Why do so many bisexual men refuse to identify as such?

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

while a lands a littlul adut boys play games a labels etc wanna learn boy ans girl ans deal wit it

rest classfied

thankyou

 

[kallipolis]

while a lands a littlul adut boys play games a labels etc wanna learn boy ans girl ans deal wit it

rest classfied

thankyou

I agree that labelling speaks little of the inner content.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

content is rounds fa eons

nice lands a call * civlization * cut da shit

thankyou

 

[kallipolis]

content is rounds fa eons

nice lands a call * civlization * cut da shit

thankyou

I agree that we come to know our fellow man by their actions never, by their words for words rarely reveal the inner man.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I agree that we come to know our fellow man by their actions never, by their words for words rarely reveal the inner man.

wot?
man a any dingo figa befor word man invent fa doodoo it why dogs gurd noses unless ya pig lookin fa truffs wot nice

planet round ya nose but no say nothin cause folk wot a can read go ooh ans then ya balls hangin gurd

thankyou

 

[kallipolis]

wot?
man a any dingo figa befor word man invent fa doodoo it why dogs gurd noses unless ya pig lookin fa truffs wot nice

planet round ya nose but no say nothin cause folk wot a can read go ooh ans then ya balls hangin gurd

thankyou

I further agree that there are those who believe that words mean more than actions can ever demonstrate....for they spend their lives revelling in words that speak little or nothing of the inner person incarcerated out of fear of revealing their real self.

Thanks for your splendid wisdom always appreciated by me for your clarity of vision.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

okay

coor

sumone read ya posts

* we furcked then *
wot luck
& tittas &

happy woteva day

 

[kallipolis]

okay

coor

sumone read ya posts

* we furcked then *
wot luck
& tittas &

happy woteva day

I'm happy that at least one person reads my posts, especially that you have confirmed that you do for which I thank you for your act of kindness.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I'm happy that at least one person reads my posts, especially that you have confirmed that you do for which I thank you for your act of kindness.

upgrade ta perosn coor
* wot person? *
it 20th century invent
& how murch? &
gurd question but ansa classfied

anyway

while da cocks figa head pussys be keepin da day long in da ways
wen on mars rememba tin opena

thankyou

 

[Kulindahr]

I hope you're kidding(and it's possible that the saccharine sarcasm just missed me), because that's another thought-line I despise.

Yes, I was trying to stir things up.

I know a doctor who puts the matter this way:

All men are bisexual. But most are attracted to only one male in a hundred billion -- and that one hasn't been born yet.

 

[Audio Tech]

I labeled myself as Bi when I first came here as well. I love both, but enjoy the PLEASURE of sex with men just a bit more. I just like sex and ALL it has to offer, and let's face it... a strap on just isn't the same. It can be fun, but no one can fuck another man like a man. And yes... I can emotionally love both, and have. As far as settling down, I will admit it puts me in a very difficult position because I'm not sure I could be happy sexually with only one gender. Emotionally, yes, sexually.... no.

In the end, openly identifying as Bi causes me more grief because even fewer people want to have anything to do with Bi guys for just those reasons. Add to that my age, being deceased in Gay years and supposed to be well married in straight years, it can get rough either way without adding the "I like both" to the mix. I really am not surprised I'm alone.

But... at the very least I truly know myself and what I like, and I'm OK with that.

 

[Ninja108]

http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2013/05/15/op-ed-human-sexuality-more-gay-and-straight
This article has some good insights on this subject.
For me,I have a bf of close to nine and a half years who basically feels the way this author does in that he doesn't care about labels and is happy with monogomy.

 

[Adrusek81]

http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2013/05/15/op-ed-human-sexuality-more-gay-and-straight
This article has some good insights on this subject.
For me,I have a bf of close to nine and a half years who basically feels the way this author does in that he doesn't care about labels and is happy with monogomy.

Aversion to labels to define sexuality = gay and bisexual people who are beset by internalized homophobia and deeply uncomfortable with their same sex attraction, and reject words which are, in their opinion, shameful and negative.

The day I meet a heterosexual person who tells me "I refuse to be called straight or heterosexual because this is an unfair imposition that limits the scope of my sexuality and doesn't reflect who I really am. Just call me sexual", I will start believing in all this crap. As long as people who are unhappy with who they are use it as a means to tacitly separate themselves from the rest of the LGBT community, I will find it an absurd game of semantics.

 

[Kulindahr]

Aversion to labels to define sexuality = gay and bisexual people who are beset by internalized homophobia and deeply uncomfortable with their same sex attraction, and reject words which are, in their opinion, shameful and negative.

