria that makes us put gay people into two main parts,the str8 acting part & the fem boys,now,if we could start letting those criterias behind & look at a gay person,a str8 person,a boy,a girl,whatever,if we could start looking at persons like humans then all of our debates would be over,cose it ain't healthy to the comunity to have all these [STRIKE]hating[/STRIKE] debates whether or not the fem boys ruin the gay cominity's image or not

now the thing is that we are all gay right?we all have feelings for other boys,now that put's you into a category itself,there are heterosexuals,bisexuals,homosexuals,why do you need to act like a str8 dude & why do you need to act like a chick? because your gay,your different from the str8 people,your diferent form everything that's out there,but that's just who you are,it's hard to belive that you get out of the bed in the morning & start acting like a str8 boy or like a fem boy,it's just who you are,it's your personality,if's all teh things you've been thru till that age,everything that formed you who you are,there are 5 year old boys that play with dolls & there are 25 year old boys who like to suck cock,you can't say that a 5 year old "acts" by playing with them dolls,so you can't say a 25 year old acts aswell

anyway my point is that we should stop bashing the fem boy,the str8 acting boys,whatever,cose we all get enough hate day by day just by beeing the freaks of nature how some say,so if we could just accept everyone for who they are it would be better for us cose we could get somewhat more united ( don't get me wrong,we're not fighting in world war 3 but still) plus that we could get a boost of self confidence that would keep us thru those awful moments that we all live day by day when we're labeled,hated,bullyed cose we're ourselfs

well that was my part of the novel lol ;;D

love y'all




oh I forgot,if y'all could just ignore the typos,mistakes in writing & all that rubbish,thank you ;;D

 

[Rick18]

I am well aware that there are Tom-Boy girls out there, so please spare me your lectures. However, the public doesn't necessarily associate all Dykes as Tom-boys, now do they? They seem to split that stereotype 50/50 ... where as all Gay Men are essentially stereotyped as limp-wristed and Feminine.

I think if the Feminine Gay Men didn't have this obsession to act like the opposite sex (or somehow think they are the opposite sex in their minds), we would be doing a much better job reducing those negative stereotypes.

Maybe I don't want to be looked upon as a Girlie Fem-guy. And I most definitely am not.

So tell me. Why the need to talk like a woman? Walk like a woman? Act like a woman? Tell me about it and make be better understand why this obsession to act like the opposite sex? Help me gain a little insight.

I love gay guys like you. When I run out of straight guys harassing me, you're right there to make sure I keep getting harassed. Guess what, you're probably not as straight-acting as you think. The only people who tell me that everyone thinks they are straight are queens. In fact, most of the more masculine guys think they act a bit femme. I know I'm queeny a lot of the time, only problem is, I have no problem with it.

 

[GoodbyeSobriety]

Live and let live

Growing up, I used to hate feminine men because I was fearful of turning into one of them. It is now that I realize that the hatred towards somebody was my own insecurity, and have corrected my mind not to think of them negatively.

The stereotypical world will soon realize that being gay does not equate to being feminine. It'll just take time to make stubborn people realize this.

I would back up anyone's right to be and act how they want.

To the question, am I into feminine men? I have no problem with being friends with anyone, but generally speaking, sexually, feminine men do not turn me on.

My two cents.

 

[ManticoreX5327]

The responses to this thread are really discouraging. I consider myself to be right in the middle of fem and masculine, and I do not find myself attracted to most effeminate guys, but once in a while, I'll find a guy with a dynamite personality and I'll be attracted to him. Usually I'm into guys who are halfway like me. I consider fem guys to be my sisters and girlfriends.

But the responses saying "hate" and "despise" are atrocious! We're turning hate inward. Why do people always need some group to hate? First it's other races, then different sexualities, now within our own misunderstood sexual orientation, it's the division between fem, butch, trans, etc.

You know, maybe the negative responses on here are from hateful straight "acting" men because the femmy guys are too busy with real life and having fun and loving themselves. It takes a lot of courage to be gay and proud, and even more to be yourself when you know your own people who should be tolerant of you hate you because you want to be how you want to be.

 

[NephilimSin]

I don't care what anyone says, I am masc and I LOVE fem guys!! I find them such a turn on. I find it cute & sexy if a guy can is girlie. The fem ones I love the most are the well dressed, perfect haired, skinny, ones. I would love to go out with one, haven't found one yet tho.

