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why did it happen to me

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but i don't want nobody else
he was too fantastic


And therein, me thinks, lies the problem. What would he want you to do? Be upset forever or let him go and find someone else and be happy?

I'm sure he'd be so proud and happy that you carried his torch for so long, but if it was me, i'd want the other half to be happy again - why? because that's what true love does; it wants the other half to be happy, forever happy, even if it means that "I" am not the one to make it happen. I hope you know what i mean.
 
peTe...

the accident that happened took Jimmy from you, while you're still here...know that he lives on,
vibrating to a different measure behind a thin veil you can not see through.
you can not see him, so you must have faith.
He waits for the time when you can soar together again, both aware of each other.
until then, live your life to its fullest.
and when you need Jimmy, just whisper his name in your heart.... he will always be there for you

Jimmy sounds like he was the light of your life but don't let your sorrow extinguish that light ... since the accident you have had to cope not only with his loss but with your own physical and emotional recovery.... it has been a long road and yep you will have weeks like this when you say "why me".... the tough weeks get farther apart as time goes on
 
(*8*)
the hurt never goes away, and it sneaks up on you unexpected-like, i have found.

i just have this big ball of grief where i once had a valued friendship, and nothing diminishes the grief, and too many things make it worse, and people have no clue...

thanks for reminding me of all that

i'm groping in the dark too.

there's some folks much wiser than i posting here; it will eventually help (you? me?) to know others experience loss also, and can talk about it, or just listen aptly

again, but only because i'm not sitting next to you, i offer (*8*) and wish i were sitting next to you.

i have arms to hold, i need arms to hold
 
i went to visit him today

it's been so many years

and still i can't believe he's in the ground
 
Pete

(*8*) (*8*)

He is also in your heart and head.
 
PreTTy....I understand more than you know.
I totally understand and can relate to those feelings.
I feel the same way of my best friend who will have been gone 3 years in April.
And I know how painful those feelings are because they never go away.
We just have to accept that we have to deal with our loss in our own way the best we can.


I say we all have a toast today in memory of Jimmy's Birthday!
To Jimmy, someone that meant the World to PreTTy PeTe.
To Jimmy, someone that gave PreTTy PeTe love and joy.
To Jimmy, someone that is sorely missed.

So JUBBERS, please all have a toast in honor of Jimmy!
(*8*)

I have done so....

metta
 
oh no he was the love of my life
nobody can replace him

no one


PreTTy...of course it is true...no one can ever replace Jimmy...

you will never experience the same kind of love that you had for Jimmy for someone else.

but that also does not mean that you don't have enough love to give and get back from someone else. when you meet someone, I think that you will find that you can love someone else, for different reasons in different ways. There is more than one way to love someone. You have a lot of love to give and there a lot of people out there that need lovn'. You should not compare people to Jimmy...and yes, I understand that it is much easier said than done...but still not imposible. I think that you need to appreciate people for who they are.

(*8*)
 
^
I was just thinking....that's how people are able to remarry/find a new partner after their first parter passes away. I don't believe that the love they have for their original parter ever goes away. But it does not mean that they cannot love again. (*8*)
 
Sorry to hear of your loss. Your Jimmy must have been super. In time the hurt will go away . I know this may sound callus but remember Jimmy is gone and not you. Life goes on and you know that he would not want you to stop living. Keep the memories alive. It is all worth it.

Back in the early '80's, myself and 3 friends did everything together and the first AIDS epidemic started. Joe, Steve and Greg died within 18 months. I still miss them very much because of the crazy good times we had. When I need a reason to smile I think about something funny that happened and it makes me smile. Their passing also taught me to cherish the firendships that I have now because as we know in a split second a friend may be gone for ever.
 
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