Why does it seem like most gay guys are sluts?

[Tadaa]

ALL guys are sluts.

In a straight relationship, you most likely have a horny male slut and a not-so-horny female who won't give it up.

In a gay relationship, you have two horny sluts. You do the math.

This!
My thoughts exactly.

 

[Stardreamer]

Because for the most part they are. Yes there are male sluts in the straight community as well, but they usually get called out as cheaters. The thing is in the gay community there seems to be less focus on relationships than in the straight community. Its more about hook-up and instant gratification. If that's all they're looking for then fine for them, but they're missing out on the bigger picture.

But the thing is that you can't force someone to live by your code of behavior, no matter how much better you believe it to be. They just don't see it as relevant to themselves. The only way to teach show them is to live by what you believe and let them see for themselves, not try to metaphorically beat them over the head with it, that just gets their defenses up and they wont listen to anything...... But you've seen that firsthand in this thread.

For the most part such activity is not as frowned upon in the gay community as it is in the straight community so its seen as acceptable. I keep trying to get my conservative friends to understand that when you deny gays the primary tool that society has to encourage monogamous relationships, marriage, you can't turn around and condemn them for not being monogamous. Far from being damaging to society, gay marriage would help strengthen both communities by placing a emphasis on lifelong monogamous relationships in the gay community and providing an infusion of folks who have every reason now to support and prop up the institution which is a wreck from the lack of belief in it from the straight community.

 

[barnbuddy]

Two things:

1) Your post is absolutely correct.

2) Expect to get flamed for being absolutely correct. Truth is hard to swallow. Especially for whorey gay men.

curious - have either of you watched Jersey Shore?

yeah, those str8 folk sure are role models

 

[kallipolis]

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

This is precisely what attracts many people to the idea that promiscuous sex is a thrill and worth their indulgence. Most of us have been there as part of our journey discovering who we are.

Our youth filled years are a time of deep anxiety when it seems that we are rudderless, and lacking a clear course of direction.

Through our learning experiences we eventually find our true bearings which lead us out of our confusion to where we begin to make wiser choices.

It seems is pertinent in that appearances often are deceptive, even misleading.

Judgements are best left to those who know that they are flawless.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Alright, I'm going to preface this with a little about myself so you all will know where I'm coming from. I grew up in a Christian home, went a Christian school, and still very much consider myself to be a Christian.

So I met a guy back in October of last year, and managed to keep things under wraps until January, when I came out to my friends. Since then I've been hanging out a lot with friends of the guy I met.
The thing that gets me about 90% of the people that I meet is that it seems like they have no moral compass whatsoever; like the whole 'gay' thing is just a meat market to them.

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

okay is still learnin read

but give a bone up ma ass what 90%?

 

[Sam Blum]

Nicely written, Kallipolis.

And of course, Kallipolis' name tag reminds us to revisit Plato's Cave. Keep searching Pancuronium, you'll meet many guys who are queer who don't want to sleep with a lot of people. Perhaps you've already met quite a few in your life but because you couldn't identify them by an overt sexuality, you've failed to notice that they happened to be gay.

 

[blackbeltninja]

I disagree with the notion that all guys are sluts, straight or otherwise. I know plenty of guys who are entirely monogamous and plenty who were celibate when they were single.

Many, or even most, men may have a high sex drive, but that does not equate to being a slut.

-d-

 

[jasoncrew03]

I didn't read the OPs post, just the title. I think the reason most people think gays are sluts are because guys like sex. When you put two gay guys together (who are attracted to each other) that desire is reciprocated by both sides so the sex is likely to occur. Of course, this isn't true for every gay man but I think it's the case for many.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I am the furthest thing from Christian, but I can agree with the OP. However, I am not really going to judge. If a guy chooses to sleep around quite often, then that his decision. I have my own life, he has his. Why would I put his own life down, just because he doesn't live the way I do?

Though the lack of moral among the young gay guys does seem to scare me. I am 20, so I see a lot of it. Most of the gay guys I know have severe self-esteem issues. Also, keep in mind that for most gays we start dating/hooking up at a slower pace than straight men. Finding gay men around you can be difficult. Just many barriers and boundaries for homosexuals..it kind of makes sense that once they are able to express their sexuality they do so excessively.