Don't get me wrong, I find masc men a big attraction as well too

 

[ManticoreX5327]

I don't care what anyone says, I am masc and I LOVE fem guys!! I find them such a turn on. I find it cute & sexy if a guy can is girlie. The fem ones I love the most are the well dressed, perfect haired, skinny, ones. I would love to go out with one, haven't found one yet tho.

Don't get me wrong, I find masc men a big attraction as well too

Thank you for saying that. I was beginning to think all masculine guys on here were assholes. Good on you, mate!

 

[NephilimSin]

Thank you for saying that. I was beginning to think all masculine guys on here were assholes. Good on you, mate!

Not a problem!!! Anytime!!
fem guys deserve love too!!

 

[Outrageous]

I think a lot of people misinterpret "fem" or "masc" behavior as something done deliberate on the individual. Most of the time, it just comes out that way. So just cut each other some slack already. All this fem or masc stuff is innate anyway.

 

[MystikWizard]

I love gay guys like you. When I run out of straight guys harassing me, you're right there to make sure I keep getting harassed. Guess what, you're probably not as straight-acting as you think. The only people who tell me that everyone thinks they are straight are queens. In fact, most of the more masculine guys think they act a bit femme. I know I'm queeny a lot of the time, only problem is, I have no problem with it.

No, I act like a normal person. When I first came out to people last year, they were shocked ... said they had absolutely no idea. I suppose they were expecting the stereotypical walk, talk, limp-wrist, etc. The only way you are going to find out I am gay is by talking to me about what my interests are ... and then over time always wonder why I am never talking about women, or why I am not a huge sports fan (just now getting into football a little more), etc. But, no you would not be able to tell by my mannerisms at all. I am very conscious of that in public.

Now, as far as being harassed, no I am not going to go up to any fem-guy in public and harass them. I may roll my eyes with scorn, but I have enough decency to keep my comments to myself.

My mom and I were talking about this over the holiday, and she thinks I'm being too hard on Fem-Guys. She says she thinks they can not help, but act like that.

If that is the case, then Fem-Gays on here need to simply talk to me and have a conversation with me about it. Not saying my opinion can't be changed, but if I have an incorrect perception of Fem-Gays then simply convince me that it is something that can't be helped and that people are "wired" this way.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

No, I act like a normal person.

What's normal?

and then over time always wonder why I am never talking about women, or why I am not a huge sports fan (just now getting into football a little more), etc. But, no you would not be able to tell by my mannerisms at all. I am very conscious of that in public.

I've known plenty of heterosexual men who are not interested in sports.

Now, as far as being harassed, no I am not going to go up to any fem-guy in public and harass them. I may roll my eyes with scorn, but I have enough decency to keep my comments to myself.

Why do you care so much about how he may behave in public that you need to roll your eyes?

If that is the case, then Fem-Gays on here need to simply talk to me and have a conversation with me about it. Not saying my opinion can't be changed, but if I have an incorrect perception of Fem-Gays then simply convince me that it is something that can't be helped and that people are "wired" this way.

While I'm sure that there are some who are over-the-top with their personalities, there are just as many effeminate men who are subtle and inconspicuous with their behavior as well. It would seem that they are naturally inclined to behave in such a manner.

 

[MystikWizard]

What's normal?

Meaning, I act like you would expect a heterosexual guy or homosexual Non-Queen to act in public. I act masculine, in other words.

I've known plenty of heterosexual men who are not interested in sports.

Can't say the same for me. The only thing I really had a passion for was the wrestling business, however that is obviously not really a sport. But I am starting to get more into football, now, as I said.

Why do you care so much about how he may behave in public that you need to roll your eyes?

Because I simply resent the stereotype of Gay Men being portrayed as a bunch of pansy, limp-wristed effeminate people. And when I see Gay Men who contribute to that stereotype by doing those things, it upsets me. Not to the point where I would go up to one and say anything, but it is simply one of those things where I shake my head to.

That isn't an image I personally want to have and I know its a stereotype that other Gay Men resent having, as well.

If this is something people can't control, then as I said, all someone needs to do is convince me that it isn't, by having a conversation with me.

