Why does it seem like most gay guys are sluts?

[pancuronium]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Typical "Christian", judgmental as fuck.

Now you can whine about your persecution complex.

That's the mirror argument about your opening post and every bit as insulting. Remember you are one of those loathsome homos to someone hanging just a little higher on their cross sneering down their nose in judgement.

 

[jojo84]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

I understand what you're saying, but for me I think what it comes down to is how you perceive intimacy.

Some people place greater importance in the significance of engaging in intimate relationships with people, making them less likely to have more frequent sexual partners. This is how I personally feel.

I think you'll find people with different feelings about this on both the straight and gay side. But because guys tend to have, in my experience, a more insatiable sex drive, it would make more sense for gay men to overall be more promiscuous.

 

[KaraBulut]

Have you watched a reality show lately?

Why is it when straight guys whore it up, no one calls them a "slut"? But when a gay guy is out having fun and being the belle of the ball, he gets called a "slut"?

 

[cliffdweller]

Typical "Christian", judgmental as fuck.

Now you can whine about your persecution complex.

That's the mirror argument about your opening post and every bit as insulting. Remember you are one of those loathsome homos to someone hanging just a little higher on their cross sneering down their nose in judgement.

Pretty much my sentiments as well.

 

[palemale]

On-topic discussion - Why does it seem like most [STRIKE]gay[/STRIKE] guys are sluts?

There, I fixed it for you. Most Christian guys are sluts, too, you know. They're just on the DL about it, tapping their toes in airport men's rooms, fucking their step daughters, sisters-in-law, prostitutes, gay "massage therapists", etc.

 

[navigaytion]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

Two things:

1) Your post is absolutely correct.

2) Expect to get flamed for being absolutely correct. Truth is hard to swallow. Especially for whorey gay men.

 

[maxpowr9]

If he had said that all the guys I meet at clubs are not "relationship material" I could potentially chalk that up to "looking for love in the wrong places". Until you learn to throw preconceived notions or stereotypes about people out the window, it will be tough to get along with any person.

 

[elGeniuoso1721]

Men (Gay or Straight) are sluts.

Even science agrees.

^^^^^To the OP.......Read this. Understand this. Then, and this is the MOST IMPORTANT.......EDUCATE YOURSELF. I'm not trying to insult you, but I am telling you to do some research.

Testosterone is a hormone with many functions. One of them is to control libido (sex drive). Both men and women have testosterone in their bodies. Men have much more testosterone than women. Therefore, men have more sex drive. It's biology. It's how we were created (by means of God, nature, chance, whatever you believe in).

Do emotions also contribute to sex drive? I believe so. Even though someone may be a slut, we know nothing about their life, feelings, experiences, etc.

Also be aware of the double standards. Straight gay who is a slut = the man. Women in general who are sluts = dirty. Gay guy who is a slut = dirty.

So I will reiterate, to everyone this time, educate yourself. Ignorance is one of the reasons why we as gays are one of the most discriminated people on the planet. So don't be like the haters, rise above

 

[Willie Boy]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

Because for the most part they are. Yes there are male sluts in the straight community as well, but they usually get called out as cheaters. The thing is in the gay community there seems to be less focus on relationships than in the straight community. Its more about hook-up and instant gratification. If that's all they're looking for then fine for them, but they're missing out on the bigger picture.

But the thing is that you can't force someone to live by your code of behavior, no matter how much better you believe it to be. They just don't see it as relevant to themselves. The only way to teach show them is to live by what you believe and let them see for themselves, not try to metaphorically beat them over the head with it, that just gets their defenses up and they wont listen to anything...... But you've seen that firsthand in this thread.

 

[Screwdriver4]

Why are you attempting to shame people for having sex?

 

[NineOfClubs]

my own view on it is that sex is fun... if you're single and you like someone and they like you back and you're safe, why not enjoy yourself?

My view too.

Having fun does not = being a slut.

Life is short--enjoy more, judge less...

 

[miguelfukt]

because this day in age everyone is looking for their love so we sleep around everytime hoping to fall in love. but it never ends up like that, at least to me. i used to get fucked every week usually two times. after a few years of doing that i just got tired cuz i always felt connected to that person and was let down and hurt. i have been celibate since 06 and its hard but worth it waiting for that right person.

 

[Seasoned]

I am going to welcome you to JUB and also move this thread to Hot Topics. The Coming Out Forum is a no flame zone. Since you are judging the gay community based upon the actions of your boyfriend's friends and not writing of your process or your relationship Hot Tpics is more suitable.

There are those who treat sex lightly and there are those who do not. Most of the Christian moral code regarding sexuality is taken from the Old Testament. The New Testament message was more about having one's house in order and not worrying how someone else was living their life. True Christianity is about attracting others based upon the supposed serenity a true Christian would have. It's not about finger pointing.

People that speak of being Christian rather than identifying with a denomination seem to be more about cleaning my house rather than taking care of their own. I'm afraid that right now you fall into that category and yet there are many of your own sect who would point fingers at you no matter how pure of spirit and no matter how monogamously you live your life. Do you remember the part that says, "judge not, lest you be judged?"

 

[HoodedRat]

I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

You have my deepest sympathies.

Have you ever considered therapy?

Many people, gay, bi, and straight, have successful managed to leave that sexophobic, humanity-hating, negative religion behind and have gone on to lead enjoyable, guilt-free, joyous lives.


Meanwhile, as has been said by previous posters life is short, sex is fun and nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[curiousunistudent]

That's not just gay guys, some of my straight guy friends are MUCH worse than my gay guy friends. But hey, get what you can while you can ...

 

[Appleman34]

ALL guys are sluts.

In a straight relationship, you most likely have a horny male slut and a not-so-horny female who won't give it up.

In a gay relationship, you have two horny sluts. You do the math.

 

[healingduck]

ALL guys are sluts.

In a straight relationship, you most likely have a horny male slut and a not-so-horny female who won't give it up.

In a gay relationship, you have two horny sluts. You do the math.

This.
Straight guys are never reffered to as ''sluts'', but guys in general are sluts. We are horny people! I guess that's one of the perks of liking guys.

 

[lïlïlïlïlïlïlïlïlïlïlïlïl]

Typical "Christian", judgmental as fuck.

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[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

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