But I'm not going to act like I didn't enjoy myself often when I was 18...for all the reasons above. It was my first year ever doing anything with men, and I enjoyed it. Way past it now. When it comes to generalizations, men have this reputation of being sexually high that we're kind of expected to get laid pretty often. A word like 'settling down' is supposed to strike fear in our hearts. Though like I said, these are generalizations. Perhaps you are hanging out with the wrong people?

 

[nycguydowntown]

Slutty Gay st8 girl or boy anyone who exchanges body fluids at the drop of a hat---is gross to me and always has been and not something that turns me on. Nothing to do with religion---Has to do with germs.

 

[Blk_Thickness]

Because males love the feeling of when their nuts bust.

 

[jasoncrew03]

Has to do with germs.

 

[TheRamblingsOfAMadMan]

I know that logically, not all gays are sluts, however the majority of gays I have met have been sluts or slut-ish. I just think it's a real turn-off, as I find the journey is better than the destination so to speak. Just a personal opinion, people can be who they want to be.

 

[tcrawford18]

It's because we're MEN. Men need sex, way more than women, so it seems like gay guys are sluttier than str8 guys or sluttier than girls, because you're putting 2 MEN together. FACT.

This is also why it's way more common for a str8 guy to fuck another dude in the ass or let another dude give him a blowjob just to get off than it would be for a str8 girl to have sex with another girl just to have an orgasm. Girls can wait, their sex drive is low. But not guys, we have to have sex. ALL. THE. TIME.

 

[Serenx55]

Hedonism is pretty popular, but like everyone has said humans are naturally a horny social animal. This truth can also be concentrated if you're going to certain places, which are normally associated with finding someone to sleep with, like bars and clubs.
But yes, a likely logical deduction would lead me to believe that if you're in an area with a lot of sluts, then you yourself are likely highly slutty and have similar interests and that this entire post is a complex ego defense.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I know that logically, not all gays are sluts, however the majority of gays I have met have been sluts or slut-ish. I just think it's a real turn-off, as I find the journey is better than the destination so to speak. Just a personal opinion, people can be who they want to be.

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real world no give fuck opinions cause opinions just alls theys is what full of shit or do nothin or made ta fit shoes so look good etc so on

if folk internet keep make threads wipin floor with folk or sharin in da doins nice say so folk not up ta degree level cans skip da crap fa bit

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[mbamike]

It seems like all the gay guys I meet are duchebags that run around and sleep with whomever; some of them while they're in a relationship or are talking to someone. It just seems like there are never any guys that have a conscience (for lack of a better word), like myself.

It seems like all gay guys are "duchebags" because that is the company you are keeping. There are lots of gay guys on this site who have stated they prefer not to sleep around because they want to reserve sex for their special person. That is their judgement call which they have a right to make. So, you should find new friends who fit into your definition of morality.

The easiest way to do this is to connect with a Gay Christian Singles group. I found several on the Internet by using Google. Good luck to you!

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

remind a

planet population humans thangs 7000 millions goin 10

this site few hundreds what no feed ya butt fa day

so

hey

 

[Swellegant]

When a person's morality has been defined by a religion, and then that religion rejects him, his entire morality will oftentimes go with it.

That is why, I believe, you see so much hedonism in the gay community, especially among the young. They were never told why sleeping around might be bad, only that it was bad because God says so. If you then come to believe that God either doesn't exist or, if He does exist, will condemn you to Hell no matter what... then why should you follow that morality any longer? Why, indeed, should you not do the exact opposite?

Then you add to this the phenomenon of male sexuality that is not filtered through and adapted to female sexuality. Straight men who whore around are called cheaters or dogs, but mostly only by women, or men who have a more strictly structured morality, not by other men of their own peer group. If women had the same types of drives as men, if they did not have the social codes and biological imperatives regarding sexual behavior that is independent of religion, there would I think be a lot more promiscuity, not less.

So you stumbled into a nest of promiscuous men. That doesn't mean that most gay guys are just like that very small group. As you can see from the responses above, there is more going on in the entirety of the gay community than is going on in this cohort of your boyfriend's. And the reasons that they do not share your values are multifarious, with no one simple answer that you can key into.

Your choice then is to either remove yourself from this group or learn to accept its differences from you. And you really do have to consider why you believe in your own moral code: is it because it feels right, or because you were told to and never questioned it?

 

[wonderwort]

Gay men and straight men are EQUALLY slutty.

It's a proven in science that women are less "sexually receptive" than men.

Gay men have better chances of "hooking up".....because they are "hooking up" with another man.

Straight men chances of hooking up are lower .....because women , in general, are less horny than men.