Why are older gay men always alone ?

[Daximus]

Another high quality thread from our CoC testing troll.

 

[palbert]

Because younger ones are always in groups,

 

[mikey3000]

We're not. Man I love the assumptions some people make.

 

[gsdx]

Two words: bitter queens.

Good chance they have deep psychological issues they haven't worked out yet and probably never will.

I truly hope you don't mean that. There are many reasons for older men being single. In my case, it's physical reasons. I haven't been 'boyfriend' material for several decades, even if I were physically able to get 'out there' and search for someone. And I'm not a queen, nor am I bitter about it. I accepted my fate a long, long time ago. I knew in the late 80s that the chances were very good that I would grow old alone.

I came to terms with my sexuality 30 years ago. I had 7 happy years before life kicked me in the ass and I knew my sex life and my chances of finding a life partner were all but finished. I accepted that. And I'm still not a queen and I'm still not bitter.

There are some things beyond our control in life and, in many cases, other people have more problems dealing with them than we do. We're not all psychological disasters, and it saddens me that you would even think that.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Because they aren't, but you probably are.

 

[refujiunderground]

you must be talking about the dead ones.

 

[CowboyBob]

There appears to be an awful lot of age discrimination going on. So now if you're not paired up, you're a bitter queen with "deep psychological issues".

 

[HoodedRat]

^

awww das so sad niece, i'm he-fo-u-hun

Do you mean me?

Nothing sad about it; I much prefer being single to being part of a couple.

 

[sixthson]

pursdonally, at the age I am rn, I really ain't finna be in a relashunship, i'm quite happy with my fuckbuddies and random hookups, but, I do hope and pray to the lawd and behby jebus that later on in life, that changes,

Maybe some of them played the field so long, they found themselves as middle aged and older with less options. Don't let this be you, Miss Thang.

 

[timboy]

We all have our own reasons for what we do , i dont like putting anyone into any sort of group .
just me though

 

[streetblackcock99]

Whilst I'm currently 46, I've pretty much been in relationships since I was 19 as I 've never been one for tarting my carcass around town for everyone to bounce on.

I lost my first partner (of 15 years) to heart failure, the next to cancer (after 3 years), and the third was shipped back to the States under DADT. Picking up the pieces can be an enormous emotional drain, and not something I'm prepared to have to do again in the next few years. Although I've always been surrounded by younger people, and had a couple of twinks make it clear they're more than interested, I just can't be doing with the drama that comes with most youngsters nowadays.

When I feel I want to go down that road again, I will do - probably more for companionship than anything else, but right now though, I'm more than happy being single - in fact my family worry about it more than I do.

lawd, thats so sad babe

my bussy is here for you,

anytime you want it, it's here waitin, come get it niece.

 

[sixthson]

Hmmm

Is this the sound of the authoritative Voice of Experience, or just an incredibly amusing incidence of irony?

Oops - nearly forgot
-d-

When it comes to a personality, he is still a work in progress, so don't be hard on him. Hehe, I said hardon.

 

[streetblackcock99]

Do you mean me?

Nothing sad about it; I much prefer being single to being part of a couple.

Agreed, tbh, I'm a paranoid/jealous slut, so I stay away from relationships, I own it though.

 

[bulge]

Correction: they are not always alone. I have known 2 guys who were together till 93. The other one died 100.

 

[streetblackcock99]

Why did you ask older gays to give you hope for the future, then? Sounds like you should be pretty content.

Basically sis, tbh, i'm young and rn, I mostly jus wanna hussle, finna stay on ma grind, yas ma'am I am, hir up da clubs and suck lotso' donkey lookin dick,

yes I can be jealous/paranoid like all humans but, in all seriousniss that really wouldn't stop me from commitin to someone, if they get my cunt wet

I guess I just ain't wanna be old and alone, ya know, am I explaining this good ? idk ya'll

 

[asadoyayunta]

I just realised, the majorority of men i've been with are like, 40+ and still alone

There you have it! If they're fucking about with you the chances are they're single. You're just not meeting the thousands of older guys who are settled down in relationships. Having said that, I was pretty much permanently in a series of monogamous relationships from the age of 19 to 45. Now touching 50 I am having more sex than ever before, with guys of all ages and loving it!

 

[jslvr05]

I know that this is about gay men, but I have a lesbian aunt who never seems to have relationships, and she lives alone. She's not unhappy, though-- even though I never barely see her.

 

[datnjboynva]

WOW, my condolences, Cowboy.
I could not imagine being with out my baby. He ain't perfect by no means, but he is faithfully mine and we have a mutual love and respect for one another. I have had many long term relationships; my first one, at 16years old lasted for 10 years, the next was for 6, and this last one has been going on 7 years now. We've gone through good and bad but both of us realize that it can't be "peaches and cream" all the time.
I have found that you can't make someone happy if you are not happy with yourself, FIRST. If you are happy with yourself, you can live alone. My past relationships failed either because of infidelity on their part, which I simply will not tolerate in any way, shape or form, and that was before the internet, or because of a drug or alcohol habit that I got tired of. Life can't always be a party with no growth.
Another thing that I have learned through all of this is that being alone, you don't have all of the bullshit others can bring to the table. Beginning a new relationship at a later age involves the whole dating and getting-to-know-one-another process, that I would assume can get a bit arduous. The divorce rate has sky rocketed since the internet came to be; it gave "cheating" a new meaning.

This is a fallacy. Almost all the middle age and elderly gay men I know have been paired up for decades. The reason I'm single is my companion died 4 years ago from cancer, and we were together for 20 years. We would still be together if he were still here. I know many gay couples who've been together for 20 and 30 + years. There's plenty of straight middle aged people who are still alone.

 

[FPNY]

i'm old, i'm bitter, i'm a queen, i have deep psychological problems, i have a partner, 32 years. i'm rarely alone....also, most of my group of friends have all these things and they are all partnered. so this theory don't hold water....

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

i'm old, i'm bitter, i'm a queen, i have deep psychological problems, i have a partner, 32 years. i'm rarely alone....also, most of my group of friends have all these things and they are all partnered. so this theory don't hold water....

I smoke cigarettes and i dont have lung cancer, ergo smoking doesnt cause lung cancer since i smoke and dont have it.