Why are you still single?

[screwnutty]

I'm still single because I'm from a small town and I am truly the last gay person in this town! Kindof feel like Vincent Price from "The last man on earth" or Heston in "The Omega Man!" I have never had anybody show any interest in me at all. I have liked two guys in my life when I was growing up....but both of them are straight. I also think that, me, looking like John Candy has alot to do with it too! I'm a funny, cuddly guy....but those arn't in demand right now!

Course being single isn't all doom and gloom. I can come and go as I want. I don't have to explain my actions to anybody. I have all the freedom I want....the horrible horrible freedom!

 

[kce24]

I am single at the moment and have been for five years ,after a fourteen year relationship with a man i loved , single can be fun but it can get old at times i think i prefer being with a partner its nice to share your life with someone special.

(I would rather be on my own for the right reasons than be with someone for the wrong reasons)

 

[dkonfrost]

focusing on school and getting my career established right now....no time for a serious relationship

 

[DarkNeko]

I have no idea really, maybe because I don't go out dating...

Saem here. Also, no one really shows any interest in me, and when someone does I get freaked out because I'm not used to it.

 

[Pegasus69]

I am still single because I waited too long to allow myself to be vulnerable to being hurt again after my first and only relationship of 10 years ended, and that was in 1998. Now, I have far too many issues for me to deal with, let alone another man. I now wonder if I have time enough and will be healthy enough for anyone to want to be involved with me. I am a much better man today than one year ago, but I don't think that is enough to overcome the uncertainties of the illness.

 

[theatreboi]

i'm single because....um....i come on too strong apparently? that's what someone told me recently. Not that i'm "Too gay" or anything, but i know what i want it and i let people know. if i like you, i'll flirt like mad until i get what I want or until you tell me you're not interested. The end.

 

[Croynan]

If I have trouble dealing and coping with me, why should I expect some wholesome, sensitive, carrying, humours and intelligent homosexual have to put up with me.


The Musical: "Follies" - Music and Lyrics - Stephen Sondheim

Song: "Losing My Mind"

Sally:

The sun comes up,
I chink about you.
The coffee cup,
I think about you.
I want you so,
It's like I'm losing my mind.
The morning ends,
I think about you.
I talk to friends,
I think about you.
And do they know?
It's like I'm losing my mind.
All afternoon,
Doing every little chore,
The thought of you stays bright.
Sometimes I stand
In the middle of the floor,
Not going left,
Not going right.
I dim the lights
And think about you,
Spend sleepless nights
To think about you.
You said you loved me,
Or were you just being kind?
Or am I losing my mind?
I want you so,
It's like I'm losing my mind.
Does no one know?
It's like I'm losing my mind.
All afternoon,
Doing every little chore,
The thought of you stays bright.
Sometimes I stand
In the middle of the floor,
Not going left,
Not going right.
I dim the lights
And think about you,
Spend sleepless nights
To think about you.
You said you loved me,
Or were you just being kind!
Or am I losing my mind?





eM.

 

[marcde]

I am still single as my heart is still mending from my relationship split of nearly a year and a half ago. It has knocked my confidence for six and at times I am very low on myself - I expect to be single for some time yet - serves me right for being scared of love and holding back - for not being able to love myself and believing that someone could love me.

Now I am sounding a right twat - it's probably because I'm not very fanciable aswell and ........ who cares, I'll shut up now

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

Elizabeth I once explained why she refused marriages to foreign princes stating that she was married to England itself.

I might as well be married to JUB with the amount of time I spend here.

 

[MidnightPrism]

I was looking too hard.

I stopped looking so hard and someone found me. I really hope that my current relationship continues to grow. It's still in it's infancy I think but it is special to me

 

[douseiai]

i just moved here and won't have my own apartment until the 8th so... i am just takin it easy until then... as far as why before i moved here... i was in the closer (though there was a guy but he was to shy and never asked me out)

 

[Austin40acres]

... as far as why before i moved here... i was in the closer QUOTE]

If you mean the baseball kind of "closer", I'm jealous as hell that you were in him. J/K!!!

I'm single because I value my alone time. As an introvert, it's how I re-charge to go out and face people.

A4A

 

[Centexfarmer]

There's not much point into getting into why I'm single "again." But I can say it wasn't my fault. There are a choice few on these boards who know what happened.

I remain single because no one has come along who's really floats my boat!

I don't want to be in a relationship just for that sake of being in one.

Finding a fuck-buddy has never been a problem, but I honestly would like to have more than that.

So far my choices have been:​

1. Guys who just want to be in a relationship because they apparently need someone else to "complete them; that comfort zone of knowing they don't have to be out there looking. (I've never wanted that!)
2. Guys who just want to fuck whenever the mood strikes them. More often than not they're already in relationships with other guys, just broke up, or they're emotionally unavailable. (Every now and then a gurl has needs!)

So, I let you know when I've figured out why I'm still single.

 

[grazie]

I like to think that I am nice. Unfortunately, for health (bad back) reasons, I'm afraid any kind of relationship would be very difficult. Sex, for one thing, would be extremely restrictive, and that certainly wouldn't be fair to a partner. Since I'm all but house-bound, it wouldn't be much fun for either of us.

This is so sad...I wish I could help...but all I can do is give advice & listen to what you say.....all the best..cheers

 

[sunshinesteve]

Why am I single.....?
I love anonymous casual sex and I dont think I can have an anonymous bf.
I also wouldnt like to cheat on anyone

 

[tbonez]

Painfully single.

I don't like being on my own. I think the longest I have been without a BF is about a month since I was 17.

I HATE sleeping alone. I like holding, petting and knoodling around. I Like holding hands and making out. Generally that requires a partner. I like a good steady supply of sex, what 20-something guy doesn't? I like it uninhibited, spontaneous and frequent. Short of having a BF that means being a total slut and that doesn't interest me at all...I like my sex with love and affection. Conquest is just soooo boring IMO.

All that said I've decided to try being 'single' for a while. I think the sex is going to be my downfall...already frustrated as hell at not being able to just roll over in my bed and have a fuck.

 

[jockboy01]

1) No time to date as career is sucking it all up.
2) Location... f#$%ing conservative town here (that'll change in a year)
3) Trust issues that I've never gotten over.

 

[operafan]

My partner died in 1994 and it hurt so much that I'm gun shy.

Wow! That's a lot of grief. My heart goes out to you. If you would like a boyfriend again, I hope one enters your life soon.

 

[DarkNeko]

I have no fatih or confidence in myself. I feel like a guy deserves someone better than me; like I am not good enough to be in a relationship. I need to work this out, like talk to a psychiatrist or something. I don't feel like I am good enough for someone. It makes me really sad and depressed.

 

[andyspete]

Several reasons come to mind.

1. To date, the only guys (and there's been 3) that I would consider having a relationship with were all straight and married and knew nothing of the fact that I was attracted to them.
2. I'm deeply closeted by choice (and will remain so) so I don't run in circles with people who are out thus limiting my chances of meeting someone.
3. I'm deathly afraid of intimacy yet crave it with every fiber of my being.
4. A couple of guys have tried to have a relationship with me but wanted sex more than love so I never even considered it. My heart is reserved for my dreamlover. And finally......
5. I don't think there is such a thing as a dreamlover.