Why am i only attracted to white men?

[sum1fmhell]

I'm full chinese, and i'm only attracted to white men, which i think is really unusual. I mean I'm not even attracted to my own race, people i can most closely relate to. Is anyone else out there like this? Having an attraction to a certain race or skin color? What is your preferred ethnicity/race?

 

[Jayden]

 

[gsdx]

You've opened a kettle of fish which is opened far-to-often in this forum. Tread carefully and don't let yourself be sucked in by what you read. It is a dangerous, dangerous subject.

 

[metta]

OMG...I can't believe what they entered as the definition of it.....

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=potato+queen



http://www.zazzle.com/potato_queen_tshirt-235894472357051400


that they have a term for it......it is not unusual. i don't know why...if i had to guess, it might have a little to do a little with marketing and features that society values more. it might have to do with the environment that you grew up in. it might just be a phase.


there are many parts of chinese culture where they are overly concerned with getting too dark. look at how many chinese women that go around with umbrellas because of a fear of getting too dark. they prize being as lite as possible.

 

[metta]

^
sticky rice


it is normally done jokingly...even between asians and couples that are bi-racial. I'm sure that many find it offensive though. I don't use the terms but I'm aware of them and do not really find them offensive unless they are used in an offensive way. I'm half asian (chinese).

 

[metta]

^
oopsss...thank you for the clarification Pianist.

i'm such a bad asian...hehe

 

[hotatlboi]

this will go downhill fast.

 

[hylas]

oh well. havent posted in one of those threads in a while, so i might as well add my two cents once again.

in my opinion, its internalized racism. and no, sadly, its quite common.

im asian and mostly attracted to caucasian men myself, always have been since i was a little kid. and in my experience, there is only that much one can do about it. accepting myself and keeping my mind open has led to my preferences being less rigid. but sadly, once 'imprinted' with certain prefernces, its impossible to really change, even if we overcome the self-loathing those prefernces are rooted in. at least thats my opinion and my experience.

luckly, its not really an issue on a practical level, at least where i live. the odds of finding a partner might be a little slimmer (thats just the impression i have, i dont have any hard evidence of it), but its far from impossible to find caucasian men who are into asians.

 

[doctorsun]

I don't think it has anything to do with racism. One can't control to whom they are attracted. I'm white and I'm only attracted to other white guys. It doesn't mean I'm racist against anyone who's not white. I'm probably the least racist person you could meet.

 

[gsdx]

I don't think it has anything to do with racism. One can't control to whom they are attracted.

Indeed. Many people automatically equate 'preference' with 'racism'.

Funnily enough, it's the complete opposite for straight people. White with white is fine. White with black is racist.

Go figure.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

I'm from a Chinese background too though I grew up in Oz. I'm attracted to white guys too but also into East Asians and Latinos.

Not a big fan of dark skinned guys though not necessarily just Africans, South Asians and South East Asians.

Could be a preference in what you look for in a potential partner. I look for other things apart from skin colour.

 

[xenophile]

I think both x-cess and doctorsun are right, but there needs to be a word other than "racism" it's such a loaded and pejorative term that doesn't really fit the context here. And the default assumption in American culture is any choice having to do with "race" is automatically "racism". Language is such a powerful molder of social reality, it's frightening. One has to constantly be on guard with the subtle nuances of wording, it's understandable why most people just want to avoid the topic altogether.

There needs to be a word for the concept of "ethnic sexual preference" that just indicates your sexual sensibility without being a putdown to other races. Anyone feeling creative?

It's always so awkward to come across the phrasing in ads "whites only, sorry just a preference". I hear what they're saying but it's hard not to read the phrasing as an inference of superiority.

 

[Lefty]

As I mature I am afraid I get more and more selective. I try to convince myself

that is my mental and spiritual growth but deep inside, I know it is burgeoning

prejudice and incipient intolerance.

Anymore, I demand aged between 35 to 75. Depilation is a negative as is no

teeth. Articulation is negotiable but they musy hold to the Tenet that L.I.R .

(Lefty Is Righty) Height and weight proportionate (may not overflow my 2 seat

low slung convertible). I can not tolerate green or grey people, most blue people

or any non breathers......While not of Zion, the stigmata does not bother me as

I bear that American legacy myself. Applications being accepted.

 

[alley]

I don't think it's about someone being racist, but they have for some reason imprinted on a certain physical type. Maybe they've grown up looking at media and porn featuring Caucasian guys and that's why they are drawn more to white guys.

 

[hylas]

just to clarify, i dont think having preferneces for certain ethnicities makes one a racist. but i do think those preferences are rooted in racism.

 

[sixthson]

Having been fairly involved with asian immigrants, especially those from Viet Nam, Thailand, Cambodia (Minnesota has the largest Hmong popluation in the US) and Philippines, they do seem to have a preference for going outside thier own race and will tell you they like to date "westerners", who are their ideals. I think alot of it has to do with what they see in the media and marketing, as somone else has mentioned. Also, I think many have been oppressed and have a sense of inferiority. Whether that translates into internal racism or not, it is probably not for me to say. All I know is their inferiority has no basis in reality. I have nothing but great respect and admiration for them.

 

[G-Lexington]

Noticing you're mainly interested in one race is a preference.
Refusing to give a guy a fair shake because "I only like one race" is racism.
So sez me, anyway.

And why are you attracted to white guys? Because we're so damn sexy.

Lex

 

[Puzuzzu]

Because they are hotter.

 

[diamondstar]

Don't feel bad TC. Am mostly attracted to Hispanic and Middle Eastern men and yet am not a racist.

 

[fetaby]

It is not race season yet, we're only 3/4 through religion bashing season.