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Why are you still single?

I really do not know??? Probably trying to hard.I am a good catch, nice guy, funny,attractive, already have kids, love to cook. Send your applications to elwood care of JUB HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA
 
I'm single because I can never find anyone who wants me, who will respect & love me, and not cheat on me.

I'm the kind of guy everyone wants to have sex with, but nobody wants a relationship.

*sigh*
 
I haven't ever really "tried hard" to get into a permanent loving relationship. I have certainly had at least three chances, and I was the one who wasn't ready.

Between my work (self-employed and major hours), media interests and love of travel, I've never felt that I could easily find a fair and justifiable amount of time to devote to a relationship. In fact, I haven't even found myself feeling I had the discretionary time, attention and love appropriate for living with a cat, so I've never even done that.

I enjoy my own company enough that I don't feel a void from not being in a relationship.

I'm still not entirely sure what my capacities are, regarding love. I've never had that throttle completely open before.

However, only in the past couple years, I've started to think in terms of being more open to a relationship. I wouldn't consider jumping into it, though, until I fully knew that I was prepared to go into it properly with love and respect.
 
Posed by Elwood - I really do not know??? Probably trying to hard.I am a good catch, nice guy, funny,attractive, already have kids, love to cook. Send your applications to elwood care of JUB HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA
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I recently met Elwood and will vouch for him. He is a sweetheart and any man would be lucky to have him.
 
ahotjock71 said:
I'm single because I can never find anyone who wants me, who will respect & love me, and not cheat on me.

I'm the kind of guy everyone wants to have sex with, but nobody wants a relationship.

*sigh*
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Um ... a hint: that's because of you, not everyone else.

You control whether you're attracting a steady relationship with someone who respects and loves you or the desire of everyone wanting to have sex with you.

If you're attracting what you want, that's fine; but it's smart to be aware of who's at the controls.
 
So many are saying that they are Single due to long hours at school and/or work and that they just do not have the TIME ... Keep in mind guys ; the old saying .... " All work and NO play makes John a Dull Boy " ...
Just thought I'd throw that in ...
 
Because...


Because...


Because...


Because nobody loves me!
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But seriously, I think the main reason is because I'm happier now that I've given up on the whole thing than I was when trying to find love and failing to get what I want. The fruitless chase got me down (I never was good at perservering at things that don't work the first five times I try them) and I am settling into permanent singleness.

Not that I would say no if someone were to come along and fall in love with me. It's never happened, but you never know...|
 
NickCole said:
Um ... a hint: that's because of you, not everyone else.

You control whether you're attracting a steady relationship with someone who respects and loves you or the desire of everyone wanting to have sex with you.

If you're attracting what you want, that's fine; but it's smart to be aware of who's at the controls.
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I dissagree with you. I project the image of a stable individual seeking a partner for a relationship. It's the other guys who tell me that they want to sleep with me but are not interested in a relationship. It's always, "I'm just not ready for a relationship", or "I'm only interested in being friends."

I have tried to seek out those interested in relationships, but never find anyone on the same page or meet the criteria I have, i.e. be stable, sane, caring & faithful. Apparently that's too much to ask out of most gay men.

How can you judge me and you don't even know me?
 
Career.

When you're a Guardian of the Galaxy you've got a ton of pressure. Not to mention the rigors of maintaining a secret identity! All this makes a relationship really hard to manage. ;)
 
Why am I still single?

Several reasons…

I’m a very independent person… I have no fear of being single… I’m happy being single. I’ve had a couple of relationships with guys, but I’ve never felt a need to be in a relationship. I’m not looking for a boyfriend.

There have only been three guys I wanted to have a relationship with. Oh sure, there are lots of guys who appeal to me physically or sexually, but there are very few guys who appeal to me romantically.

The guys who appeal to me are intelligent, clever, witty, romantic, confident, enthusiastic, active, somewhat athletic, kind, mature, sensitive, honest, open, good-hearted, caring…

I haven’t set my standards too high. I never sat down and made up a list of qualities I look for in a guy. I don’t look for anything, really. It’s rare that a guy with those qualities comes along, but when he does… :D :luv: \:/ :luv2:
 
My partner died in 2001 after 10 years together....we were BEST friends before we became sexual, and remained best friends while together....i still love him.

I am very comfortable and secure with myself, and being solo is not a curse to me....just my circumstance.

I see several perople saying that they are looking for a sane, stable, independent, awesome person........well I'm looking for the same.....surely there are many of us sane, stable people still around........but where?

After 10 years solo, I'm inching toward getting out and allowing myself to seek the pleasure of someone's company.....

in short, i'm still single because i haven't allowed myself to be found by anyone......what's up with that?

p.s. - I'll accept applications care of JUB, too......:wave:
 
ahotjock71 said:
I dissagree with you. I project the image of a stable individual seeking a partner for a relationship. It's the other guys who tell me that they want to sleep with me but are not interested in a relationship. It's always, "I'm just not ready for a relationship", or "I'm only interested in being friends."

I have tried to seek out those interested in relationships, but never find anyone on the same page or meet the criteria I have, i.e. be stable, sane, caring & faithful. Apparently that's too much to ask out of most gay men.

How can you judge me and you don't even know me?
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I'm not judging you.

I recognize cause and effect.

If you're capable of attracting men (some gay men are not and that's another issue) then you're in control of what you're attracting them TO.

If you're consistently hearing from the men you're attracting that they only want to have sex with you then you're using your power to attract sexual interest. (There's nothing wrong with that.) If you want, you can use that same power to attract men interested in a relationship. But you have to know what you want and how to recognize it.

Believing it's "the other guys" who determine whether you're in a string of sexual liasons or a relationship is only abandoning your own power, giving it to others.
 
I am single and I am not !
I have a bf but we live apart after having lived together for nearly 3 years.
We spend most week ends together, phone nearly daily, see each other during the week, go on holiday together but live separately. It enables each other to deal with the respective families, which don't mix, and if one wants to have a night out, he doesn't have to account for it....
Certainly not perfect but it works like that for us.
 
Moved out of the country on my last boyfriend (we knew it was inevitable); that was the second time that has happened. Still friends with both.

So . . . not in a relationship but not really _needing_ one. I'm also in transition to a new job and will probably move in closer to save gas $$$.

Once I'm settled my friends are certain I'll be dating in no time with lots of hot young guys hanging around . . . wish I had their confidence! But I rather like being single, and yes, that could change at some point. Fine. But I'm not rushing anything.

<sits wondering if it would be too late to have some tea; what would ger do? oh, yea 8')>
 
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