Wow, guys, so much defensiveness! The OP has pressed a hot button! But he's right. Most (not all; most) gay men have a large proportion of women friends. Why? Mostly because we don't have to put up a front when we're with them. We can be ourselves. We have similar social interests (although we share more physical interests with men--getting hard ons, blowjobs, and jacking off).
It's true that women are less likely to be homophobic but in general I find most straight men pretty dull. I pretty much only hang out with gay men and gay women and then straight girls. I wouldn't be opposed to hanging out with a straight guy, I've had straight guy friends before, but most of them are so wrapped up in maintaining their cool image that they end up acting like totally bro-ish douchebags.
BINGO! I find straight guys to be, in general, pretty dull. Not evil, not homophobic... just
dull. Why? Because we share few interests. We share few life experiences.
When I came out as a student, I found that it bettered my relationship with women. Being gay removed the sexual threat that is always there to some extent between a straight man and a straight woman.
Women relax around us, and we relax around them.
Because they are more open and understanding.
Even the most gay friendly straight guys can act very awkward when you talk about guys - nevermind sex.
Very true. They're either awkward, or get bored easily because... well, because they're not interested in men. Don't we get bored when straight guys talk about hot chicks with big boobs? Oh, we'll laugh and make jokes about the big boobs, but then it gets pretty uninteresting, doesn't it? Same thing works in reverse: straight guys just aren't interested in discussing hot guys. So, little in common there.
Hmm...hard to answer. All of my straight guys friends turned out to be gay or bi. So, I guess I wasn't hanging out the straight guys after all.
This is so true, and something I always harp on. (Sorry!) "All my friends are straight": well, then my guess is there's quiet a few closeted men there amongst them.
Just to set the record right--- I AM GAY and when I said you (gay guys) I should have said MOST gay guys ---- I rather hang out with guys because my main interest is into sports-----Girls interests are either shopping or gossip------------Suppose I'm going to get a lot of flak on that statement
Nothing wrong with a gay guy liking sports. We have several softball teams, a hockey team, and a rugby team that are all gay.
And even they often have quite a few female friends. So what? Liking sports doesn't exclude being able to like women as friends.
And the ones that try too hard to be all straight-acting, manly men are just hard to hang around with. They're trying so hard to prove how manly they are, that they're just irritating.
Just be yourself.
