I've been going through this too with a co worker and it's working out to be very positive. The guy is 40 years old and I know that he is not naive or stupid but I had several incidents where I hugged him and said I loved him and last weekend, I kissed him on the forehead. I still don't know if he is bi or gay. He knows I think very much of him.
In April, we went to New York with my friend. Sexually, nothing happened even though we shared the same bed. But we absolutely had a great time. I hugged him and told him I loved him every morning before we headed out. And we did some serious talking as well.
I told him that I didn't think that he was naive or stupid and that he didn't know what was going on and I explained to him that when I said "I love you", I meant every word of it. I was emotional. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship yet and I told him that I understood because I want everything to be right for the two of us.
Is he gay, bi or straight? Now that is a good question since he really didn't specify one way or the other. Odds are great that he is bi. I believe he loves me as much as I love him and I know that now.
In June, I’ve noticed that a student (we work at a college) had been getting close with him and it brought out the jealousy in me that I didn’t know I had. According to the policies of the college, relationships between staff and students are discouraged. Meaning, yes you can have a relationship, but be careful. Relationships of this kind have serious consequences that I’m sure, she will take advantage of. Some of our co-workers warned him of it and wondered why since she is a dog (yuk). Nothing to brag about. But I believe she is a gold digger and the only reason why she is even with him is to get special treatment from our department that she works for.
The times I had been out with him during the Summer, everytime I hugged him and told him I loved him, he responded you too. Everyone knows how close we are to each other and they like him a lot and I do have a feeling that a few knows that it’s more than friendship between us. Let’s face it, two guys do not wear the same shirt they purchase at the fair nor do they wear the only two jackets alike.
I do know that she has had problems with the law and still does and she has gone to these online dating services, about 13, each using various screen names and having relationships with these guys. Don’t ask me how I know, I done research on her.
I did have the opportunity to tell him, I told him why and how and told him I felt towards him and the way I felt towards that student which was resentment. I believe he is just using the info I gave him in case she should cross him in anyway. She have told a friend of hers that no man is going to tell her what to do. The night I told him, we hugged and I kissed him on his chest.
This weekend, him and I are going to Florida for the week. I blew it in New York, if this is the second chance, I want to make it with him. I believe he is bi and the only reason why the slut moved in on him is the fact that he is friendly as well as naive.