The day I meet a heterosexual person who tells me "I refuse to be called straight or heterosexual because this is an unfair imposition that limits the scope of my sexuality and doesn't reflect who I really am. Just call me sexual", I will start believing in all this crap. As long as people who are unhappy with who they are use it as a means to tacitly separate themselves from the rest of the LGBT community, I will find it an absurd game of semantics.

I've already met a few guys like that. One wanted a designation other than "straight" because to him there was a difference between guys who like watching two lesbians go for it and guys who don't. To him, "heterosexual" should mean that a guy would find two gals together disgusting, because that isn't hetero. Another thought that guys who would share a gal couldn't be called straight, because it meant being naked together with another guy, which to him was disgusting.

So, your prejudices aside, this really is about getting words that convey meaning accurately.

 

[Adrusek81]

I've already met a few guys like that. One wanted a designation other than "straight" because to him there was a difference between guys who like watching two lesbians go for it and guys who don't. To him, "heterosexual" should mean that a guy would find two gals together disgusting, because that isn't hetero. Another thought that guys who would share a gal couldn't be called straight, because it meant being naked together with another guy, which to him was disgusting.

So, your prejudices aside, this really is about getting words that convey meaning accurately.

My "prejudices" are based on the perfectly valid notion that labels (or rather, adjectives), are abstract concepts that provide very general information regarding a particular aspect of the human experience, while leaving plenty of room for further elaboration. For instance, we can take the word "Christian" and see how, within Christianity, many people have widely differing beliefs and live religion in a completely different way - often even within the same community. Thus, a general term allows us to know very basic things about the people grouped by said adjective, while letting people explain the way in which they experience things.

The same happens with descriptive terms linked to sexuality - people can explain and let others understand. However, claiming to be above labels just because you are not comfortable with the judgements that certain communities (and yourself), might make when they hear certain words, is both cowardly and ridiculous.

Moreover, the men that you mention were splitting hairs, especially because what they describe are not things that most people engage in or see in their daily lives - thus, they are not part of most people's ordinary sexual experience. Stating that the wide range of variations in sexual responses to specific stimuli isolate one from the rest of a community is both inaccurate and inappropriate. These people find certain things more or less appealing, but that doesn't make them any more or less heterosexual, just as would happen to both gay and bisexual individuals.

You don't need to fit into a rigid mold in order to be something, as it's your general emotions and sexual responses place you within a category, not whether you find very specific sexual acts appealing or not.

 

[Ninja108]

I guess for me..what my bf of nine and a half years labels himself as doesn't mean much to me.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Why would someone identify as something that isn't real?

 

[Kyanimal]

Though there is "room" within the boundaries of labels, most people are not nearly that enlightened, and tend to insist on limitations that have been promoted/contrived in their own narrow minds.

For instance, the general reaction I get, when someone finds out that I'm "Gay", is that they automatically ASSume that I'm taking dick up my butt all the time!

That is the problem with Labels! There aren't many folks that don't have a knee-jerk expectation, as inaccurate/uneducated as it may be, when they attach a given term to someone else.

General categories are no more than an attempt to constrict the realities/experiences of anyone "different"!

Though I may be unique, in my own small ways, as are ALL of us, I'm not all that much "different" than Anyone else! Attempting to define Anyone with Restrictive Labels is not only Unfair, but also Uninformed! As far as I'm concerned, confining categories, of Any kind, can get Stuffed where they truly belong!

All the more reasons to ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[mikey3000]

Oh boy! How'd I miss this one. Any who...

I'm going through a bit of something at home, so my current opinion may differ slightly from in the past or in the future, but here it is...

I believe that we are all born sexual. Not homosexual or heterosexual, just sexual. I think heteros are created just as much as homosexuals are, by either what is/isn't done to/for you at a certain stage of mental development. There is no gay gene, and there is no straight gene either. And yes, I believe that sexuality is fluid and can change. It sure as hell did for me. But American society is almost bipolar in that if you aren't this, then you must be that, no in-betweens. The religious right doesn't help much (though we know lots of clergy are sucking dick behind closed doors too) with their bible thumping; and gays have had to fight for their rights tooth and nail for so long that, someone who appears to have no struggles and a foot in both worlds (bisexuals), is looked upon with resentment. So, us poor bisexuals are left in the middle, being despised by both sides. That's why I think some bisexuals don't come out of hiding.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Whenever I meet one someone claiming to be 'bi'—

— I ask them 'When was the last time you had sex? What did you do it with?