While I'm sure that there are some who are over-the-top with their personalities, there are just as many effeminate men who are subtle and inconspicuous with their behavior as well. It would seem that they are naturally inclined to behave in such a manner.

That's what I am trying to figure out and better understand.

 

[Outrageous]

This sounds so ridiculous, you resent those who contribute to the stereotype. So people shouldnt be who they are or rather how they are? Doesnt the fault lie on those MAKING the stereotype and not those BEING stereotyped? Like I said earlier, some times the mannerism just comes out that way, usually without any forethought. I thought this is why the gays make such a hoot about pride but I could be wrong.

 

[hextula]

To me masculine guys are buddies and fem guys are dates. It's not that i find masc guys distrusting or gross. Hell,i even find some masculine guys very handsome. But that's different from finding them sexy. I'm glad more people than i thought find fem guys hot. But it does sadden and kinda anger me that some have open hostility towards them. By the way i'm not fem at all. I'm not a bear but not girly either.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Meaning, I act like you would expect a heterosexual guy or homosexual Non-Queen to act in public. I act masculine, in other words.

However, I personally do not have expectations of how I think heterosexual men act. Even non-queen homosexuals, as you stated, have a variety of traits that can be expressed. Ultimately, what is considered masculine varies from culture to culture, subculture to subculture, and person to person. You may think that you are masculine, but I am sure that there are some who believe that you are feminine.

Can't say the same for me. The only thing I really had a passion for was the wrestling business, however that is obviously not really a sport. But I am starting to get more into football, now, as I said.

So, what? I know quite a few heterosexual men who would not value you more simply because you watch football. It does not make you better. Even though professional wrestling is not truly a sport, it still adheres to the same ideology of a sport.

Because I simply resent the stereotype of Gay Men being portrayed as a bunch of pansy, limp-wristed effeminate people. And when I see Gay Men who contribute to that stereotype by doing those things, it upsets me. Not to the point where I would go up to one and say anything, but it is simply one of those things where I shake my head to.

So, your problem is with the stereotype, not the people. Everyone is going to fit some portion of a stereotype at some point and time. All men are not naturally masculine extremes and all men do not want to be masculine extremes. If you have that kind of time and energy to exert on people who could probably care less about you, then it says more about you than them. In addition, I'm sure there are things that you say or do that irritate or agitate other people.

If this is something people can't control, then as I said, all someone needs to do is convince me that it isn't, by having a conversation with me. That's what I am trying to figure out and better understand.

The problem is that you are human. As long as you are human, you cannot and will not understand everything. Whether or not someone can control this type of behavior should not be a concern to you; how these particular men treat you, if you interact with them, should be your concern.

 

[Slansky]

Cliche of the day: "Different strokes for different folks." But frankly, I think a true homosexual wants a MAN! (I know I certainly do!)

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Cliche of the day: "Different strokes for different folks." But frankly, I think a true homosexual wants a MAN! (I know I certainly do!)

What's a true homosexual?

I like fem/guys but not in a dress; transvestites are a big NO NO!

Not all transvestites are feminine. There are many who are masculine, so would you like a masculine guy in a dress?

 

[inlovewithblair]

Cliche of the day: "Different strokes for different folks." But frankly, I think a true homosexual wants a MAN! (I know I certainly do!)

A man is someone with a penis. If they are queens, then so be it.

 

[LoveIsNow]

I'm about in the middle of feminine and masculine. I am usually fairly discreet, though perhaps my manners are a fraction meticulous, but I tend to express my emotions in a more feminine manner. I feel that I picked up my feminine traits from my female relatives, because they were the ones with which I most identified, and with which I felt safest, when I was younger.

Could I try to change them?

Probably, but why? Why should I go to all that work to change myself, because of what other people think? I shouldn't; I'm perfectly happy with myself. I attract men because I'm confident, thoughtful and intelligent, and I really don't think I could even get along with anyone who was so preoccupied with my effeminacy.

As for whether I like effeminate men, I think that's a ridiculous question. The common complaint is that effeminate men are bratty. Bratty come in all varieties, including men who are so preoccupied with other people's perceptions that they can't explore the feminine sides of their personality, nor can they accept that in others. I'm attracted to men who are confident and independent, not fussy people like that, feminine or masculine.